Nice Isn’t Kind: Hard Conversations for High Achievers

If you nod in a meeting, then say what you really think afterwards, this episode is for you. Our ingrained programming tells us we have to please everyone all the time to feel good enough, so we choose ‘nice’ to keep the peace. Unfortunately, that stores the pain up for later, and it will affect your next decision, and the one after that. In this episode with Alice Driscoll and Louise van Haarst, co-founders of The Power House and authors of Smart Conflict, we get into how to have the conversation that would actually lighten the load on us - including how to tell a colleague hard truths, and how to repair when you get it wrong. We cover: Nice vs kind - why nice often withholds the information someone needs to do well You and me versus the problem - how to stop a rota or task issue turning into you versus me The Responsibility Trap - why the conflict ends up being between an exhausted consultant and a junior doctor instead of where it belongs High support, high challenge - why a lovely, supportive leader who never challenges can become an accidental arsehole Repair - why one apology is rarely enough, and the small gestures that put most ruptures in relationships right A phrase to open a hard conversation, how to say no to the knock on the door, and permission to go back and try again This episode is for you if... You are a high achiever in a leadership role who has to have the conversation nobody else will, has to make the call someone disagrees with, and lies awake replaying a decision you had to make. You can deliver bad news to a patient or client, but you freeze when the problem is a colleague you have to see tomorrow. Hard as that is, it makes sense - but it can be different. You are not a frog. You Are Not a Frog — for GPs, hospital doctors and other high-stakes professionals who want to thrive, not just survive. Podcast: You Are Not a Frog with Dr Rachel Morris Email list: https://youarenotafrog.com/welcome/ Website: https://youarenotafrog.com/ Guests: Alice Driscoll and Louise van Haarst are co-founders of The Power House and authors of Smart Conflict: How to Have Hard Conversations at Work. Together they train leaders in how to do conflict well, high support, high challenge communication and repair. Team diagnostic tool: https://www.thepowerhouse.company/diagnostics Learn more about The Power House Company: https://www.thepowerhouse.company/ Read Smart Conflict®: https://mybook.to/SmartConflict Mentioned in this episode: 🟦 Join the How to Have Difficult Conversations at Work Masterclass ⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now