"The Cost of Free: From Digital Safety to Platform Incentives" Featuring Family I.T. Guy

The Cost of Free: From Digital Safety to Platform Incentives Most parents think the problem is screen time or willpower. But what if the real issue is something else entirely? In this episode, Katie talks with Ben Gillenwater (Family IT Guy, former NSA cybersecurity expert) about why understanding platform incentives changes everything about digital wellness, parental controls, and raising digitally healthy kids. They explore: why free platforms aren't free, how AI is entering schools without parent consent, what makes early-adopter technology dangerous for kids' developing brains, and the practices that actually protect children—from code words to notification strategies to family rituals. Learn why incentives matter more than willpower, how to evaluate any platform your kid uses, and how education—not restriction—builds lasting digital health. Ben shares how he introduced his 11-year-old to AI safely, and Katie reveals the one practice that turns shame into safety. For parents, educators, and anyone raising kids in the digital age. Grounded in research. Not anti-technology. Pro-child. Topics covered: digital wellness | parental controls | screen time | platform incentives | AI in schools | online safety | kids and technology | digital health | algorithms | screen habits | childhood safety | technology habits | internet safety | dopamine | parenting | education not restriction Guest: Ben Gillenwater, Family I.T. Guy Duration: ~2 hours