![<description><h2 class="text-text-100 mt-3 -mb-1 text-[1.125rem] font-bold"> SUMMARY</h2> <p class= "font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]"> I brought a real story to Dr. Michelle this week. A small mistake on my part, a hurt little girl, a defensive dad at bedtime, and my wife catching my eye across the room. What unfolded was a live coaching moment I needed more than I knew. Dr. Michelle gently walked me back through what I missed, what was actually under the anger, and how to do the repair that actually reaches a daughter's heart. If you have ever blown it with your kids and tried to talk your way out of it instead of leaning in, this conversation is for you.</p> <h2 class="text-text-100 mt-3 -mb-1 text-[1.125rem] font-bold"> Takeaways</h2> <ul class= "[li_&]:mb-0 [li_&]:mt-1 [li_&]:gap-1 [&:not(:last-child)_ul]:pb-1 [&:not(:last-child)_ol]:pb-1 list-disc flex flex-col gap-1 pl-8 mb-3"> <li class="whitespace-normal break-words pl-2">Anger is usually the front door. The real emotion sitting behind it is almost always sadness, fear, or confusion, and your kids feel that gap before you do.</li> <li class="whitespace-normal break-words pl-2">When your child tells the story of how you hurt them, the most powerful thing you can say is three words. Tell me more. Then stay there longer than feels comfortable.</li> <li class="whitespace-normal break-words pl-2">Defensiveness bombs the bridge to your kids' hearts and to their picture of God as Father. Compassion builds it.</li> <li class="whitespace-normal break-words pl-2">Luke 15 verse 20 gives a five step pattern any dad can follow. He saw, he was filled with compassion, he ran, he threw his arms around, he kissed.</li> <li class="whitespace-normal break-words pl-2">A consistent monthly daddy daughter date and a note in your own handwriting create anchors of memory your kids will carry into adulthood.</li> </ul> <h2 class="text-text-100 mt-3 -mb-1 text-[1.125rem] font-bold"> Guest</h2> <p class= "font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]"> Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield is a licensed counselor, speaker, and the host of The Dad Whisperer podcast. She founded The Abba Project, a nine month group for dads of daughters between thirteen and thirty, and has spent the last fifteen plus years coaching fathers in the work of pursuing their daughters' hearts. She is the author of <em>Dad, Here's What I Really Need from You</em> and <em>Let's Talk</em>, and her writing on fatherhood has reached dads in all fifty states and around the world.</p> <h2 class="text-text-100 mt-3 -mb-1 text-[1.125rem] font-bold"> Quotes </h2> <ol class= "[li_&]:mb-0 [li_&]:mt-1 [li_&]:gap-1 [&:not(:last-child)_ul]:pb-1 [&:not(:last-child)_ol]:pb-1 list-decimal flex flex-col gap-1 pl-8 mb-3"> <li class="whitespace-normal break-words pl-2">"You guys are wired with tender hearts. Tough and tender is a powerful combination as a man." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield</li> <li class="whitespace-normal break-words pl-2">"Under mad is usually sad or scared or confused. Lead with your heart more than your head." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield</li> <li class="whitespace-normal break-words pl-2">"Tell me more. That's how she gets it out, and then it's not there between you anymore." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield</li> <li class="whitespace-normal break-words pl-2">"Defensiveness bombs the bridge. Compassion builds it. That's the work of fathering a daughter's heart." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield</li> <li class="whitespace-normal break-words pl-2">"Anchors of memory in a place. Find one or two spots that become yours together with your daughter." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield</li> </ol> <p> </p></description>](https://us-central1-podcastguru-217d6.cloudfunctions.net/gcf_get_image?image_url=https://is1-ssl.mzstatic.com/image/thumb/Podcasts126/v4/75/62/06/756206f2-e86c-6bef-9df8-d855717c99c6/mza_8709719559537148514.png/600x600bb.jpg&width=300&height=300&api_key=xqFmUFX5BHLBTA)
DadAwesome
Jeff Zaugg
DA433 | What's Underneath the Anger, Dad Daughter Dates, and Five Ways to Build a Bridge with Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield (Part 2)
MAY 7, 202628 MIN
DA433 | What's Underneath the Anger, Dad Daughter Dates, and Five Ways to Build a Bridge with Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield (Part 2)
MAY 7, 202628 MIN
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SUMMARY I brought a real story to Dr. Michelle this week. A small mistake on my part, a hurt little girl, a defensive dad at bedtime, and my wife catching my eye across the room. What unfolded was a live coaching moment I needed more than I knew. Dr. Michelle gently walked me back through what I missed, what was actually under the anger, and how to do the repair that actually reaches a daughter's heart. If you have ever blown it with your kids and tried to talk your way out of it instead of leaning in, this conversation is for you. Takeaways Anger is usually the front door. The real emotion sitting behind it is almost always sadness, fear, or confusion, and your kids feel that gap before you do. When your child tells the story of how you hurt them, the most powerful thing you can say is three words. Tell me more. Then stay there longer than feels comfortable. Defensiveness bombs the bridge to your kids' hearts and to their picture of God as Father. Compassion builds it. Luke 15 verse 20 gives a five step pattern any dad can follow. He saw, he was filled with compassion, he ran, he threw his arms around, he kissed. A consistent monthly daddy daughter date and a note in your own handwriting create anchors of memory your kids will carry into adulthood. Guest Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield is a licensed counselor, speaker, and the host of The Dad Whisperer podcast. She founded The Abba Project, a nine month group for dads of daughters between thirteen and thirty, and has spent the last fifteen plus years coaching fathers in the work of pursuing their daughters' hearts. She is the author of Dad, Here's What I Really Need from You and Let's Talk, and her writing on fatherhood has reached dads in all fifty states and around the world. Quotes "You guys are wired with tender hearts. Tough and tender is a powerful combination as a man." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield "Under mad is usually sad or scared or confused. Lead with your heart more than your head." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield "Tell me more. That's how she gets it out, and then it's not there between you anymore." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield "Defensiveness bombs the bridge. Compassion builds it. That's the work of fathering a daughter's heart." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield "Anchors of memory in a place. Find one or two spots that become yours together with your daughter." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield