Upgrade to the Ad Free Premium Podcast Experience - https://rachelhollis.supercast.com Rachel Hollis gives a tough-love talk on self-deception—how people perform a version of their lives (especially through social media) to feel significant, but end up emptier because they avoid facing what’s real. She breaks down three common lies (performing growth instead of doing it, living in “someday,” and performing for an audience) and offers steps to get honest: a reality-check person, a calendar/bank audit, and saying the true thing out loud. Get your copy of Rachel's Book Here: Audible, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Millon, Bookshop.org, or wherever books are sold! 00:00 Scarcity Mindset & Why “Faking Abundance” Feels Empty 01:09 Meet Rachel Hollis + Why This Episode Is Tough Love 03:36 The Pattern: Performing Your Life Instead of Living It 06:10 Rachel’s Vertigo Story: When Emotions Show Up in the Body 08:55 You Can’t Fix What You Refuse to Face (Fake It Till You Make It?) 11:13 What Self-Deception Is—and Why Your Brain Does It 14:22 Sawyer, Mirrors, and the Cost of Not Seeing Reality Clearly 19:21 The Quest for Significance: Social Media, Scarcity, and “Looking Successful” 28:10 3 Types of Self-Deception (Type #1: Performing Growth vs. Real Growth) 30:05 When Self-Help Becomes a Trap: Consuming vs. Actually Growing 32:01 ‘Eat Pray Love’ Syndrome: Changing Scenery Without Changing Patterns 33:26 Real Work Isn’t Cute: The Uncomfortable, Unseen Healing Process 35:39 Self-Deception #2: Living in ‘Someday’ Instead of Facing Today 38:35 Self-Deception #3: Performing Your Life for an Audience (Social + AI) 44:07 The Way Through: Ego Deaths, Radical Honesty, and Letting Go of the Facade 46:06 Her Biggest Ego Check: Why ‘Girl, Wash Your Face’ Was Mostly Luck 50:14 3 Practical Steps to Get Real: Accountability, Audits, and Saying It Out Loud 54:37 Closing Reminder: You’re Human—Choose Truth in One Area This Week Sign up for Rachel’s weekly email: https://msrachelhollis.com/insider/ Call the podcast hotline and leave a voicemail! Call (737) 400-4626 Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RachelHollisMotivation/videos Follow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollis   To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.