ADHD, Parenting, and the PAM Method with Justin Gillespie

This week, Megan is resting at home with her adorable new baby boy, so Amber is joined by guest co-host Justin Gillespie, also known as ADHD Therapist J! Justin is a therapist, author, and owner of The Superior Center in Michigan. In this episode, Amber and Justin dive deep into the real-world realities of living and parenting with ADHD. They unpack everything from surviving early parenthood to navigating sensory overload, handling emotional dysregulation, and shifting how we think about neurodivergence. In this episode, we cover: Why the "baby schedule" debate might be totally wrong: Justin shares his unconventional take on routines for neurodivergent parents and why standard advice didn't work for his family. Diagnosing neurodivergence in infants? A bold hypothesis about where the field of ADHD and autism diagnostics could be heading over the next two decades. The "Bite Your Tongue" trick: A surprising physical regulation technique Justin uses during high-stress parenting moments (like car seat battles) to keep motor skills steady and cool down the nervous system. The PAM Method: Justin breaks down his step-by-step framework (Pause, Affirm, Move) designed to stop rumination, curb overthinking, and help adults with ADHD take action in real time. Masking vs. "Wearing the Costume": How adopting social scripts and stepping into specific roles can actually help neurodivergent entrepreneurs and professionals thrive. Whether you're an ADHD parent trying to find your groove, a clinician, or someone wanting practical tools to navigate overthinking, this episode is packed with humor, direct advice, and fresh perspectives! Connect with Justin: Justin Gillespie is a licensed clinical therapist, entrepreneur, and mental health professional with a passion for helping people better understand themselves and the world around them. His work and interests span mental health, personal growth, culture, entertainment, and meaningful conversations about everyday life. He brings a curious, relatable, and thoughtful perspective to the topics and stories he explores. Check out Justin's Website and Instagram Connect with Us We Should Talk Podcast: Instagram Megan Walsh Instagram Website Amber Trejo Instagram Website