John Friia on Shyness, Shedding and Self Actualization

John Friia spent his twenties chasing the on camera career local news kept telling him to leave New York to find, until the pandemic handed him a strange kind of shortcut. Laid off from the newsroom grind and stuck inside with nowhere to go, he started walking around the city filming the history hiding in plain sight, and Here in New York was born almost by accident. In this episode of Love, Take Two, John talks about growing up shy on Long Island, always sensing he was different, and slowly becoming the extroverted, unbothered version of himself that his younger self would not even recognize. He gets into the reporting career that came before the fame, the managing director who told him he would need to leave the New York market to ever make it in New York, and the moment he realized his path forward looked nothing like the one he had been taught to expect. But the real Take Two of this conversation is not professional. After a long relationship ended, John found himself living completely alone for the first time in his life, and he talks candidly about what it took to sign a lease with no guarantor, build an apartment around only his own needs, and start dating with the strange, uncomfortable task of figuring out what he actually wants instead of what keeps the peace. He also shares the wisdom of his 103 year old great aunt, who told him never to hold a grudge, and what it has meant to finally put himself first after a lifetime of being a people pleaser. This is a conversation about the quiet, unglamorous work of becoming your own priority, and what happens when you finally stop performing for everyone else's comfort. Key Takeaways How a pandemic layoff and a habit of walking around New York turned into the Here in New York account Why he left local news instead of following the traditional path to on camera work What it meant to live completely alone for the first time at 31, after a lifetime of never being on his own The lesson his 103 year old great aunt taught him about grudges, and why he has chosen to let go instead of hold on How John is learning to put himself first after years of being a people pleaser If this episode resonated, send it to someone who is learning what it looks like to finally choose themselves, and come hang out with us on social.