While I've Got You

Fear that once kept you safe can quietly become the reason you never start again. In “Hesitating at the Top,” Gabby opens on a playground slide, because the questions a kid asks at the top (Is the tube dark? Will I fly off the curve? How do I stop?) were never irrational. They were a small brain doing its job. Then she follows that thought into adulthood, where the same instinct can turn into the voice saying you never finish anything, so why start. She talks through the restarts behind this ...

In this episode of While I’ve Got You, Gabby Turner takes on main character energy, starting from Let Me Finish’s Substack post “Girl, Ain’t Nobody Worried About You.” She agrees that a view or a like isn’t intention, but pushes back on blaming social media for something people have always done: sorting, labeling, and filling in the gaps of every interaction. From there she holds both sides. Practicing main character energy can build real self-confidence, but that power turns dangerous when i...

I’ve never had a romantic relationship, and I’m what people call a late bloomer. That’s where this one starts. The nerves about this episode aren’t about saying it out loud. They’re about the shame that gets attached to the term. So this week I’m sitting with both sides: what I think I missed (the stepping stones, learning how to flirt, a mama telling me “we don’t let boys talk to us like that”), and what I wouldn’t trade (clarity on what I want, and a relationship with myself that’s gold pla...

You can know a behavior is conditioned, rooted in systems you don't agree with, and still watch yourself do it anyway. This week's episode starts on the sidewalk — a decades-old protest of not stepping aside for men who expect the space — and follows that thread through proxemics, the mechanics of over-apologizing, a bartender whose pronouns you have to actively fight your own instincts to get right, and the uncomfortable math of whether any of it is enough to matter. It isn't a resolved conv...

In this episode of While I've Got You, Gabby Turner sits with the tension of benefiting from and being harmed by the same systems, from the patriarchy to higher education to the weight of being perceived as racist. Sparked by a misattributed Ted Lasso quote that turns out to be Dumbledore's, she traces the ways privilege and oppression can live inside the same person at once, and what it actually takes to dismantle a system you also depend on.