The Self-Hype Podcast

Eli reflects on his personal journey from being a self-proclaimed bachelor to embracing the idea of settling down and building a meaningful partnership. He shares the fears and vulnerabilities that kept him from committing in the past and highlights the importance of self-awareness, emotional accountability, and shedding societal pressures to create a life of fulfillment. Eli encourages listeners to embrace growth, face their own fears, and stop waiting for someone else to change, emphasizing that true transformation comes from within.   Want To Join Eli's Coaching Community? Click Here: https://selfhype.biz/innerwork All Self-Hype Listeners Get A Free 1:1 w/ Eli! (Super Limited Time)   Follow Eli And Watch Full Eps And Clips Of The Pod: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast https://x.com/SelfHypePod   00:00 Why I Stayed Single00:34 Personal Journey: From Bachelor to Husband01:45 Podcast Evolution and Self-Discovery04:57 Realizations and Growth07:50 Commitment and Monogamy11:50 Facing Fears and Embracing Vulnerability20:54 Advice for Women: Understanding Men's Journey30:06 Moving Forward with Confidence   This podcast was edited using PodShuttle, the fully-remote podcast editing and management service owned and operated by CHOBO Studios. For more info, visit podshuttle.io and follow us on Instagram to see more shows we've helped bring to life. https://www.instagram.com/chobostudios https://www.instagram.com/podshuttle   All rights reserved. ©2024 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

In Episode 35 of "The Self-Hype Podcast," Eli Vazquez sits down with Dr. Emily Jamea, a renowned sex and relationship therapist, to explore the connection between intimacy, emotional connection, and personal growth. They discuss how sexual satisfaction evolves over time, the impact of attachment styles on intimacy, and the importance of communication and vulnerability in fostering healthy relationships. Dr. Jamea introduces the concept of achieving a "flow state" during sex and offers actionable insights from her research and book, Anatomy of Desire, on cultivating deeper emotional and physical connections. The conversation emphasizes the significance of breaking taboos around intimacy and embracing discomfort to build fulfilling and sustainable relationships.   Want To Join Eli's Coaching Community? Click Here: https://selfhype.biz/innerwork All Self-Hype Listeners Get A Free 1:1 w/ Eli! (Super Limited Time)     Follow Eli And Watch Full Eps And Clips Of The Pod: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast https://x.com/SelfHypePod   00:00 Intensity Does Not Equate with Compatibility01:48 Dr. Jamia's Journey into Sex Therapy04:08 The Importance of Sexuality in Relationships07:56 Addressing Sexual Shame and Misconceptions10:50 The Impact of Social Media on Sexual Relationships14:46 Navigating Sexual Preferences in Relationships19:56 The Importance of Communication in Sexual Relationships24:41 Embracing Discomfort in Relationships25:27 The Importance of Sexual Communication26:08 Testing Sexual Chemistry Early On26:56 Balancing Sexual and Emotional Connection28:46 Exploring Personal Sexuality29:49 Sexual Misconceptions and Socialization31:29 Attachment Styles and Sexual Expression36:16 Achieving Flow State During Sex43:28 The Role of Therapy in Long-Term Satisfaction45:45 Connect with Dr. Emily!     Dr. Emily Jamea is a sex and relationship therapist based in Houston, TX. With over 15 years of experience, she has helped thousands of people create connection and cultivate passion. Her new book, Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion, is currently available everywhere books are sold. Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences including educators, health and mental health professionals, executive and corporate groups, and the general public. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. She offers online workshops as part of her mission to make her knowledge accessible to everyone. She hosts the popular Love & Libido Podcast, writes columns for Psychology Today and Healthy Women, and posts across all the social media channels. In her free time, Emily enjoys spending time with her husband and children, traveling as much as possible, and salsa dancing and painting when she gets the chance.   Find Her Book Here: https://a.co/d/0sjhvvT  https://emilyjamea.com/ https://linktr.ee/DrEmilyJamea   This podcast was edited using PodShuttle, the fully-remote podcast editing and management service owned and operated by CHOBO Studios. For more info, visit podshuttle.io and follow us on Instagram to see more shows we've helped bring to life. https://www.instagram.com/chobostudios https://www.instagram.com/podshuttle   All rights reserved. ©2024 SELF-HYPE LLC   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #sextherapy #sextherapist #relationshiptherapist

This week Eli sits down with Dr. Sarah Hensley, a social psychologist and relationship expert, to discuss attachment styles and how they influence dating dynamics. Dr. Hensley shares   Want To Work With Eli Through His Coaching Courses, 1:1 Calls And More? Click Here: https://stan.store/elivazquez   Follow Eli And Watch Full Eps And Clips Of The Pod: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   00:00 Cold Open00:30 Welcome to The Self-Hype Podcast01:19 Diving into Attachment Styles and Avoidance02:47 Dr. Hensley's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Professional Expertise04:17 Exploring Narcissism and Attachment Issues06:20 The Science Behind Attachment and Relationship Dynamics09:18 Navigating Conflict and Emotional Regulation in Relationships15:46 Strategies for Loving and Understanding Avoidant Partners27:24 When to Seek Help: Recognizing Persistent Relationship Conflicts28:47 Understanding the Trigger Cycle29:16 Building Capacity for Secure Attachment30:02 The Importance of Doing the Work30:58 Dealing with Avoidant Partners32:08 Setting Boundaries and No Contact32:59 The Impact of Loss on Avoidants36:44 Can You Get Back with Your Ex?43:47 Key Questions for Early Dating52:01 Following Dr.Hensley54:04 Final Thoughts   Dr. Sarah Hensley has a Ph.D. in Social Psychology and has been studying the science of relationships for over 15 years. She’s an expert in attachment science, which very accurately predicts relationship behavior. Attachment style predicts how people handle conflict, how they communicate in romantic relationships, and how and why they can feel triggered or upset by their partners. In addition, Dr. Hensley is an expert in the science of attraction, and she understands the deep underlying reasons why certain people are attracted to others. She has coached thousands of clients on how to find and keep healthy and happy romantic relationships. Dr. Hensley is confident in her ability to help individuals repair any relationship—even when you’ve been broken up for months, divorce has been filed, or when couples counseling has failed. Sarah’s services include Group Hybrid Coaching, One-On-One Coaching, Couples Coaching and Executive Coaching.   https://www.instagram.com/the_dating_decoder/?hl=en https://linktr.ee/thedatingdecoder   This podcast was edited using PodShuttle, the fully-remote podcast editing and management service owned and operated by CHOBO Studios. For more info, visit podshuttle.io and follow us on Instagram to see more shows we've helped bring to life. https://www.instagram.com/chobostudios https://www.instagram.com/podshuttle   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #chobostudios #selfdevelopment

In this week's episode, Eli tackles the reasons why many people keep dating the same toxic partners and emphasizes the importance of self-accountability and personal growth in the dating process. He urges listeners to examine their patterns and the love they're used to versus the love they truly need, stressing the necessity of building a fulfilling life outside of relationships. Eli discusses how understanding one's non-negotiables and embracing self-love can lead to healthier dating experiences, while also encouraging listeners to redefine their perception of safety and excitement in relationships. He wraps up by offering tools and insights to help listeners break free from negative dating cycles and find partners that align with their true selves.   This week Eli sits down with Dr. Sarah Hensley, a social psychologist and relationship expert, to discuss attachment styles and how they influence dating dynamics. Dr. Hensley shares   Want To Work With Eli Through His Coaching Courses, 1:1 Calls And More? Click Here: https://stan.store/elivazquez   Follow Eli And Watch Full Eps And Clips Of The Pod: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast     Watch this podcast right now on YouTube! https://youtu.be/YKH4NDPTvG8   00:00 Cold Open00:33 Welcome to the Self Hype Podcast00:44 Why We Keep Finding the Same Type of Partner02:37 The Importance of Self-Accountability05:26 Creating a Fulfilling Life Beyond Dating08:28 Defining Your Path and Finding the Right Partner16:26 Understanding the Love You're Used To vs. The Love You Need22:11 The Allure of the Flashy Guy22:54 Finding Value in Safety24:40 Learning from Failed Relationships26:41 Setting Non-Negotiables28:29 Navigating Awkward Dates30:57 Intentional Communication33:36 Self-Love and Accountability39:54 The Ancestral Perspective41:51 Embracing the Dating Journey43:18 Conclusion and Next Steps     This podcast was edited using PodShuttle, the fully-remote podcast editing and management service owned and operated by CHOBO Studios. For more info, visit podshuttle.io and follow us on Instagram to see more shows we've helped bring to life. https://www.instagram.com/chobostudios https://www.instagram.com/podshuttle   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #chobostudios #toxicrelationships

Eli welcomes Kim Guera, a writer, therapist, and entrepreneur known for her brand Badass Bonita and her advocacy in self-love and community empowerment. The episode delves into themes of self-discovery and breaking silence, with Kim sharing her personal journey of overcoming the imposed silence of her childhood through the power of writing and speaking out. She discusses her evolution from feeling bound by societal expectations to embracing her voice as a tool for change and healing, leading to the creation of a supportive community and her book, "Badass Bonita." This episode highlights the transformative power of self-expression and the impact of community support in personal development.   Unlock early releases, exclusive content, and the chance to ask Eli questions for potential on-air answers by joining our Patreon community! https://www.patreon.com/selfhype Want To Work With Eli And Join His Community? Click Here: https://linktr.ee/elivazquez1   Watch this podcast right now on YouTube! https://youtu.be/eVA6QlN68Gs   00:00 Cold Open00:31 This Week's Topic: Self-Discovery00:39 Guest Introduction: Kim Guera01:13 Kim's Journey: Breaking the Silence04:24 The Power of Writing and Speaking Up06:49 Creating Community: Badass Bonita09:12 The Healing Process and Vulnerability22:51 The Importance of Relationships in Healing37:44 Embracing Queerness and Self-Love42:26 Reflections on Healing and Growth47:15 Final Thoughts   Follow Eli online: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://twitter.com/SelfHypePod https://www.youtube.com/@theselfhypepodcast   Kim Guerra: Kim is a queer woman of color. She is a writer, advocate, and entrepreneur. Guerra is the creator of Badass x Bonita, a brand and movement that she considers to be a work of self-love and her love for her community. Guerra is the author of “Mariposa” and “Mija”: collections of bilingual poems, affirmations, and revolutionary love letters. Badass Bonita is for all humans who are giving themselves and their community wings through revolutionary love.   https://www.instagram.com/badassxbonita/ https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/kim-guerra/badass-bonita/9781538742433/   This podcast was edited using PodShuttle, the fully-remote podcast editing and management service owned and operated by CHOBO Studios. For more info, visit podshuttle.io and follow us on Instagram to see more shows we've helped bring to life. https://www.instagram.com/chobostudios https://www.instagram.com/podshuttle   #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #chobostudios #selfdevelopment