While I've Got You

You can know a behavior is conditioned, rooted in systems you don't agree with, and still watch yourself do it anyway. This week's episode starts on the sidewalk — a decades-old protest of not stepping aside for men who expect the space — and follows that thread through proxemics, the mechanics of over-apologizing, a bartender whose pronouns you have to actively fight your own instincts to get right, and the uncomfortable math of whether any of it is enough to matter. It isn't a resolved conv...

In this episode of While I've Got You, Gabby Turner sits with the tension of benefiting from and being harmed by the same systems, from the patriarchy to higher education to the weight of being perceived as racist. Sparked by a misattributed Ted Lasso quote that turns out to be Dumbledore's, she traces the ways privilege and oppression can live inside the same person at once, and what it actually takes to dismantle a system you also depend on.

In this episode of While I've Got You, Gabby asks whether a messy, imperfect version of allyship is still better than staying mute altogether. She digs into the blurry line between performative allyship and virtue signaling — why a regular person posting about their volunteer work gets read as fake, while someone with real influence can stay silent until it costs them nothing. She lands on a reframe that cuts through both conversations: the question was never whether people saw you do the goo...

Have you ever met someone who said something a little off and instantly clocked them as a risk to your reputation before you'd learned a single other thing about them? That's the tension sitting at the center of this episode. In Good Uninformed People, Gabby Turner gets into something that's been on her mind since a conversation on Drew Afualo's podcast The Comment Section, where Afualo and comedian Ida Osman talked about how quickly we've all defaulted to canceling instead of extending grace...

This week, Gabby is thinking through a question that started somewhere unexpected: content creation discourse. Between scrolling Substack and watching the internet's collective exhaustion with cookie-cutter content, pastel fonts, and everyone posting the same thing, she started to wonder if the fatigue went deeper than social media. If people are tired of performance online, are they tired of performing everywhere else too? Gabby traces the question through her own life — the movies and shows...