Where Does Your Rage Go?

Why are we taught to hide our anger? In this episode, I explore our relationship with rage and anger, emotions we are so often conditioned to repress, judge, or push into the shadows. I shares my own experiences with somatic dance and breathwork, reflecting on how unexpressed rage lives in the body. Drawing from Carl Jung’s concept of the shadow, neuroscience, somatic nervous system regulation, and the ancient wisdom of deities like Goddess Kali, this episode provides a compassionate roadmap to safely feel, process, and release your anger. In this episode, you’ll learn: The difference between feeling anger and reacting with aggression. How men and women are conditioned differently around anger. The neuroscience behind rage: What happens in the amygdala and prefrontal cortex. Quick, somatic tools to regulate your nervous system and release stored tension safely. How working with archetypes like Goddess Kali can help reframe anger as a sacred, protective fire. Timestamped Show Notes 00:00 – Welcome and introduction. Rage, anger, and societal conditioning around hiding these feelings. 00:23 – The somatic breakthrough: Realisations on somatic dance, body vs. brain conditioning, and noticing rage surface during practice. 00:58 – Experiencing visceral release: My  first profound encounter with ancestral rage during a breathwork training. 02:51 – Carl Jung and The Shadow: How repressing anger creates exhaustion and leads to explosive outbursts or passive aggression. 03:41 – Gender conditioning around anger: Why society views angry women as "crazy" while tolerating or admiring anger in men as a cover for sadness and vulnerability. 04:36 – The nervous system and danger: How past experiences and ancestral survival reflexes make us freeze or feel unsafe around other people's anger. 05:40 – Innate expression in children: What a 2-year-old’s instinctive "chicken dance" movement teaches us about grounding and releasing anger through the body. 06:40 – The neuroscience of rage: What happens inside the amygdala and prefrontal cortex during rage, and the power of Dan Siegel’s "Name It to Tame It." 07:54 – Safe somatic practices: How to ground your body and safely release rage using a wall and cushion instead of ungrounded screaming. 08:44 – Working with deities and archetypes: Reframing anger through the fierce energy of Goddess Kali to see your inner fire as sacred and protective. 10:04 – Free masterclass Announcement and final thoughts: An invitation to the upcoming free masterclass series starting October 12th and details on the 6-month Unbound program. Join my FREE workshop series, Disrupt 12th-14th October Access the FREE shame somatic meditation  Join the waitlist for my 6 month group mentorship Unbound Find out about 1:1 mentorship  You can find me on IG at https://www.instagram.com/kat_golia You can find me online at http://www.kavitagolia.com Find me on Linkedin here - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kavita-golia/