Comedian, writer, and actor Tarek Ziad becomes the first Muslim man (and first queer man) to join the podcast. Like two besties at a slumber party, Salma and Tarek honestly and hilariously unravel everything their communities tell them to hide: queerness, shame, corporal punishment, disownment, religion, sexual repression, and the long, painful road toward loving yourself.Tarek shares his journey growing up Berber (Amazigh) in a strict Moroccan household in Florida: from being punished for harmless physical contact with the opposite gender, to enduring violence and religious guilt, to getting into Yale, exploring his sexuality and cutting off his parents for his own survival, to eventually being disowned after coming out.Salma opens up about calling child services on her abusive brother-in-law, losing access to her nephews, and the real reason her family cut her off (hint: it wasn’t the hijab - it was her sexuality). She also shares her father’s iconic line, “Let’s just agree the gays are going to hell,” and her equally iconic clapback.Together they explore:how repression destroys entire generationsMuslim queerness vs. white queernesswhether you must abandon culture or family to live authenticallywhat Islam actually says about sexualitythe obsession with top/bottom labelsvaginismus vs. bottoming fearindigenous Amazigh tattoo traditionsbreaking cycles of violence and shamefinding chosen family and safer communitythe privilege and danger of “coming out” in MENA contextsThis episode is a portal: painful, funny, deeply human, and radically liberating.It's a love letter to everyone raised on fear who is now trying to build a life rooted in truth. This episode is dedicated to Salma’s 17 nieces and nephews - she loves you no matter what.CREDITS: Host & Creator: Salma Hindy Executive Producer: Salma Hindy Cinematographer: Patrick Samaha Studio: 30 Irving Studios Editor: Salma Hindy Artwork: Rana Omar© The Secret Sex Lives of Muslim Women, 2025Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy