Most people have spent years studying feedback — the frameworks, the techniques, the dos and don'ts. But almost nobody has ever been asked one simple question before receiving it: How do you want feedback?
That's the focus of today's episode. Brett breaks down why this single question might be the most underrated communication tool in your arsenal — and why it works on a level most people never think about.
It's not a hack. It's not a trick. It's old-style values that the noise of modern leadership advice has buried. And once you start using it, you'll wonder why you ever walked into a feedback conversation without it.

 
What You’ll Learn:
 
∙ Why most feedback conversations fail before a single word is spoken.
 
∙ How one question disarms defensiveness and gives you useful intel at the same time.
 
∙ ⁠The difference between catering to someone's preferences and surrendering to them.
 
∙ Why this is power dynamics in action — and why that's a good thing.
 
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The Art Of Coaching

Brett Bartholomew

E419 | The One Question that Lowers Defensiveness Before Giving Feedback

MAR 23, 202613 MIN
The Art Of Coaching

E419 | The One Question that Lowers Defensiveness Before Giving Feedback

MAR 23, 202613 MIN

Description

Most people have spent years studying feedback — the frameworks, the techniques, the dos and don'ts. But almost nobody has ever been asked one simple question before receiving it: How do you want feedback? That's the focus of today's episode. Brett breaks down why this single question might be the most underrated communication tool in your arsenal — and why it works on a level most people never think about. It's not a hack. It's not a trick. It's old-style values that the noise of modern leadership advice has buried. And once you start using it, you'll wonder why you ever walked into a feedback conversation without it.   What You’ll Learn:   ∙ Why most feedback conversations fail before a single word is spoken.   ∙ How one question disarms defensiveness and gives you useful intel at the same time.   ∙ ⁠The difference between catering to someone's preferences and surrendering to them.   ∙ Why this is power dynamics in action — and why that's a good thing.   ____________________     Follow Us: Website: ArtofCoaching.com Instagram: @coach_brettb X: @coach_brettb