Shades of Strong® Podcast | From “Strong Black Woman” to Supported Black Woman
Shades of Strong® Podcast | From “Strong Black Woman” to Supported Black Woman

Shades of Strong® Podcast | From “Strong Black Woman” to Supported Black Woman

Shirl | Shaddes of Strong

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Shades of Strong® is the podcast for Black women ready to trade the weight of “Strong Black Woman” for something better: real, lasting support. Through honest conversation, storytelling, and the Support Languages™ framework, host Shirl explores what strength has cost Black women, what support actually looks like in real life, and how we can stop carrying everything alone. Each episode offers language for what many of us have been feeling, tools for asking for the support we deserve, and space to finally exhale. You have been strong long enough. This is your place to reclaim strength without struggle.

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When “I Got It” Was No Longer True with Tasha Randle
APR 7, 2026
When “I Got It” Was No Longer True with Tasha Randle
<p><iframe src="https://player.blubrry.com/getnakedlive/latest/#mode-Light&#38;border=000000&#38;progress-000000" width="100%" height="165px" frameborder="0"></iframe></p> <p data-start="142" data-end="279"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Being the strong one as a new mother can look like holding everything together on the outside, even when you’re quietly running on empty.</span></p> <p data-start="281" data-end="467"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">This episode is story three of the 26 Black Women Storytelling Series, where Black women share what being strong has cost them, and the kind of support that could have made a difference.</span></p> <p data-start="469" data-end="679"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">In this conversation, Tasha Randle shares what it looked like to return to work after having her second child while trying to manage breastfeeding, a demanding role, and the day-to-day responsibilities of home.</span></p> <p data-start="681" data-end="734"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Tasha has always been the one who figures things out.</span></p> <p data-start="736" data-end="831"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">But in this season, that strength started to cost her in ways she didn’t immediately recognize.</span></p> <p data-start="833" data-end="1117"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">From the physical signs showing up in her body, to the pressure of always being “on” at work, to the moment her husband said, “you always figure it out,” this conversation explores what it means to carry so much that even the people closest to you don’t realize how heavy it’s become.</span></p> <p data-start="1119" data-end="1329"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">We talk about invisible exhaustion, the difference between what feels urgent and what actually matters, and the quiet ways many Black women learn to keep going even when something inside is asking them to stop.</span></p> <p data-start="1331" data-end="1449"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">This episode is also a reminder that just because you can carry it doesn’t mean you were ever meant to carry it alone.</span></p> <p data-start="1451" data-end="1527"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">And sometimes the truth doesn’t come out until you can no longer hold it in.</span></p> <p data-start="1529" data-end="1692"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Tasha’s story reflects a deep need for Being Heard – the kind of support that listens fully, without minimizing, dismissing, or rushing to fix what’s being shared.</span></p> <p data-start="1694" data-end="1839"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">If you’ve ever found yourself holding everything together while feeling like you were coming undone inside, this conversation will stay with you.</span></p> <p data-start="1180" data-end="1351"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">If you’re starting to recognize that you’ve been carrying more than you should,e, the Support Languages assessment can help you begin to put language to the kind of support you need.: <a href="https://shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages/"> shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages</a>.</span></p> <hr /> <p><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong>About Tasha Randle</strong></span></p> <p data-start="306" data-end="496"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Before the work she does now, Tasha Randle spent 15 years in corporate marketing, leading major brands and helping drive billions in revenue for companies like Procter &#38; Gamble and Hallmark.</span></p> <p data-start="498" data-end="649"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Today, she works with entrepreneurs who are doing all the right things, putting in long hours, and still not seeing the results they know are possible.</span></p> <p data-start="651" data-end="847"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Tasha brings a grounded, practical approach to helping people understand what’s actually holding their business back, without adding more pressure or telling them to do more than they already are.</span></p> <p data-start="849" data-end="989"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Her work is rooted in helping people slow down, look at what’s really going on, and make the kind of changes that create sustainable growth.</span></p> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Discover Your Revenue Lock: Are you doing all the &#8220;right&#8221; things, but your revenue isn’t growing? Find out exactly which of your business mechanics is jammed by taking Tasha’s free, 5-minute diagnostic: <a href="https://828leadershipgroup.com/revenue-lock" target="_blank" rel="noopener" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://828leadershipgroup.com/revenue-lock&#38;source=gmail&#38;ust=1775347642695000&#38;usg=AOvVaw15MAOfR7SdWxTr7MvHDr1-">https://828leadershipgroup.<wbr />com/revenue-lock</a></span></p> <hr /> <p data-start="1014" data-end="1223"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Connect with Tasha Randle<br /> </strong> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thetasharandle/">Instagram</a> &#124; <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetasharandle">LinkedIn</a> &#124; <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@thetasharandle">YouTube</a> &#124; <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/discover/tasha-randle?is_from_webapp=1&#38;sender_device=pc">Tiktok</a></span><br /> </span></p> <hr /> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong data-start="2044" data-end="2071">About Shades of Strong®</strong></span><br data-start="2071" data-end="2074" /><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Shades of Strong® is a space where Black women come to breathe, reflect, and reclaim strength without the struggle. Support Pauses are short, soulful reminders that you don’t have to carry it all alone. New episodes drop every weekday.</span></p> <hr /> <h3><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Resources to Support You:</strong></span></h3> <ul> <li><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong><a href="https://forms.gle/VsfFMjNjMt6eVLJp7"><span style="color: #ff7300;">Black Women Storytelling Series</span></a></strong></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><a href="https://shadesofstrong.com/support-sessions/"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;">Schedule a 1:1 Support Session</span></strong></span></a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #ff7300; font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="color: #ff7300;"><strong><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.myflodesk.com/supportlanguageguide">Get the Guide: &#8220;You Know Your Support Language™—Now What?&#8221;</a></strong></span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages/" rel="noopener"><strong>Take the Support Language™ Quiz</strong>. </a></span><span style="color: #000000;">and learn how you <em data-start="834" data-end="844">actually</em> receive support best.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.myflodesk.com/theporch">Get Support Right in Your Inbox</a>: </span></strong><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Gentle words, real-life reflection, and soft reminders </span><span style="font-size: 12pt;">every week  </span></span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong><span style="font-size: 12pt; color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sistahs-connect-radio/id6758016687">Download Sistah&#8217;s Connect Radio in the Apple Store</a></span></strong></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.live365.sistahsconnectradio&#38;hl=en_US">Download Sistah&#8217;s Connect Radion in Google Play</a></span></strong></span></li> </ul> <hr /> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Let’s Stay Connected:</span></strong></span></p> <ul> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Subscribe to <em data-start="1763" data-end="1781">Shades of Strong</em> on Apple Podcasts or your favorite platform</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"> Share this episode with a sista who’s tired of being the strong one</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Leave a review if the episode spoke to your spirit — it helps more Black women find this space</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Submit your questions to [email protected]</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Follow Shades of Strong on <strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://www.instagram.com/shadesofstrong/">Instagram</a> </span></strong>for daily reflections on what it means to be suppoted</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.com/">www.shadesofstrong.com</a></span></strong></span></li> </ul> <div class="xdj266r x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs x126k92a"> <div dir="auto"> <hr /> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><em>Shirl Hubbard is the creator of Support Languages™ and host of Shades of Strong® — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black Woman to Supported Black Woman™ through language, rest, and real support.</em></span></p> <hr /> </div> </div>
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Being the Strong One in Rooms Not Built for Me with Cynthia Strickland
APR 6, 2026
Being the Strong One in Rooms Not Built for Me with Cynthia Strickland
<p><iframe src="https://player.blubrry.com/getnakedlive/latest/#mode-Light&#38;border=000000&#38;progress-000000" width="100%" height="165px" frameborder="0"></iframe></p> <h3 data-start="306" data-end="458"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Being the strong one in rooms that were never built for you often comes at a cost, especially when you’ve learned to keep going no matter what it takes.</span></h3> <p data-start="460" data-end="644"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">This episode is story two of the 26 Black Women Storytelling Series, where Black women share what being strong has cost them, and the kind of support that could have made a difference.</span></p> <p data-start="646" data-end="794"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">In this conversation, Cynthia “Cyn” Strickland shares what it cost to be the one holding it all together in spaces where she was often the only one who looked like her.</span></p> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">For Cynthia, being the strong one in rooms not built for her wasn’t just about work, it shaped how she showed up in every part of her life.</span></p> <p data-start="796" data-end="980"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Cynthia has spent decades building a career across technology, consulting, and leadership, showing up, delivering, and proving herself in rooms that were not designed with her in mind.</span></p> <p data-start="982" data-end="1132"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">But behind the success was a pattern of pushing through, compartmentalizing, and moving on without ever stopping to process what she had been through.</span></p> <p data-start="1134" data-end="1412"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">From navigating serious health moments alone, to having her work taken and handed to someone else, to realizing she was being valued for what she could produce but not seen as a full person, this conversation explores what it means to lose your voice while appearing successful.</span></p> <p data-start="1414" data-end="1523"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">We talk about workplace pressure, identity, and the emotional cost of always being the one who can handle it. This is what being the strong one in rooms not built for you can look like when it goes unspoken for too long.</span></p> <p data-start="1525" data-end="1671"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">This episode is also a reminder that just because you’ve learned how to navigate hard spaces doesn’t mean you were ever meant to carry them alone.</span></p> <p data-start="1673" data-end="1763"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">And sometimes the real shift begins when you allow yourself to be seen beyond what you do.</span></p> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Cynthia’s story reflects a deep need for Mindful Care – the kind of support that checks in, follows up, and creates space for you to be honest about what’s really going on.</span></p> <p data-start="1939" data-end="2097"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">If you’ve ever felt like you had to prove yourself in every room, or like your value was tied to what you could produce, this conversation will stay with you.</span></p> <p data-start="1180" data-end="1351"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">If you found yourself listening and thinking, “this is me,” but you’re not sure what support would even look like, the Support Languages™ assessment can help you start to put language to that: <a href="https://shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages/"> shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages</a>.</span></p> <hr /> <p><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong>About Cynthia Strickland</strong></span></p> <p data-start="270" data-end="490"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Cynthia “Cyn” Strickland is a writer, strategist, and entrepreneur who works with high-achieving professionals, especially Black women and LGBTQ+ leaders, who are starting to question the lives and careers they’ve built.</span></p> <p data-start="492" data-end="661"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Before this chapter of her life, Cynthia spent years navigating spaces where she was often the only one who looked like her, building a career across technology, consulting, and leadership.</span></p> <p data-start="663" data-end="756"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Over time, she began to notice what constantly holding everything together was asking of her.</span></p> <p data-start="758" data-end="999"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">In 2024, after years of monitoring, biopsies, and a lumpectomy, Cynthia underwent a double mastectomy followed by radiation treatment. That experience shifted how she thinks about time, work, and what it really means to take care of herself.</span></p> <p data-start="1001" data-end="1198"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Now, through her writing and the work she does with others, Cynthia creates space for people to rethink success, tell the truth about what they’ve been carrying, and choose a different way forward.</span></p> <hr /> <p data-start="1014" data-end="1223"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Connect with Cynthia Strickland<br /> </strong> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/cstrick9/">Instagram</a> &#124; <a href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/cynthia-m-strickland">LinkedIn</a> &#124; <a href="https://stricklycyn.substack.com/">Substack</a></span><br /> </span></p> <hr /> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong data-start="2044" data-end="2071">About Shades of Strong®</strong></span><br data-start="2071" data-end="2074" /><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Shades of Strong® is a space where Black women come to breathe, reflect, and reclaim strength without the struggle. Support Pauses are short, soulful reminders that you don’t have to carry it all alone. New episodes drop every weekday.</span></p> <hr /> <h3><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Resources to Support You:</strong></span></h3> <ul> <li><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong><a href="https://forms.gle/VsfFMjNjMt6eVLJp7"><span style="color: #ff7300;">Black Women Storytelling Series</span></a></strong></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><a href="https://shadesofstrong.com/support-sessions/"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;">Schedule a 1:1 Support Session</span></strong></span></a></span></li> <li><span style="color: #ff7300; font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="color: #ff7300;"><strong><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.myflodesk.com/supportlanguageguide">Get the Guide: &#8220;You Know Your Support Language™—Now What?&#8221;</a></strong></span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages/" rel="noopener"><strong>Take the Support Language™ Quiz</strong>. </a></span><span style="color: #000000;">and learn how you <em data-start="834" data-end="844">actually</em> receive support best.</span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.myflodesk.com/theporch">Get Support Right in Your Inbox</a>: </span></strong><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Gentle words, real-life reflection, and soft reminders </span><span style="font-size: 12pt;">every week  </span></span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong><span style="font-size: 12pt; color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sistahs-connect-radio/id6758016687">Download Sistah&#8217;s Connect Radio in the Apple Store</a></span></strong></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.live365.sistahsconnectradio&#38;hl=en_US">Download Sistah&#8217;s Connect Radion in Google Play</a></span></strong></span></li> </ul> <hr /> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Let’s Stay Connected:</span></strong></span></p> <ul> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Subscribe to <em data-start="1763" data-end="1781">Shades of Strong</em> on Apple Podcasts or your favorite platform</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"> Share this episode with a sista who’s tired of being the strong one</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Leave a review if the episode spoke to your spirit — it helps more Black women find this space</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Submit your questions to [email protected]</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Follow Shades of Strong on <strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://www.instagram.com/shadesofstrong/">Instagram</a> </span></strong>for daily reflections on what it means to be suppoted</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.com/">www.shadesofstrong.com</a></span></strong></span></li> </ul> <div class="xdj266r x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs x126k92a"> <div dir="auto"> <hr /> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><em>Shirl Hubbard is the creator of Support Languages™ and host of Shades of Strong® — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black Woman to Supported Black Woman™ through language, rest, and real support.</em></span></p> <hr /> </div> </div>
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When My Body Said No | Chronic Pain in Black Women with Fawn Walker Montgomery
APR 5, 2026
When My Body Said No | Chronic Pain in Black Women with Fawn Walker Montgomery
<p><iframe src="https://player.blubrry.com/getnakedlive/latest/#mode-Light&#38;border=000000&#38;progress-000000" width="100%" height="165px" frameborder="0"></iframe></p> <h3 data-start="1022" data-end="1171"><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">Chronic pain in Black women is often dismissed, misunderstood, or minimized, even when the body has been signaling for years that something is wrong.</span></strong></h3> <p data-start="1173" data-end="1343"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">This episode is part of the <strong><em>26 Black Women Storytelling Series</em></strong>, where Black women share what being strong has cost them (including how chronic pain in Black women is often ignored or misunderstood), and the kind of support that could have made a difference. </span></p> <p data-start="1173" data-end="1343"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">In this conversation, Fawn Walker Montgomery shares what it cost to keep pushing through pain and what happened when her body finally said no.</span></p> <p data-start="1369" data-end="1496"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Fawn has spent most of her life showing up for others as a community organizer, advocate, and leader in the fight for justice.</span></p> <p data-start="1498" data-end="1552"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">But behind the work was a body that was breaking down.</span></p> <p data-start="1554" data-end="1829"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">From being dismissed in medical spaces, to living with undiagnosed endometriosis, to becoming what she describes as “indispensable and invisible at the same time”, this conversation explores the real impact of chronic pain in Black women and what it means to not be believed.</span></p> <p data-start="1831" data-end="2003"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">We talk about burnout, self-advocacy, and the moment she realized that the relationships around her were often tied to what she could give, not how she was being supported.</span></p> <p data-start="2005" data-end="2119"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">This episode is also a reminder that your body is always communicating even when you’ve been taught to ignore it.</span></p> <p data-start="2121" data-end="2179"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">And sometimes listening is the first step toward healing.</span></p> <p data-start="2240" data-end="2400"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Fawn’s story also reflects a deep need for Emotional Safety – the kind of support that allows you to be believed, held, and heard without having to fight for it.</span></p> <p data-start="1012" data-end="1178"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">If you’ve ever felt like your body was trying to tell you something,  or like you’ve had to push through pain just to keep going, this conversation will stay with you.</span></p> <p data-start="1180" data-end="1351"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">And if you’ve ever felt like you needed support but couldn’t quite name what that looks like for you, you can take the Support Languages™ assessment at <a href="https://shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages/">shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages</a>.</span></p> <hr /> <p><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">About Fawn Walker Montgomery</span></strong></span></p> <p data-start="242" data-end="433"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Fawn Walker Montgomery is a community leader, organizer, and advocate who has spent years showing up for her people – fighting for justice, building, leading, and carrying a lot along the way.</span></p> <p data-start="435" data-end="728"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">She’s served as a councilwoman in McKeesport, made history as the first Black woman to run for a State seat in the Mon Valley without a major party endorsement, and continues her work through <a href="https://www.fawnwalker.net/">Fawn Walker Montgomery Consulting</a> and as the CEO and Co-Founder of <a href="https://www.takeactionadvocacygroup.org/">Take Action Advocacy Group</a> (TAAG).</span></p> <p data-start="730" data-end="820"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">But behind all of that work is a woman who has had to learn how to listen to her own body.</span></p> <p data-start="822" data-end="1012"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">After years of pushing through, Fawn now speaks openly about her experience with endometriosis… sharing what it looks like to care for yourself while still being committed to your community.</span></p> <p data-start="1014" data-end="1223"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">She is the author of <em data-start="1035" data-end="1123">Healing In The Fight: A Black Woman’s Journey With Endometriosis and Radical Self-Care –</em> a reflection of both the work she’s done in the world and the work she’s had to do within herself. <strong><em data-start="1035" data-end="1123">Healing In The Fight is </em>available wherever books are sold.</strong><br /> </span></p> <hr /> <p data-start="1014" data-end="1223"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Connect with Fawn Walker Montgomery:<br /> </strong><a href="https://www.facebook.com/vfawn.walkermontgomery">Facebook</a> &#124; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/fawn_montgomery/">Instagram</a> &#124; LinkedIn &#124; Substack</span><br /> </span></p> <hr /> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Come back every weekday for a new Support Pause — short, soul-soothing reflections made just for you.</span></p> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong data-start="2044" data-end="2071">About Shades of Strong®</strong></span><br data-start="2071" data-end="2074" /><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Shades of Strong® is a space where Black women come to breathe, reflect, and reclaim strength without the struggle. Support Pauses are short, soulful reminders that you don’t have to carry it all alone. New episodes drop every weekday.</span></p> <hr /> <h3><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Resources to Support You:</strong></span></h3> <ul> <li><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong><a href="https://forms.gle/VsfFMjNjMt6eVLJp7"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; color: #ff7300;">Black Women Storytelling Series</span></a></strong></span></li> <li><a href="https://shadesofstrong.com/support-sessions/"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;">Schedule a 1:1 Support Session</span></strong></span></a></li> <li><span style="color: #ff7300;"><span style="color: #ff7300;"><strong><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.myflodesk.com/supportlanguageguide"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Get the Guide: &#8220;You Know Your Support Language™—Now What?&#8221;</span></a></strong></span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages/" rel="noopener"><strong>Take the Support Language™ Quiz</strong>. </a></span><span style="color: #000000;">and learn how you <em data-start="834" data-end="844">actually</em> receive support best.</span></span></span></li> <li><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.myflodesk.com/theporch">Get Support Right in Your Inbox</a>: </span></strong><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">Gentle words, real-life reflection, and soft reminders </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">every week  </span></span></li> <li><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt; color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sistahs-connect-radio/id6758016687">Download Sistah&#8217;s Connect Radio in the Apple Store</a></span></strong></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.live365.sistahsconnectradio&#38;hl=en_US">Download Sistah&#8217;s Connect Radion in Google Play</a></span></strong></span></li> </ul> <hr /> <p><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">Let’s Stay Connected:</span></strong></p> <ul> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Subscribe to <em data-start="1763" data-end="1781">Shades of Strong</em> on Apple Podcasts or your favorite platform</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"> Share this episode with a sista who’s tired of being the strong one</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Leave a review if the episode spoke to your spirit — it helps more Black women find this space</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Submit your questions to [email protected]</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Follow Shades of Strong on <strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://www.instagram.com/shadesofstrong/">Instagram</a> </span></strong>for daily reflections on what it means to be suppoted</span></li> <li><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.com/">www.shadesofstrong.com</a></span></strong></li> </ul> <div class="xdj266r x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs x126k92a"> <div dir="auto"> <hr /> <p><em><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Shirl  is the creator of Support Languages™ and host of Shades of Strong® — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black Woman to Supported Black Woman™ through language, rest, and real support.</span></em></p> <hr /> </div> </div>
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26 Black Women: What Strength Took. What Support Could Have Given
APR 4, 2026
26 Black Women: What Strength Took. What Support Could Have Given
<p data-start="756" data-end="913"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">April marks Black Women’s History Month, and this series was created to honor the full, lived experiences of Black women in a way that often gets overlooked. This series centers Black women support stories told in their own words.</span></p> <p data-start="915" data-end="1136"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">The <strong data-start="919" data-end="988">26 Black Women: What Strength Took. What Support Could Have Given</strong> storytelling series centers real conversations with Black women about the realities behind being “strong” and the kind of support that was missing.</span></p> <p data-start="1138" data-end="1285"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Each episode creates space for Black women to speak in their own words, not just about what they’ve been through, but about who they are beyond it.</span></p> <p data-start="1287" data-end="1395"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">This trailer introduces the intention behind the series and what listeners can expect over the next 26 days.</span></p> <p data-start="1397" data-end="1529"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">If you’ve ever questioned what support for Black women really looks like in everyday life, this series was created with you in mind.</span></p> <hr /> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong data-start="2044" data-end="2071">About Shades of Strong®</strong></span><br data-start="2071" data-end="2074" /><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Shades of Strong® is a space where Black women come to breathe, reflect, and reclaim strength without the struggle. Support Pauses are short, soulful reminders that you don’t have to carry it all alone. New episodes drop every weekday.</span></p> <hr /> <h3><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Resources to Support You:</strong></span></h3> <ul> <li><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong><a href="https://forms.gle/VsfFMjNjMt6eVLJp7"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; color: #ff7300;">Black Women Storytelling Series</span></a></strong></span></li> <li><a href="https://shadesofstrong.com/support-sessions/"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;">Schedule a 1:1 Support Session</span></strong></span></a></li> <li><span style="color: #ff7300;"><span style="color: #ff7300;"><strong><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.myflodesk.com/supportlanguageguide"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Get the Guide: &#8220;You Know Your Support Language™—Now What?&#8221;</span></a></strong></span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages/" rel="noopener"><strong>Take the Support Language™ Quiz</strong>. </a></span><span style="color: #000000;">and learn how you <em data-start="834" data-end="844">actually</em> receive support best.</span></span></span></li> <li><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.myflodesk.com/theporch">Get Support Right in Your Inbox</a>: </span></strong><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">Gentle words, real-life reflection, and soft reminders </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">every week  </span></span></li> <li><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt; color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sistahs-connect-radio/id6758016687">Download Sistah&#8217;s Connect Radio in the Apple Store</a></span></strong></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.live365.sistahsconnectradio&#38;hl=en_US">Download Sistah&#8217;s Connect Radion in Google Play</a></span></strong></span></li> </ul> <hr /> <p><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">Let’s Stay Connected:</span></strong></p> <ul> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Subscribe to <em data-start="1763" data-end="1781">Shades of Strong</em> on Apple Podcasts or your favorite platform</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"> Share this episode with a sista who’s tired of being the strong one</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Leave a review if the episode spoke to your spirit — it helps more Black women find this space</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Submit your questions to [email protected]</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Follow Shades of Strong on <strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://www.instagram.com/shadesofstrong/">Instagram</a> </span></strong>for daily reflections on what it means to be suppoted</span></li> <li><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.com/">www.shadesofstrong.com</a></span></strong></li> </ul> <div class="xdj266r x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs x126k92a"> <div dir="auto"> <hr /> <p><em><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Shirl Hubbard is the creator of Support Languages™ and host of Shades of Strong® — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black Woman to Supported Black Woman™ through language, rest, and real support.</span></em></p> <hr /> <p><iframe loading="lazy" src="https://player.blubrry.com/getnakedlive/playlist/?episodes=5#mode-Light&#38;border=000000&#38;progress-000000" width="100%" height="415px" frameborder="0"></iframe></p> </div> </div>
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How to Answer “You Okay” When You’re Not
FEB 20, 2026
How to Answer “You Okay” When You’re Not
<div class="et_pb_section et_pb_section_0 et_section_regular" > <div class="et_pb_row et_pb_row_0"> <div class="et_pb_column et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column_0 et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode_passthrough et-last-child"> <div class="et_pb_module et_pb_text et_pb_text_0 et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light"> <div class="et_pb_text_inner"><h3 data-start="2087" data-end="2163"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">Understanding How to Answer You Okay When You’re Not</span></h3> <p data-start="638" data-end="958"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">When someone asks you “You okay?”, it’s rarely simple, and figuring out <strong data-start="482" data-end="524">how to answer you okay when you’re not</strong> can feel like its own emotional maze. This pause sits inside that moment for Black women, because the truth behind that question is often heavier than the world realizes.</span></p> <p data-start="960" data-end="1258"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">In this episode, Shirl slows the moment down and gives you space to notice what happens inside you before you answer out of habit. She talks about why “I’m fine” shows up so quickly, how our history shapes the way we respond, and why honesty doesn’t have to mean spilling everything you’re holding.</span></p> <p data-start="1260" data-end="1553"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">You’ll hear real language you can use when you’re not okay but don’t want to explain, how to protect your emotional space, and what it looks like to check in with yourself once the world gets quiet again. This pause is a grounding reminder that you get to choose answers that care for you too.</span></p> <p data-start="1555" data-end="1744"> <hr /> <p><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Got a story about what it’s cost you to be the strong one? We’re collecting real, lived stories for the Black Women Storytelling Series, and we want to hear yours.</span></strong></span></p> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">Submit your story here → <a href="https://forms.gle/VsfFMjNjMt6eVLJp7">https://forms.gle/VsfFMjNjMt6eVLJp7</a></span></p> <hr /> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Come back every weekday for a new Support Pause — short, soul-soothing reflections made just for you.</span></p> <p><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><strong data-start="2044" data-end="2071">About Shades of Strong®</strong></span><br data-start="2071" data-end="2074" /><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Shades of Strong® is a space where Black women come to breathe, reflect, and reclaim strength without the struggle. Support Pauses are short, soulful reminders that you don’t have to carry it all alone. New episodes drop every weekday.</span></p> <hr /> <h3><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong>Resources to Support You:</strong></span></h3> <ul> <li><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><strong><a href="https://forms.gle/VsfFMjNjMt6eVLJp7"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; color: #ff7300;">Black Women Storytelling Series</span></a></strong></span></li> <li><a href="https://shadesofstrong.com/support-sessions/"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;">Schedule a 1:1 Support Session</span></strong></span></a></li> <li><span style="color: #ff7300;"><span style="color: #ff7300;"><strong><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.myflodesk.com/supportlanguageguide"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Get the Guide: &#8220;You Know Your Support Language™—Now What?&#8221;</span></a></strong></span></span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.com/supportlanguages/" rel="noopener"><strong>Take the Support Language™ Quiz</strong>. </a></span><span style="color: #000000;">and learn how you <em data-start="834" data-end="844">actually</em> receive support best.</span></span></span></li> <li><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.myflodesk.com/theporch">Get Support Right in Your Inbox</a>: </span></strong><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">Gentle words, real-life reflection, and soft reminders </span><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">every week  </span></span></li> <li><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt; color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sistahs-connect-radio/id6758016687">Download Sistah&#8217;s Connect Radio in the Apple Store</a></span></strong></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;"><strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.live365.sistahsconnectradio&#38;hl=en_US">Download Sistah&#8217;s Connect Radion in Google Play</a></span></strong></span></li> </ul> <hr /> <p><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; font-size: 12pt;">Let’s Stay Connected:</span></strong></p> <ul> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Subscribe to <em data-start="1763" data-end="1781">Shades of Strong</em> on Apple Podcasts or your favorite platform</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;"> Share this episode with a sista who’s tired of being the strong one</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Leave a review if the episode spoke to your spirit — it helps more Black women find this space</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Submit your questions to [email protected]</span></li> <li><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Follow Shades of Strong on <strong><span style="color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://www.instagram.com/shadesofstrong/">Instagram</a> </span></strong>for daily reflections on what it means to be suppoted</span></li> <li><strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino; color: #ff7300;"><a style="color: #ff7300;" href="https://shadesofstrong.com/">www.shadesofstrong.com</a></span></strong></li> </ul> <div class="xdj266r x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs x126k92a"> <div dir="auto"> <hr /> <p><em><span style="font-family: Georgia, Palatino;">Shirl  is the creator of Support Languages™ and host of Shades of Strong® — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black Woman to Supported Black Woman™ through language, rest, and real support.</span></em></p> <hr /> <p><iframe loading="lazy" src="https://player.blubrry.com/getnakedlive/playlist/?episodes=5#mode-Light&#38;border=000000&#38;progress-000000" width="100%" height="415px" frameborder="0"></iframe></p> </div> </div></div> </div> </div> </div> </div>
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