Hot Slut on a Train with Natalie Davis

Natalie Davis was a straight-and-narrow, rule-following lawyer mom who married her college boyfriend and fully expected to live happily ever after inside the white-picket-fence monogamy model. Then her husband cheated—and eventually asked whether they could start having sex with other people. What followed was messy, painful, liberating, awkward, sexy, and completely life-altering. Natalie is now the author of Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory, a radically candid memoir about surviving infidelity, dismantling everything she thought she knew about marriage, and discovering a version of herself she never knew existed. You know...like being a hot slut on a train. In this episode: Why Natalie never questioned monogamy before her husband’s affair The humiliation of being cheated on—and why she couldn’t bring herself to tell her friends How infidelity became an unexpected doorway into consensual non-monogamy The difference between choosing polyamory and being polyamorous under duress Why staying after betrayal doesn’t make someone a coward or a doormat Watching your partner put effort into dates with someone else and realizing he never dated you that way Why people are sometimes more comfortable with secret cheating than consensual non-monogamy Natalie’s first swinger party What swinging taught her about boundaries, desire, and speaking up Falling in love with another partner for the first time Coming out as polyamorous to family, coworkers, and her child Why non-monogamous people still need legal protection from discrimination The public-sex adventures that transformed a responsible lawyer mom into a hot slut on a train Roadhead, parking-garage blowjobs, sexting, roleplay, and discovering what turns you on in your forties Why consensual secrecy can deliver the thrill of cheating without the betrayal Natalie’s current liminal dating era What it’s really like living in a resident V with her husband and metamour The difference between a V and a throuple The difference between a living arrangement that feels peaceful and one filled with constant low-level tension Why relationships don’t have to last forever to have been successful And why Natalie’s story isn’t finished until she’s dead READ SAYING YES: MY ADVENTURES IN POLYAMORY: Bookshop.org: https://bookshop.org/shop/happyslut FOLLOW NATALIE DAVIS: Website: https://nataliedavisadventures.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliedavisadventures/ Medium: https://medium.com/@nataliedavisadventures Polyamory Today: https://medium.com/polyamory-today LEARN MORE ABOUT OPEN: Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy: https://www.open-love.org/ SPONSORS: Become a more skillful lover with Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro course. Get $50 off at: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Get 15% off FirmTech’s innovative sex-tech products at: https://myfirmtech.com/ --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from Shameless Care, including DoxyPEP. Save $15 at: https://shamelesscare.com/ --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com/ Samia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ Happy Slut Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ Happy Slut TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast Happy Slut YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast If this episode made you wonder what other versions of yourself might be waiting to emerge, send it to the responsible, rule-following hot slut in your life. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out.