I Built the Life I Wanted. Why Doesn’t It Feel Safe? Feat. Saskia Katherine

You hit the income goal, paid off the debt and built the life you dreamed of. So why does it still feel like it could all disappear? After I crashed out on Instagram asking “does it ever actually get to feel safe?”, so many of you told me I needed to talk to Saskia Katherine. Saskia is a spiritual mentor, educator and creator of The Integration Map, and she helps high-achieving women move from survival to self-trust. We talk about why milestones don’t make you feel safe, the signs you’re living in survival mode, being the responsible one in a first-gen family, wealth guilt, and why calm isn’t the goal. Saskia also leads a short guided practice live on the show so make sure you listen until the end! WE GET INTO: 00:00 Episode preview 00:47 Welcome + meet Saskia Katherine 03:01 What safety meant growing up 05:33 From education leader to inner child work 08:55 The imaginary finish line: why milestones still don't feel safe 12:08 Signs you're living in survival mode 15:32 The "responsible one" in first-gen families 18:27 Can high achievers avoid burnout? 23:12 Why knowing your patterns isn't enough 30:55 Wealth guilt, grief & building self-trust 34:37 Loneliness, growth & the clarity that comes with age 37:58 New and uncomfortable vs. not right for you 42:25 What self-trust really means 43:12 Nervous system regulation vs. self-suppression 50:06 Guided practice: "When does it ever get to feel safe?" 57:33 Janice's breakthrough moment 58:30 Where to find Saskia + free resources 1:00:30 Closing thoughts KEY TAKEAWAYS: → Reaching the milestone doesn’t automatically make you feel safe. A younger part of you may still be running the show → Survival mode looks like compulsive account checking, holding your breath at checkout, or spending money the second it lands → Being the responsible one is practiced. Every time your needs came second, you taught yourself they don’t matter → Keep the hustle. Just stop making it responsible for proving your worth → It’s not self-sabotage. It’s protection, and it responds to compassion → You can make the right choice and still grieve what you left behind → Fear doesn’t mean it’s the wrong move. Ask what that part of you needs to feel safe → Calm isn’t the goal. A healthy nervous system activates and comes back down CONNECT WITH SASKIA: Instagram: @saskia.katherine Website: saskiakatherine.com Free guided session: saskiakatherine.com/freebie TAKE THE NEXT STEP WITH YO QUIERO DINERO: 📕 Get the book, Financially Lit!: https://financiallylitbook.com 💸 Download the FREE Dinero Guide: https://courses.yoquierodineropodcast.com/ 💬 Book a Coaching Call: https://yoquierodinero.as.me/schedule/a5e9a3eb 🤝 Join the The Financially Lit Club: https://www.skool.com/financially-lit-club/about 📅 Upcoming events: https://yoquierodineropodcast.com/events/ FOLLOW YO QUIERO DINERO: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yoquierodineropodcast 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@yoquierodineropodcast 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@yoquierodineropodcast This episode of Yo Quiero Dinero was produced by Heart Centered Podcasting. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.