<description>&lt;p&gt;Can you think of a moment that turned your life into &amp;lsquo;before&amp;rsquo; and &amp;lsquo;after&amp;rsquo;?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;For Reuben Williams, that moment was not his sexual assault, rather, the decision he made in the aftermath to pursue justice.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;💌Join 7,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter -&amp;nbsp;&lt;a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy"&gt;http://bit.ly/45NyQDy&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Incredibly vulnerable, Reuben talks Hugh, Ryan and Josh through what it felt like in the 24 hours after the assault, how he knew, undeniably, what happened to him was wrong, and why he chose to report it.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;We talk about the intricacies of healing, privilege, and having a world class difficult conversation with the ones you love.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;And then, Josh asks Reuben how you can best show up for your friends who might be going through something similar.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Reuben, it was such a privilege having you in the studio.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - &lt;a href="https://youtu.be/okQnOwV2MJE"&gt;https://youtu.be/okQnOwV2MJE&lt;/a&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;0:00 &amp;ndash; An Imperfect Meet-Cute&lt;br&gt;6:44 &amp;ndash; The night of the assault&lt;br&gt;19:28 &amp;ndash; Identity, privilege, and idealism&lt;br&gt;33:09 &amp;ndash; Family Dynamics&lt;br&gt;41:16 - World Class Difficult Conversation&lt;br&gt;47:39 &amp;ndash; The Waiting Game&lt;br&gt;59:15 &amp;ndash; Reuben&amp;rsquo;s Letter&lt;br&gt;1:04:24 &amp;ndash; A divine test&lt;br&gt;1:10:30 &amp;ndash; Just help&lt;br&gt;1:18:46 &amp;ndash; How can you be a better friend?&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li&gt;Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection - &lt;a href="https://bit.ly/49voquJ"&gt;https://bit.ly/49voquJ&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;🎧Things to listen to&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li&gt;SportsGrad Podcast - &lt;a href="https://bit.ly/42V75HT"&gt;https://bit.ly/42V75HT&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;💻Things to check out&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li&gt;SportsGrad - &lt;a href="https://bit.ly/49p2hOD"&gt;https://bit.ly/49p2hOD&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;🚨If you&amp;rsquo;d like to reach out to someone for support after listening to this episode, here are some great places to start&lt;/p&gt; &lt;ul&gt; &lt;li&gt;&lt;a href="https://1800respect.org.au"&gt;1800 RESPECT&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt; &lt;li&gt;&lt;a href="https://casacv.org.au"&gt;Centre Against Sexual Assault&lt;/a&gt; - 03 5441 0430 (Mon-Fri 9am-5pm) OR 1800 806 292 (Sexual Assault Crisis Line)&lt;/li&gt; &lt;/ul&gt; &lt;p&gt;🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here -&amp;nbsp;&lt;a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"&gt;http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel)&amp;nbsp;&lt;em&gt;My Imperfect Life,&lt;/em&gt;&amp;nbsp;click here -&amp;nbsp;&lt;a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW"&gt;http://bit.ly/4lyuuW&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;🩵To join our subscriber community, &lt;em&gt;A Little More Imperfects,&lt;/em&gt; follow this link - &lt;a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu"&gt;http://bit.ly/4mqunxu&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;🩷 AND you can subscribe to &lt;em&gt;A Little More Imperfects&lt;/em&gt; through Apple Podcasts too, here - &lt;a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects"&gt;http://apple.co/theimperfects&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you&amp;rsquo;re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;See &lt;a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener"&gt;omnystudio.com/listener&lt;/a&gt; for privacy information.&lt;/p&gt;</description>

The Imperfects

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg

Reuben Williams - What Happened After My Sexual Assault

MAY 10, 202689 MIN
The Imperfects

Reuben Williams - What Happened After My Sexual Assault

MAY 10, 202689 MIN

Description

Can you think of a moment that turned your life into ‘before’ and ‘after’? For Reuben Williams, that moment was not his sexual assault, rather, the decision he made in the aftermath to pursue justice. 💌Join 7,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy Incredibly vulnerable, Reuben talks Hugh, Ryan and Josh through what it felt like in the 24 hours after the assault, how he knew, undeniably, what happened to him was wrong, and why he chose to report it. We talk about the intricacies of healing, privilege, and having a world class difficult conversation with the ones you love. And then, Josh asks Reuben how you can best show up for your friends who might be going through something similar. Reuben, it was such a privilege having you in the studio. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/okQnOwV2MJE  0:00 – An Imperfect Meet-Cute6:44 – The night of the assault19:28 – Identity, privilege, and idealism33:09 – Family Dynamics41:16 - World Class Difficult Conversation47:39 – The Waiting Game59:15 – Reuben’s Letter1:04:24 – A divine test1:10:30 – Just help1:18:46 – How can you be a better friend? 🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection - https://bit.ly/49voquJ 🎧Things to listen to SportsGrad Podcast - https://bit.ly/42V75HT 💻Things to check out SportsGrad - https://bit.ly/49p2hOD 🚨If you’d like to reach out to someone for support after listening to this episode, here are some great places to start 1800 RESPECT Centre Against Sexual Assault - 03 5441 0430 (Mon-Fri 9am-5pm) OR 1800 806 292 (Sexual Assault Crisis Line) 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW 🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.