The Unlearning Studio

S5E10 In this heartfelt and wisdom‑filled conversation, I sit down with Alex Castillo, Christian coach, mentor, and long‑time leader of young athletes, to explore what it truly means to breathe life back into your marriage. Alex brings a grounded, faith‑centered perspective on connection, loyalty, desire, and the emotional patterns that quietly shape how couples love each other. We talk about the two things that kill desire and loyalty, how to strengthen your marriage through regulation and co‑regulation, and how to remove yourself and your spouse from fight, flight, freeze, and fawn so you can return to safety, softness, and partnership. Alex shares powerful insights on God’s design for marriage, the spiritual purpose of covenant, and why breathing life into your marriage begins with returning to the posture of serving one another the way Christ served. Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/alessandracharlesworth Connect with Alex Castillo | https://youtu.be/bBHXhbAupm0?si=OWBNXo4s1mi9YbU8 Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/ At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and business owners shatter their revenue ceilings. We uncover the costly patterns stalling their growth, heal what’s underneath, and strengthen a foundation built to sustain the life and business they’re meant to lead. We support: Individuals by uncovering and reprogramming your inner child and ancestral wounds that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership. Organizations by solving your people and process problems that quietly erode trust, undermine performance, and stall momentum. Whatever pattern you don't want to keep repeating, we address it at the cellular root.

S5E09 In this extraordinary episode, I sit down with Silvia Gálvez, Inner Child Healing Expert, Business Strategist, and Founder of Authentic Transformation, for a conversation that changed the way I thought about my relationship with myself and God. Silvia brings twenty years of experience working with addiction, trauma, and abuse, and she shares the profound patterns she’s uncovered in the human psyche, the nervous system, and our spiritual identity. We explore the masks your inner child wears to survive, the identities we adopt to protect ourselves from pain we were never equipped to process. Silvia discovered five distinct masks for each of the six inner child wounds, and the way she explains them is both compassionate and revelatory. As she says so powerfully: “We wear the mask because we don’t want to feel the pain.” This conversation moves through inner child wounds, ancestral trauma like the ancestral exile wound where she expounds on why feeling like people don't like your going to die, the ancestral abandonment wound and why we crave to belong to a tribe and community. She delves into our divine identity, emotional imprints, and the ways these patterns quietly shape our businesses, careers, relationships, and sense of self. Buy the online course | Transcend, Sacred Codes For Inner Child Healing | https://authentictransformation.ca/transcend-sacred-codes-for-inner-child-healing/ Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/alessandracharlesworth Connect with Silvia Gálvez | https://linktr.ee/TheInnerChildHealingExpert Transform from the Inside Out At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and business owners shatter their revenue ceilings. We uncover the costly patterns stalling their growth, heal what’s underneath, and strengthen a foundation built to sustain the life and business they’re meant to lead. We support: Individuals by uncovering and reprogramming your inner child and ancestral wounds that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership. Organizations by solving your people and process problems that quietly erode trust, undermine performance, and stall momentum. Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

S5E08 Kerry Castillo shares his secret to raising resilient kids: parenting with courage instead of control. We explore the joy of fatherhood, the heartbreak of watching your kids struggle, and the deep inner work required to raise resilient, adaptable, and confident children. We dig into the shift from rescuing to equipping, the power of letting kids make their own mistakes, and how the words we speak become the inner voice they carry for life. What listeners will take away Why giving kids space to fail builds resilience, confidence, and emotional strength How to move from rescuing to supporting without stepping in too quickly The role of ego and fear in parenting and how to release both What it looks like to let kids make mistakes without shame or panic How a parent’s language becomes a child’s lifelong internal dialogue This episode offers a grounded, honest look at fatherhood and the kind of parenting that prepares kids to learn from failure, and to rise from it stronger. 🎧 This is The Unlearning Studio where we unlearn the patterns that hurt us and learn to live lives that feel good. Remember, you can create the life and love you want. Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/alessandracharlesworth Connect with Kenny Castillo | https://youtu.be/bBHXhbAupm0?si=OWBNXo4s1mi9YbU8 Transform from the Inside Out At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and business owners shatter their revenue ceilings. We uncover the costly patterns stalling their growth, heal what’s underneath, and strengthen a foundation built to sustain the life and business they’re meant to lead. We support: Individuals by uncovering and reprogramming your inner child and ancestral wounds that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership. Organizations by solving your people and process problems that quietly erode trust, undermine performance, and stall momentum. Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

S5E07 I sit down with Christian sexpert Angela Griffith for a refreshingly honest conversation about intimacy, expectations, and the myths that quietly shape our marriages. Angela brings wisdom, humor, and a deeply grounded perspective as we unpack the pressures couples carry into the bedroom, especially the cultural lie that every sexual experience should be “mind‑blowing” or cinematic. Together, we explore what real intimacy looks like when we let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace connection over performance. We dive into: Why married sex isn’t always mind‑blowingly orgasmic and why that’s not a sign of failure The biggest lie Hollywood tells us about sex and how it distorts our expectations Patterns that keep couples from experiencing fulfilling intimacy Strategies for building connection that go beyond physical touch The different types of intimacy every marriage needs to thrive Why fun and recreational play is often the first intimacy to disappear and how to bring it back Sex journaling as a powerful tool for communication, clarity, and growth If you’re ready to rethink what great sex in marriage really looks like and find freedom from the pressure to “perform” this episode will encourage you and give you tools to grow. 🎧 This is The Unlearning Studio where we unlearn the patterns that hurt us and learn to live lives that feel good. Remember, you can create the life and love you want. Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/alessandracharlesworth Connect with Angela Griffith | www.TheChristianSexpert.com Transform from the Inside Out At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and business owners shatter their revenue ceilings. We uncover the costly patterns stalling their growth, heal what’s underneath, and strengthen a foundation built to sustain the life and business they’re meant to lead. We support: Individuals by uncovering and reprogramming your inner child and ancestral wounds that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership. Organizations by solving your people and process problems that quietly erode trust, undermine performance, and stall momentum. Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/

S5E06 – The Anxious & Avoidant Cycle with guest Malisa Hepner, therapist, author, and host of “Emotionally Unavailable” Why do anxious and avoidant partners seem irresistibly drawn to each other—yet often end up in cycles of push, pull, and misunderstanding? In this episode of the Empower Create Encourage Podcast, I sit down with Malisa Hepner to unpack the magnetic (and sometimes messy) connection between these two attachment styles. After we explore: The simple truth about what drives anxious and avoidant attraction The recurring patterns in decision-making, problem-solving, and conflict How emotional safety can be cultivated for both partners Common intimacy and bedroom dynamics in anxious/avoidant relationships The impact of dissociation and “performative desire” on connection How avoidance of pain affects emotional intimacy Grounding and regulation techniques for individuals and couples One small but powerful step couples can take toward secure love—even if they’ve never experienced it before If you’ve ever felt stuck in this loop—or love someone who has—this conversation will help you see the cycle clearly and give you tools to change it. 🎧 Tune in and remember: You are empowered to create the love, life, and reality you desire. Connect with Malisa Hepner, on her instagram | @malisa.hepner Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage Transform from the Inside Out At Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality. We support: Individuals by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership. Organizations by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact. If you're a growth-minded leader ready to remove what's holding you back—personally or organizationally—we'd love to support you. Book a complimentary 30-minute consultation and let's identify exactly how we can help you meet your strategic and operational objectives. Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/