Start Small: Three Levels of Habit Change - Leo Babauta (ep. 971)
JAN 13, 202637 MIN
Start Small: Three Levels of Habit Change - Leo Babauta (ep. 971)
JAN 13, 202637 MIN
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In today’s episode we sit down with a true master of minimalism and mindful living—Leo Babauta, author of The Power of Less and creator of the wildly popular Zen Habits blog. A dad of six, a husband, and a lifelong seeker of simplicity, Leo shares his freshest insights on turning gratitude from a once‑a‑day ritual into a powerful mental habit that reshapes our emotional wiring.Together we’ll uncover:What gratitude really means when it moves from “list‑the‑things‑I’m‑thankful‑for” to a deeper awakening to life’s miracle.How to welcome tough emotions—the anger, sadness, or resentment that arise in relationships—by turning the spotlight of gratitude on the feeling itself, and on the person behind it.Three levels of habit formation: the starter habit of a two‑minute daily gratitude meditation, the challenge of replacing unhealthy habits, and the hardest—but most rewarding—shift of mental patterns that occurs multiple times a day.Practical, bite‑size tools for catching old, automatic reactions, noticing the physical cues of a stressed mind, and consciously choosing a new, grateful response.The art of “present‑moment gratitude” in everyday chores—from chin‑ups with your child to washing a single dish—so the journey becomes the reward, not just the end goal.If you’ve ever felt stuck in a loop of “getting through” rather than “being in” each moment, this conversation will give you a roadmap for rewiring those old neural pathways and cultivating a life that feels fuller, richer, and more connected—starting with just one mindful breath.Resources:Leo's website: https://leobabauta.com/Head to https://airdoctorpro.com and use promo code GRATITUDE and depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Thank you so much for listening to The Gratitude Podcast! Please rate and review us everywhere you listen to podcasts, including Spotify & Apple Podcasts.Timestamps:02:34 – Leo describes gratitude as both a reminder of everyday blessings and a deeper awakening to life’s beauty.03:09 – Gratitude can deepen learning even during hard times and painful emotions.04:23 – Using gratitude to sit with discomfort rather than avoid it.05:45 – Reference to an emotional‑intelligence expert: feeling all emotions amplifies positive ones.06:30 – Prompt: “What do you do when you’re angry after a fight?”07:10 – Leo explains his habitual reaction to his wife’s unhappiness (withdrawal, wall‑building).08:48 – Consequences of the withdrawal pattern — more unhappiness for both partners.09:20 – The “A‑test” vs. “B‑test” moment: choosing to notice the habit and try a new path.09:54 – Introducing gratitude into the moment: acknowledge the feeling, then welcome it.10:38 – Notice the physical sensations that accompany the emotion (tight chest, pain).11:15 – Ask whether you can be grateful for that feeling and what it reveals about being alive and loved.12:13 – Turn toward the other person and try to be grateful for them as they are right now.13:07 – Extend the practice: fall in love with yourself or strangers exactly as they are.14:07 – Recognize interconnectedness; see the conflict as a shared team challenge.15:07 – Realize you’re building a new habit rather than relying on old patterns.16:36 – Old neural pathways formed in childhood can become counter‑productive; need new pathways.17:49 – The easiest habit to form: a once‑daily 2‑minute meditation or gratitude practice.18:40 – Other simple physical habits (water, push‑ups, yoga, writing) as beginner‑level habits.19:08 – Level 2 habit: breaking a bad habit and replacing it with a positive one that meets the same need.20:05 – Level 3 habit: changing mental habits; unpredictable, can recur many times a day.21:13 – Use physical cues (clenched hands, sighing, walking away) to become aware of mental habits.22:22 – “Emotional habits” – how we react to gifts or achievements without gratitude.23:46 – Example: chin‑up challenge with his son; noticing the mental habit of rushing to the end.25:21 – Rushing through habits turns them into chores and leads to burnout.26:19 – Embed gratitude and presence into every habit moment, not just the end result.27:48 – Life is the collection of moments between goals, not just the milestones.29:13 – Gratitude as the “great fullness of life,” appreciating each instant fully.30:55 – Apply gratitude to mundane chores (washing dishes, cleaning) by being fully present.32:48 – Joy can be found in messy, painful, or uncomfortable moments; deepest learning occurs there.33:45 – Closing: Leo shares who he’s grateful for (loved ones, podcast listeners, all beings).Experience more abundance on georgianbenta.com/abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy