You Are Somebody's Cup of Tea with JessJess

Pinecones, this week I'm talking to JessJess — party producer, president of Mission Control, organizer with the Bonobo Network, and the woman behind Beyond the Rainbow Events, which throws some of the most thoughtfully inclusive parties in the Bay Area. She's also been non-monogamous since high school, survived a marriage that ended in a way I wouldn't wish on anybody, and rebuilt her whole life inside a community that actually showed up for her. This conversation is about kink and parties and rope suspension, but what it's really about is what it takes to believe you're wanted exactly as you are. You don't have to be kinky, poly, or anywhere near a play party for that one to hit. In this episode: How JessJess ended up with three boyfriends and a girlfriend in high school, plus a full safer-sex negotiation at seventeen Why she and her husband said "open relationship" for years, because nobody had handed them a better word What happens when the person you've loved for twenty years becomes someone you don't recognize Her first kink party: unicorn hair and a pink strappy outfit in a room full of black and red Thuddy vs. sting-y impact play, and the scene where she discovered that her body talks The femdom party where a man volunteered to be her footstool What emotional play actually is, and how going into an insecurity on purpose taught her to feel jealousy in her body before reacting to it Why tops sometimes need aftercare too The sexy dinner party where she was the biggest person in the room and got more attention than anyone else And how patriarchy sold all of us the lie that only one kind of body gets to be wanted — a lie that has cost every single one of us something FOLLOW JESSJESS: Beyond the Rainbow Events LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/beyondtherainbowevents --> that link will take you to JessJess's events on Plura, Fetlife, and everywhere else JessJess's Personal Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dapperbetch Beyond the Rainbow Events on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/beyondtherainbowevents SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: http://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: @samia.mounts and @happyslutcast TikTok: @happyslutcast YouTube: @happyslutcast Send this one to the friend who's been quietly wondering whether she's allowed to want more than one person. And send it to the friend who's decided nobody could want her at the size she is right now. JessJess has receipts for both of them. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get $15 off any order at Shameless Care using code HAPPYSLUT or use my affiliate link: https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb