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<p>You know that voice in your head that loves to tell you that you suck? Yeah, that one. The one that compares you to everyone on Instagram, tells you you’re a failure for eating cereal at 11 p.m., and insists you’ll never get your life together. Well, today, we’re calling in a professional to deal with that assh*le. Dr. Julie Smith is a clinical psychologist and viral mental health educator who’s built a massive following by actually making psychology make sense. In this episode, she breaks down how to quiet that inner critic, stop getting crushed by comparison, and reframe your self-loathing into something a little more useful—like self-respect.</p><p><br></p><p>We also dig into what it’s like to become internet famous when you’re an introvert, why emotions are not facts (even though they feel like they are), and how to stop letting social media, your parents, and your own bullsh*t beliefs define your worth. Whether you’re stuck in a shame spiral, wondering why life feels pointless, or just trying to figure out how to not hate yourself so much, this episode is for you.</p><p><br></p><p>Get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase at <a href="https://drinklmnt.com/idgaf" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://drinklmnt.com/idgaf</a></p><p><br></p><p>Use code IDGAF to get 10% your health services at <a href="https://marekhealth.com/idgaf" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://marekhealth.com/idgaf</a></p><p><br></p><p>Dr. Julie’s new book, Open When: A Companion for Life&#39;s Twists &amp; Turns: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Open-When-Companion-Lifes-Twists-ebook/dp/B0D3CB1XX6" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.amazon.com/Open-When-Companion-Lifes-Twists-ebook/dp/B0D3CB1XX6</a></p><p><br></p><p>Dr. Julie’s first book, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Why-Nobody-Told-This-Before-ebook/dp/B0983L6T32" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.amazon.com/Why-Nobody-Told-This-Before-ebook/dp/B0983L6T32</a></p><p><br></p><p>Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: <a href="https://markmanson.net/breakthrough" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://markmanson.net/breakthrough</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Follow Dr. Julie:</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/@DrJulie" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.youtube.com/@DrJulie</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drjulie" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.instagram.com/drjulie</a></p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@drjulie" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.tiktok.com/@drjulie</a></p><p><a href="https://x.com/drjuliesmith" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://x.com/drjuliesmith</a></p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrJulieSmith/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.facebook.com/DrJulieSmith/</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Follow Me:</strong></p><p><a href="https://instagram.com/markmanson/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://instagram.com/markmanson/</a></p><p><a href="https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson</a></p><p><a href="https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/</a></p><p><a href="https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/</a></p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Chapters:</strong></p><p>0:00 Introduction&#39;</p><p>01:21 Using social media to improve mental health?</p><p>04:50 How Dr. Julie stays sane</p><p>07:01 When Dr. Julie has to take her own advice</p><p>14:01 How to deal with comparing yourself to others too much</p><p>24:21 The human capacity for resilience</p><p>32:56 How to be less lonely</p><p>36:57 How to know if therapy is working</p><p>43:19 What about nihilism?</p><p>52:13 Where do most parents get it wrong?</p><p>56:46 What about when you hate yourself?</p><p><br></p><p>Theme Music: Icarus Lives by <a href="https://open.spotify.com/artist/6d24kC5fxHFOSEAmjQPPhc" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Periphery</a>, used with permission from Periphery.</p>

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast

Mark Manson

How to Stop Letting Fear Control Your Life (ft. Dr. Julie Smith)

MAR 5, 202562 MIN
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast

How to Stop Letting Fear Control Your Life (ft. Dr. Julie Smith)

MAR 5, 202562 MIN

Description

<p>You know that voice in your head that loves to tell you that you suck? Yeah, that one. The one that compares you to everyone on Instagram, tells you you’re a failure for eating cereal at 11 p.m., and insists you’ll never get your life together. Well, today, we’re calling in a professional to deal with that assh*le. Dr. Julie Smith is a clinical psychologist and viral mental health educator who’s built a massive following by actually making psychology make sense. In this episode, she breaks down how to quiet that inner critic, stop getting crushed by comparison, and reframe your self-loathing into something a little more useful—like self-respect.</p><p><br></p><p>We also dig into what it’s like to become internet famous when you’re an introvert, why emotions are not facts (even though they feel like they are), and how to stop letting social media, your parents, and your own bullsh*t beliefs define your worth. Whether you’re stuck in a shame spiral, wondering why life feels pointless, or just trying to figure out how to not hate yourself so much, this episode is for you.</p><p><br></p><p>Get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase at <a href="https://drinklmnt.com/idgaf" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://drinklmnt.com/idgaf</a></p><p><br></p><p>Use code IDGAF to get 10% your health services at <a href="https://marekhealth.com/idgaf" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://marekhealth.com/idgaf</a></p><p><br></p><p>Dr. Julie’s new book, Open When: A Companion for Life&#39;s Twists &amp; Turns: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Open-When-Companion-Lifes-Twists-ebook/dp/B0D3CB1XX6" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.amazon.com/Open-When-Companion-Lifes-Twists-ebook/dp/B0D3CB1XX6</a></p><p><br></p><p>Dr. Julie’s first book, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Why-Nobody-Told-This-Before-ebook/dp/B0983L6T32" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.amazon.com/Why-Nobody-Told-This-Before-ebook/dp/B0983L6T32</a></p><p><br></p><p>Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: <a href="https://markmanson.net/breakthrough" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://markmanson.net/breakthrough</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Follow Dr. Julie:</strong></p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/@DrJulie" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.youtube.com/@DrJulie</a></p><p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drjulie" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.instagram.com/drjulie</a></p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@drjulie" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.tiktok.com/@drjulie</a></p><p><a href="https://x.com/drjuliesmith" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://x.com/drjuliesmith</a></p><p><a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrJulieSmith/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.facebook.com/DrJulieSmith/</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Follow Me:</strong></p><p><a href="https://instagram.com/markmanson/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://instagram.com/markmanson/</a></p><p><a href="https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson</a></p><p><a href="https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/</a></p><p><a href="https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/</a></p><p><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>Chapters:</strong></p><p>0:00 Introduction&#39;</p><p>01:21 Using social media to improve mental health?</p><p>04:50 How Dr. Julie stays sane</p><p>07:01 When Dr. Julie has to take her own advice</p><p>14:01 How to deal with comparing yourself to others too much</p><p>24:21 The human capacity for resilience</p><p>32:56 How to be less lonely</p><p>36:57 How to know if therapy is working</p><p>43:19 What about nihilism?</p><p>52:13 Where do most parents get it wrong?</p><p>56:46 What about when you hate yourself?</p><p><br></p><p>Theme Music: Icarus Lives by <a href="https://open.spotify.com/artist/6d24kC5fxHFOSEAmjQPPhc" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Periphery</a>, used with permission from Periphery.</p>