Decoding Success with Matt LeBris

👉 Want clarity on your own brand? Book a free 1:1 call with the Brand Builders team: https://freebrandcall.com/mattlebris/ Most people think they've healed their past. But the truth is far heavier: your childhood blueprint is still running your life — your relationships, your success, your self-worth — and you don't even realize it. In this raw and revealing conversation, therapist and author Jason VanRuler returns to Decoding Success to break open the invisible patterns that shape us: earning love, chasing highs, self-sabotaging the moment life gets quiet, and mistaking achievement for fulfillment. This episode isn't about blame — it's about finally understanding why you are the way you are… and how to rewrite the script. If you've ever wondered why you push so hard, why you crash so hard, or why the middle feels unbearable — this one will hit you right in the truth. WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@MattLeBris In this episode, we uncover: The childhood wound most people think they healed… but is still driving everything. Why high achievers feel empty even when they're "winning." The difference between using pain and being controlled by it. How to stop earning love and start feeling "I'm okay either way. How to change your relationship with your past without reliving every wound. What self-sabotage actually is — and the surprising first step to stop it. The role expectations play in suffering (especially with parents). Why being your authentic self feels so dangerous — and why it's the only path to real connection. This conversation is simple, confronting, and clarifying — the kind that doesn't just give answers, but gives you yourself back. Connect with Jason Website: https://www.jasonvr.com/ Pre-Order the NEW Book Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/ Chapters 00:00 The Drive for Success and Parental Influence 02:28 Understanding Past Pain and Its Impact 05:27 The Role of Pain in Motivation 08:16 Embracing the Middle of Transformation 10:59 Finding Fulfillment Beyond Achievement 14:00 Shifting Intentions and Self-Acceptance 17:01 Whose Voice Are You Listening To? 17:53 Understanding High-Pressure Moments 19:06 The Nature of Resilience 20:03 Beyond Talking: Processing Pain 20:53 Identifying Patterns in Pain 22:14 The Role of Expectations in Relationships 23:37 Making Peace with Family Dynamics 25:51 Accepting People for Who They Are 27:39 The Question of Self-Acceptance 29:30 Grieving Unmet Expectations 31:31 Finding Acceptance in What We Need 33:37 Cultural Influences on Our Needs 34:23 The Complexity of Modern Life 36:30 Authenticity in Relationships 38:59 The Challenge of Being Authentic 41:50 Navigating Modern Dating 44:51 The Importance of Relationships 45:49 Healing Through Storytelling 50:20 Understanding the 'Why' Behind Our Actions 53:08 Embracing Failure as a Path to Growth 55:59 The Myths of Trauma and Healing 57:48 The Importance of Communication in Relationships 01:00:31 Simplifying Life: The Hard Mode Dilemma

BUILD YOUR BRAND w/ Brand Builders Group Rory Vaden joins the show to break down why differentiation is dead — and why your real advantage is your uniqueness. If you've ever struggled to build an authentic personal brand because you've spent years people-pleasing, fitting in, or carrying an identity that wasn't truly yours, this episode is a reset. Rory shares how he reinvented himself overnight, why nobody is thinking about your brand as much as you think they are, and the simple shift that helps you build a brand rooted in service, not ego. We also dive into his Trajectory Test, becoming rejection-proof, and the real reason most people aren't making the money they want. If you're a creator, expert, entrepreneur, or anyone building a personal brand, this episode will change how you think about growth, identity, and visibility. Watch all episodes on YouTube What You'll Learn Why uniqueness > differentiation How to reinvent yourself instantly ("plant, pivot, and go") Why personal branding is not about you — it's about who you serve The Trajectory Test for long-term success The real reason you're not making money yet How to overcome the fear of rejection Links Free personal brand strategy call: freebrandcall.com/mattlebris Free audiobook of Wealthy & Well-Known: freebrandaudiobook.com/mattlebris Connect with Rory Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/roryvaden/ Website: https://roryvaden.com/

💰 Book your F R E E Brand Strategy Call here: freebrandcall.com/mattlebris In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Matt sits down with bestselling author, entrepreneur, and spiritual teacher Jessica Zweig for a raw exploration of what it really means to surrender, evolve, and take radical responsibility for your life. Jessica opens up about her recent season of expansion — navigating anxiety, overwhelm, business transitions, spiritual initiation, and the deeper truth behind why so many of us resist change even when we're praying for a breakthrough. Together, they unpack the difference between surviving and co-creating, how to listen to your body's signals without letting fear lead, and why our toughest moments are often the exact pathways into our next level. This episode is equal parts grounding and activating — especially if you're in a season of uncertainty, reinvention, or feeling like you're outgrowing the life around you. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why surrender is the true catalyst for growth How to trust change when everything feels uncertain The role of "initiations" in your spiritual and personal evolution Why overwhelm and anxiety aren't life sentences How to develop radical self-responsibility (and why it's a superpower) The body's truth: what your anxiety is really trying to tell you How to stop outsourcing your power to mentors, coaches, and relationships The surprising connection between joy, abundance, and alignment What happens when you finally take off the mask Why softness is strength — and how to practice it daily Connect With Jessica Website: jessicasweig.com Instagram: @jessicasweig Podcast: The Spiritual Hustler Books: Be and The Light Work If You Enjoyed This Episode Send this to someone going through a transition. Share this with a friend who needs a reminder that they're not behind — they're being initiated.

BOOK YOUR FREE BRAND STRATEGY CALL 👉 https://freebrandcall.com/mattlebris In this powerful episode of Decoding Success, we are joined by Dr. Mariel Buqué — psychologist, intergenerational trauma expert, and author of Break The Cycle. This conversation goes deep into what healing actually looks like, why the in-between seasons of life feel so uncomfortable, how to train your nervous system to tolerate triggers, and why breaking cycles can feel lonely — especially for the black sheep, cycle-breakers, and self-healers. If you've ever felt like you're evolving faster than the environment around you… If you've ever felt misunderstood during your healing journey… If you're learning to receive love differently… this episode is going to speak directly to you. Watch All Episodes on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/MattLeBris In This Episode, We Explore: Why healing is NOT a destination — but a series of micro victories The real reason the in-between phase feels so restless How to micro-expose yourself to triggers instead of avoiding them The link between trauma, avoidance, and the need for control The loneliness of being the cycle breaker in your family Why some wounds we carry are not originally ours The difference between external vs. internal validation How to process shame and rebuild a sense of self-worth What true presence looks like — and small practices to cultivate it Connect with Dr. Mariel Buqué Website → https://www.drmarielbuque.com/ Her Book, Break The Cycle → https://www.drmarielbuque.com/breakthecycle LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-mariel-buqu%C3%A9/ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/dr.marielbuque/

👉 Start here (free strategy call): freebrandcall.com/mattlebris Today's conversation with TV personality and author Valerie Greenberg is a masterclass in shifting from external approval to inner authority. We dig into befriending the inner critic, choosing presence over the next "big high," and how to build your Confidence Community... those truth-tellers who both cheer you on and call you up. If you've ever felt like a black sheep trying to "catch up," this one brings you back to center. In this episode, you'll learn Best-friend energy: Practical ways to befriend (not silence) your inner critic so you can respond instead of react. Ambition vs. acceptance: How to hold big goals while staying present on the "flatline" days. The curiosity reset: A simple "ask why" loop to process anxiety and stop chasing the next hit of validation. Confidence Community: Who belongs in it, how to find them, and why "the least powerful person" can change your life. Ego off, outcomes on: Following up without taking things personally—and using wins as smart re-engagement moments. Self-care ≠ vanity: Aligning workouts, sleep, and habits with feeling grounded (not performing for the feed). Breaking habits the honest way: From nail-biting to bigger patterns—how to assess, ask for help, and upgrade behavior. Links & Resources Free Brand Strategy Call (Matt): freebrandcall.com/mattlebris Valerie's Book: You've Been Validated — Amazon link Valerie on Instagram: @valgreenberg If this helped you… Follow Decoding Success and turn on notifications. Share this episode with the friend who's hardest on themselves. Leave a rating & review—tell us your favorite takeaway and tag Matt & Val on IG. Time Stamps 00:00 — Why "you've been validated" starts with your own stamp of approval 02:40 — Being your own best friend (perfectionism, overthinking, and doing anyway) 05:16 — Presence over comparison: getting okay with "good enough today" 08:25 — "Where you are is right": ambition without self-rejection 10:45 — A porter's two minutes that lit up the whole day (character > status) 13:20 — Authenticity that translates on and off camera 14:54 — There's only one you: why the world needs your exact wiring 16:28 — Bullying, anxiety, and becoming a natural cheerleader 21:02 — Feeling feelings > fearing feelings (shadow work basics) 27:12 — Curiosity loop for the "flatline" days 29:42 — Self-care done right: intention > imitation 33:38 — How to assemble your Confidence Community (and who's worthy) 45:42 — The "lowest" person who unlocked the biggest break 49:20 — Valerie's one piece of advice: recognize and share your value