File this episode under: the dating advice we probably need but don’t always want to hear. Alyssa Pettinato, host of the Missjudged Podcast, is on Unwineding today and we’re getting into the chaos that is modern dating: from being the “chill girl,” to unrealistic expectations, to whether we’re actually making dating harder than it needs to be. We talk about why dating feels so confusing right now, why so many women feel burnt out by modern dating culture, and how to balance having high standards without unintentionally limiting yourself. We also get into how to screen men early, what “dating intentionally” actually means (and why Alyssa is OVER this statement), and how to stop overcomplicating relationships before they even begin. Oh, and how we love a short king. We also talk: • why modern dating feels so complicated right now• the problem with trying to be the “chill girl”• dating standards vs unrealistic expectations• how to screen men early in dating• what “dating intentionally” actually means• how to know what you want in a partner• why dating apps can feel draining• how to have more fun dating again• mindset shifts for healthier relationships• navigating avoidant partners and emotional availability• why dating should feel exciting, not exhausting• how to stay optimistic about love and relationships & more. As always, take whatever you need from our conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Alyssa on Instagram follow Alyssa on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices