Listen to this week’s episode of Notice That to hear the hosts discuss how to use EMDR within couples therapy. EMDR & Couples Therapy  Remember, safety remains the most important  It can take longer for us to establish this with multiple people  Especially considering that couples may lack trust with each other It’s important to take the specific situation into account. In other words, is the couple there for marriage counseling or has a client brought in their spouse? Clients sometimes don’t think about the physical vulnerability that they will feel  So it can be helpful to discuss this ahead of time  It can be beneficial to have the partner be part of the processing Additionally, the partner may benefit from seeing their partner in a place of vulnerability and sincerity Rather than seeing them through hurt and fear from their conflicts  Sometimes it can be messy and painful, but it is real  It can be very helpful for both partners to share their experiences and receive insight Traditionally, the goal of couple’s therapy is to keep the couple together But that shouldn’t be the goal unless the couple explicitly says that Therefore, it is not necessarily a failure of treatment if the couple does not remain together  “There is a very real possibility of discovering that the marriage is a strategy that has been birthed out of trauma, and healing will actually mean that they are ready to release that relationship” (21:10) The 8 phase protocol & Couples Therapy “Without the resourcing, we’re never going to get to the processing, and if we try it’s going to be messy” (24:29). The process is individualized and always changing Therefore, it doesn’t look one certain way. Remain open to the possibility that it may be necessary to see them individually With the understanding that it’s possible to bring them back together once safety is established. Finding a special memory that partners can share can provide connection.  After history taking, try to create a sense of partnership and motivation Then, you can start to address the trauma  It’s important to ask what happened between the couple However, it’s also important to ask what happened to the couple  Examples of EMDR & Couples Therapy Bridger discusses a client story (14:14) Jen discusses a client story (16:24) Bridger’s client example (30:25) Bridger talks about a client (37:01) Jen’s story from a couple’s retreat ( 43:45) Takeaways It can be a very powerful experience  The goal is to heal, regardless of the specific outcome for the couple  Let go of assumptions and be open to all possibilities  Did you know?  After full completion of Beyond Healing Institute’s Somatic Integration and Processing training, each participant can receive 21 NBCC hours.  Beyond Healing Center Visit our website for all things BHC Contact us about retreats and therapy  Contact us about training and consultation Beyond Healing Media First, listen to our past episodes of NT here Then, check out more Beyond Healing podcasts Evidence-Based Therapist – where we read so you don’t have to! Beyond Trauma – geared towards clients Burnt Out Educator – An interview-style podcast for educators and students Give your support and gain access to exclusive content through Patreon Interested in supporting a child?  https://www.patreon.com/BurntOutEducator 100% of the proceeds donated to the Burntout Educator will provide therapy for a child in the public school system.  Not therapy capped at a certain number, but an open-ended relationship with a highly qualified therapist in the BHC network.  Connect with us on social media: Facebook & Instagram  Credits  Executive Directors: Jennifer and Ryan Savage, Melissa Bentinnedi, Bridger Falkenstein Hosts: Jennifer Savage, Melissa Benintendi, and Bridger Falkenstein Filmographer: Tyler Wassam Podcast Producer: Jamie Eggert Original Music Composers: Bridger Falkenstein and Caleb Boston Show Notes: Jordan Murray-Harper The post Couples Therapy & EMDR (73) first appeared on Notice That.The post Couples Therapy & EMDR (73) appeared first on Notice That.