Unwineding

“Women have a difficult time keeping the guys they like around and men have a hard time getting the girls they want.” Hi ladiesssss, I'm so excited to welcome Ben Hart, dating coach & content creator, to Unwineding this week! Don’t tell him, but he’s one of my favorite voices in the dating space—I find his advice direct, fun, practical, and incredibly honest (which is what we sometimes don’t want but absolutely need). Think of this episode as your guide to modern dating—we’re exploring the messy, sometimes confusing early stages where most of us (hi, women who unfortunately date men) start to lose our power. We get into how dating content overload is making us over-intellectualize everything, why we’re obsessed with templates and rules, and what actually matters more than counting the hours between his texts. We talk:• why we’re all over-consuming dating advice and under-listening to how we actually feel• the difference between being strategic vs. being hyper-tactical and counting every minute between texts• “matching energy,” reacting to his every move, and how that quietly gives your power away• why texting makes us *lose our minds* sometimes• how men are thinking about vulnerability• the art of FLIRTING (and how to get approached out in the wild)• worthiness, self-respect, and identity shifts for the relationship you want If you want to feel more confident, more calm, and more in your power during the early stages of dating (and beyond), this episode is going to be your new best friend. As always, take whatever you needed today & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x MORE BEN: + follow Ben on Instagram + follow Ben on TikTok SAY HI: follow Lisa on Instagram follow Lisa on TikTok follow Unwineding on Instagram follow Unwineding on TikTok subscribe to Unwineding on Youtube shop Unwineding’s storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

File this episode under: two girls with severe ADHD in their luteal phase, talking absolute nonsense and forgetting microphones were involved. My beautiful girl Alexis Waters is back on Unwineding (or rather, I went to Dallas to see her), and we caught up on all the important matters: antidepressants, planning a day for our least favorite ex, female friendship, body dysmorphia, self-worth, etc. We break down friendship tiers, the qualities we actually look for in the women we keep close, and why the people around you literally shape who you become. A little unhinged girl talk, if you will. Hope you enjoy. LOVE YOU. x Our first episode together: 'how to catch a cheater, fall in love, & stay (kinda) sane ft. Alexis Waters' SAY HI (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ShopMy: ⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠ (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠@unwinedingpod⁠ (to ALEXIS WATERS): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@alexiswaters_ Alexis' Podcast: Literally Not Ok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"You have to rewire your beliefs to find the love you want." In this episode, I sit down with author, creator, and dating & relationship expert Sabrina Bendory for one of the most grounding conversations I’ve had about modern relationships. We talk about detachment—what it actually is, how women can practice it without becoming cold or avoidant, and why stepping back is sometimes the most self-loving thing you can do. Sabrina breaks down anxious attachment, self-abandonment, emotional spiraling, and why our nervous system plays a bigger role in dating than we think. We also dive into: learning to trust your intuition, why “mixed signals” aren’t as complicated as they seem, how to stop chasing emotionally unavailable men, and the real mindset shift every woman needs to date from a place of self-worth. If you’re tired of feeling anxious in dating, if you want to understand your patterns, or if you just want to feel more grounded in who you ARE—this episode is your reset. More topics we explore: self-sabotage why your thoughts shape your life the concept of 'upper limits' fear of abandonment why you get attached too quickly the psychology behind attachment heartbreak lessons self-worth and boundaries feeling like you have to earn love becoming magnetic And so much more. As always, I hope there's something in here you needed. Take whatever resonates—leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ShopMy: ⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠ (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠@unwinedingpod⁠ (to SABRINA BENDORY): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sabrinabendory TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@sabrinabendory Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, & Become Irresistible Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“There’s no such thing as being behind when you’re living a life that’s aligned.”  In this episode, I sit down with Lindsey Simcik, co-host of Almost 30 and my new favorite person, for one of the most beautiful conversations I didn’t know I needed. We talk about how to fall back in love with your life—especially when it doesn’t look the way you imagined it would. We explore Saturn returns, self-worth, friendship, and the quiet power that comes when you stop waiting to be chosen. If you’ve ever felt “late” or like you’re not on the timeline you hoped for, I promise you, Lindsey will remind you that you’re exactly where you’re meant to be. We also dive into: why you're choosing the wrong people feeling empowered to turn 30 finding your purposes (we have more than 1) moving through seasons of change navigating your 30's, fearlessly working with your bff giving yourself permission to pivot navigating conflict in friendship becoming your own bff And so much more. As always, take whatever you need from this conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x Watch this episode on Youtube Shop Lindsey & Krista's new book: Almost 30: A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond SAY HI (to LISA GILMORE): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ShopMy: ⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠ (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠@unwinedingpod⁠ (to LINDSEY SIMCIK): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lindseysimcik Podcast: @almost30podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just us for a quick life & NYC debrief ft. the best caesar wrap of my life, makeup favorites I'm obsessed with, and my favorite lessons from spending 72 hours with my bff. Take whatever you need, leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x FAVORITES I MENTIONED: + Medicube Collagen Moisturizer + Natasha Denona Foundation + ONE/SIZE Setting Spray + SAIE Baked Setting Powder + YSL Lash Clash Mascara (in brown) SAY HI (to LISA): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lisaxgilmore⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (to UNWINEDING): IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@unwinedingpod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: @unwinedingpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices