<p><strong>Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety</strong></p><p>In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses the often taboo topic of erectile dysfunction, sexual performance anxiety, and the fear of being broken with guest Shay Doran. Shay, a coach who helps men overcome these issues, shares his personal journey and insights on why ED is rarely just about the body but more about mindset. They discuss the societal pressures and beliefs that contribute to performance anxiety, the impact on relationships, and the importance of seeking help. </p><p>Shay also explores the harmful cycle of quick fixes and the cultural differences in perceptions of masculinity and sexual performance. The episode emphasizes that these challenges are normal and that men aren&#39;t alone in their struggles.</p><p>00:00 The Influence of Porn on Sex Education<br>00:36 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Today&#39;s Topic<br>00:52 Meet Shay Doran: Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety<br>01:43 Shay&#39;s Personal Journey with Performance Anxiety<br>04:24 The Root Causes of Performance Anxiety<br>06:31 The Performative Mindset and Its Impact<br>07:17 Distinguishing Between Medical and Mindset Issues<br>10:06 The Trap of Quick Fixes and Marketing Scams<br>13:10 The Importance of Seeking Help and Guidance<br>17:37 The Relational Impact of Erectile Dysfunction<br>20:31 Addressing the Elephant in the Room<br>21:11 Non-Judgmental Support and Communication<br>22:10 Working with Men on Performance Issues<br>23:19 Unique Challenges for Gay and Bi Men<br>25:43 Decoupling Masculine Identity from Sexual Performance<br>28:26 Common Aha Moments in Therapy<br>30:30 Cultural Differences in Masculinity and Performance Anxiety<br>32:01 Normalizing Sexual Performance Fluctuations<br>34:10 Impact of Porn on Sexual Performance<br>34:56 Connecting with Shay Doran<br>36:14 Beyond Sexual Performance: Living Authentically<br>38:28 Final Thoughts and Resources</p><p><strong>Connect with Shay</strong><br>Shay Doran — <a href="https://shay-doran.com">https://shay-doran.com</a><br>YouTube — <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doran">https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doran</a><br></p><p><strong>Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:</strong><br>Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the<br>Authentic AF Community | <a href="http://realmenfeel.org/group">http://realmenfeel.org/group</a><br>Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/realmenfeelshow/">@realmenfeelshow</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/theandygrant/">@theandygrant</a><br>Andy Grant | <a href="https://theandygrant.com/">https://theandygrant.com</a> for coaching, healing, and book info!<br>Real Men Feel | <a href="http://realmenfeel.org">http://</a><a href="http://realmenfeel.org">realmenfeel.org</a><br>YouTube | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/realmenfeel">https://youtube.com/realmenfeel</a></p><p>#RealMenFeel ep 386</p>