How To Use Vulnerability As A Superpower w/ Author & Poet Cailin Hargreaves

If you’re currently sobbing over someone who abruptly decided to walk away, this episode is a massive, warm hug for your nervous system. Eli sits down with poet and bestselling author Cailin Hargreaves (whose viral words probably saved you at 3 AM) to talk about the brutal, unfiltered reality of sudden heartbreak. Cailin gets incredibly vulnerable about her own current separation, breaking down the literal physiological shock and trauma of experiencing an avoidant discard. They unpack why you absolutely cannot force yourself to "heal" in the middle of a storm, how childhood trauma shapes our coping mechanisms, and why your body is just trying to protect you. Tune in to learn why you need to stop aggressively rushing your healing process, how to find meaning in your absolute deepest pain, and why getting left behind is sometimes the exact catalyst you need to meet the most evolved version of yourself. About the Guest: Cailin Hargreaves is a London-based poet, digital creator, and author of the poetry collections Be the Light and Glimmers. After surviving a life-altering autoimmune diagnosis and sudden hearing loss at age 10, Cailin turned to writing as a survival tool to process her trauma and find the light in the darkness. Today, she uses her massive platform to create a safe, comforting corner of the internet for anyone navigating grief, chronic illness, and heartbreak. She is currently working on her debut memoir. Follow Cailin: @cayswords_   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice