From Sexless to Sensual Part 2 – What to Do When Your Partner Keeps Turning You Down

"Why does my partner keep rejecting me sexually?" "Can you rebuild a sex life after years without sex?" "Why don't I want sex anymore in my relationship?" On this episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, Dr. Cheryl Fraser shares part two of her special advanced teaching on low desire and sexless relationships, picking up right where part one left off. Cheryl dives deep into responsive desire, the kind that has to be deliberately invited rather than waited for, and walks couples through what a scheduled "sensual date" can actually look like depending on where a couple is starting from. She leads a live touch exercise, unpacks why sex so often becomes purely transactional, and shares the real stories of three couples, married for decades, who went from sexless to sensual again in their 50s, 60s, and even 70s. If you haven't heard part one yet, Cheryl recommends starting there first. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: (00:00) Recap of part one and a listener's painful question about being turned down again and again when trying to initiate intimacy (02:55) Responsive versus spontaneous desire, Rosemary Basson's research, and why spontaneous desire tends to fade in long term relationships (08:44) Why scheduling sensuality is a critical first step, the caveat about not rushing straight into sex, and book recommendations including Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are (15:23) What a scheduled "sensual date" can look like depending on where a couple is starting, including a live guided touch exercise and why touch is a birthright (23:38) A listener's honest share on how timing and vulnerability affect connection, and what to do when scheduled intimacy starts to feel dreaded or anxious (32:42) Real couple stories of reconnecting after years, and even decades, apart (35:59) Addressing the fear that scheduled sex feels transactional, plus today's Love Bite and a first look at Cheryl's upcoming course 💖REIGNITE YOUR LOVE — For Free (Limited Time) How much better would life be if your romantic partnership was great? Join Dr. Cheryl Fraser’s Reboot Your Relationship program— the science-based course to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully with your partner. ✅ 5 video lessons ✅ “Homeplay” exercises and action steps to help you rekindle intimacy ✅ Normally $197 — Yours FREE for a limited time 👉 Start My Free Course Now Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Are you and your sweetheart finally ready to join my Become Passion program? The doors open October 2026 ! click HERE to join the wait list! Check out some testimonials from real couples just like you and your partner. Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram Let's Connect! About Me Instagram Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here Facebook Page Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz