Men’s Therapy Podcast

Why do so many men bounce off traditional therapy? What would therapy look like if it were actually built for them? In this episode of the Men's Therapy Podcast, host Mark Azoulay talks with Dr. Andrew Smiler, psychologist and author of the brand-new Clinical Work with Men: Understanding Masculinity in Psychotherapy, as well as The Masculine Self, the widely used men's studies textbook now in its seventh edition. Andrew has spent decades researching masculinity and training clinicians on how to actually work with male clients, not just adapt techniques built for someone else. The centrepiece of the conversation is Andrew's "multifaceted masculinity framework," a way of breaking masculinity down into four connected pieces so therapists (and men themselves) have something concrete to work with instead of vague, one-size-fits-all questions. From there, Mark and Andrew get into why gender training in grad school rarely actually includes men, why problem-solving therapy tends to land better with male clients than coping and validation, and why respect, not just safety, might be the missing ingredient in how men experience therapy. Connect with Dr. AndrewWebsite: https://jasonconnell.co/ Resources MentionedGet His Books: Clinical Work with Men: Understanding Masculinity in Psychotherapy, The Masculine Self (now in its seventh edition): https://www.amazon.com/dp/1597381721?lv=shuf&language=zh_TW&channelId=510&plpRedirect=mhFallbackIndividual Therapy:https://menstherapy.online/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Individual_TherapyMen’s grouphttps://menstherapy.online/mens-groups/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Mens_GroupsMTO Slackhttps://menstherapy.online/slack/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Slack_CTA&utm_campaign=MTO_SlackWebsite:https://menstherapy.online/

How do you know what type of therapy is right for you? With options like CBT, DBT, psychodynamic therapy, somatic therapy, and group therapy, finding the right starting point can feel overwhelming. In this episode of the Men's Therapy Podcast, the conversation explores how men can better understand different approaches to therapy and recognize what they actually need from the process. Some forms of therapy are highly structured and focus on building practical skills. Others focus on deeper patterns, unconscious processes, conditioning, and changing the way you experience yourself and the world. The episode also explores why therapy can sometimes feel like you're “talking in circles,” how to know whether your therapist is a good fit, why group therapy can create accountability and connection, and why many young men are struggling with identity, online isolation, dating, and male friendships. Ultimately, effective therapy isn't simply about finding the most popular approach. It's about understanding what you're struggling with and finding a therapeutic environment that helps you move forward. For more podcasts, blogs, and to get involved in the Men's Therapy Online Community, visit www.menstherapy.online. Follow us on social media: https://mtr.bio/mens-therapy-online. Resources MentionedIndividual Therapy: https://menstherapy.online/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Individual_TherapyMen’s grouphttps://menstherapy.online/mens-groups/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Mens_Groups MTO Slackhttps://menstherapy.online/slack/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Slack_CTA&utm_campaign=MTO_SlackWebsite:https://menstherapy.online/

What happens when you achieve everything you thought would make you happy and still don't feel fulfilled? In this episode of the Men's Therapy Podcast, host Mark Azoulay talks with therapist, speaker, and author Jason Connell. They talk about what he calls the “success wound”. It is the deep belief that you are not lovable, worthy, or enough unless you continue achieving. Jason works with highly successful and high-performing men, including executives, entrepreneurs, athletes, and other public-facing professionals. He explains why these men can look like they have everything together while privately struggling with loneliness, relationship problems, emotional disconnection, shame, and a hidden “secret life.” The conversation explores why traditional therapy may not always work for high-achieving men, why successful men can struggle to be vulnerable, how achievement can become a substitute for self-worth, and why money and success don't necessarily translate into happiness or emotional health. Jason also discusses childhood and developmental trauma, self-compassion, body awareness, male friendship, men's groups, and the importance of learning to connect with yourself and other people beyond your professional identity. At the heart of the conversation is a simple but uncomfortable question: What if the thing you're using to prove that you're worthy is the very thing keeping you from feeling worthy? Connect with JasonWebsite: https://jasonconnell.co/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayconnell Resources MentionedGet His Book: https://www.amazon.com/When-Success-Isnt-Enough-Empty/dp/1966372175Individual Therapy:https://menstherapy.online/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Individual_TherapyMen’s grouphttps://menstherapy.online/mens-groups/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Mens_GroupsMTO Slackhttps://menstherapy.online/slack/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Slack_CTA&utm_campaign=MTO_SlackWebsite:https://menstherapy.online/

What happens when the emotional pressure of divorce starts driving financial decisions? In this episode of the Men's Therapy Podcast, host Mark Azoulay talks with divorce coach Gabriella Martinelli about one of the most complicated parts of divorce: money. Gabriella specializes in the financial side of divorce and explains why being financially savvy does not necessarily mean understanding divorce finances. A successful business owner, physician, or someone who has managed household finances for decades can still make costly mistakes because divorce operates under a complex set of laws, rules, and processes. The conversation explores the emotional side of financial decision-making, the risks of acting out of guilt or anger, why business owners face unique challenges, and how prolonged conflict can drain both finances and emotional energy. Gabriella describes divorce as a high-stakes financial restructuring disguised as a legal event and constantly hijacked by emotions. Her approach focuses on understanding those emotions before making major financial decisions. Connect with GabriellaWebsite: https://www.everafterwealth.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabriellamartinelli-divorce-financial-strategist Resources MentionedEver After Wealth:https://everafterwealth.com/ Divorce and Money Podcast:https://www.everafterwealth.com/podcast Individual Therapy:https://menstherapy.online/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Individual_TherapyMen’s grouphttps://menstherapy.online/mens-groups/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Mens_GroupsMTO Slackhttps://menstherapy.online/slack/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Slack_CTA&utm_campaign=MTO_SlackWebsite:https://menstherapy.online/

What happens when a therapist realizes that a client can spend three years in the same chair talking about the same problems without actually changing? In this episode of the Men’s Therapy Podcast, the host reflects on his own experience as a psychotherapist and asks a difficult question: Is traditional one-on-one psychotherapy actually working for men? After seeing a client struggle with the same fears, patterns, and stories for years, he came to believe he wasn't using the right tool. His answer wasn't simply a different version of individual therapy. Instead, he began questioning the traditional psychotherapy model itself and what men actually need to grow. The episode explores why many men may respond differently to therapy, why guidance and mentorship can matter alongside emotional exploration, and why respect and authenticity are essential to the therapeutic relationship. It also makes the case for men's groups as a powerful next stage after individual therapy, providing something individual sessions can't fully replicate: real relationships, conflict, accountability, belonging, and brotherhood. Resources Mentioned: Individual Therapy https://menstherapy.online/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Individual_Therapy Men’s group https://menstherapy.online/mens-groups/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Mens_Groups MTO Slack https://menstherapy.online/slack/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Slack_CTA&utm_campaign=MTO_Slack Website: https://menstherapy.online/