<description>&lt;p&gt;I sit down with &lt;strong&gt;Heidi Blackie&lt;/strong&gt;, former healthcare professional, trauma-informed coach, and founder of &lt;em&gt;UnshakableMe&lt;/em&gt;, to talk about the hidden cost of people-pleasing and the self-sabotage “grenades” we carry without even realizing it.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;u&gt; In this episode, we explore:&lt;/u&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;Why people-pleasing is &lt;em&gt;not kindness&lt;/em&gt;—and how to tell the difference&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;What “self-sabotage grenades” are and how to spot them in your life&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How trauma and nervous system dysregulation fuel burnout cycles&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;The difference between setting a boundary and building a wall&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;What Micro-Boldness is—and how small truth-telling moments change everything&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;u&gt; Heidi’s 3 Tools to Start Reclaiming Your Power:&lt;/u&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Label your patterns without judgment&lt;/strong&gt; – Awareness interrupts autopilot&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;One daily act of self-compassion&lt;/strong&gt; – Small shifts rewrite big stories&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Practice Micro-Boldness&lt;/strong&gt; – Speak, rest, or ask for what you need&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Connect with Heidi Blackie &lt;/strong&gt;on her website &lt;strong&gt;| &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.unshakableme.com" rel="nofollow"&gt;https://www.unshakableme.com&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Connect with Alessandra Charlesworth |&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;a href="https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage" rel="nofollow"&gt;https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourage&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;h3&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Transform from the Inside Out&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/h3&gt;&lt;h3&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/h3&gt;&lt;p&gt;At &lt;strong&gt;Authentic Transformation&lt;/strong&gt;, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of &lt;strong&gt;inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality&lt;/strong&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;We support:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Individuals&lt;/strong&gt; by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Organizations&lt;/strong&gt; by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;If you&amp;#39;re a growth-minded leader ready to remove what&amp;#39;s holding you back—personally or organizationally—we&amp;#39;d love to support you.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;h3&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Book a complimentary 30-minute consultation&lt;/strong&gt; and let&amp;#39;s identify exactly how we can help you meet your strategic and operational objectives.&lt;/h3&gt;&lt;h3&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/h3&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Learn more | &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;a href="https://authentictransformation.ca/" rel="nofollow"&gt;https://authentictransformation.ca/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

The Unlearning Studio

Alessandra Charlesworth

People Pleasing & Self-Sabotage Grenades

JUL 31, 202526 MIN
The Unlearning Studio

People Pleasing & Self-Sabotage Grenades

JUL 31, 202526 MIN

Description

I sit down with Heidi Blackie, former healthcare professional, trauma-informed coach, and founder of UnshakableMe, to talk about the hidden cost of people-pleasing and the self-sabotage “grenades” we carry without even realizing it. In this episode, we explore:Why people-pleasing is not kindness—and how to tell the differenceWhat “self-sabotage grenades” are and how to spot them in your lifeHow trauma and nervous system dysregulation fuel burnout cyclesThe difference between setting a boundary and building a wallWhat Micro-Boldness is—and how small truth-telling moments change everything Heidi’s 3 Tools to Start Reclaiming Your Power:Label your patterns without judgment – Awareness interrupts autopilotOne daily act of self-compassion – Small shifts rewrite big storiesPractice Micro-Boldness – Speak, rest, or ask for what you needConnect with Heidi Blackie on her website | https://www.unshakableme.comConnect with Alessandra Charlesworth | https://linktr.ee/empower.create.encourageTransform from the Inside OutAt Authentic Transformation, we help individuals and organizations overcome emotional, mental, and operational barriers using a powerful blend of inner child healing, neuroscience, quantum physics, and spirituality.We support:Individuals by identifying and reprogramming trauma-rooted patterns that block confidence, clarity, and self-leadership.Organizations by removing operational obstacles, aligning systems with purpose, and optimizing teams for sustainable growth and lasting impact.If you're a growth-minded leader ready to remove what's holding you back—personally or organizationally—we'd love to support you.Book a complimentary 30-minute consultation and let's identify exactly how we can help you meet your strategic and operational objectives.Learn more | https://authentictransformation.ca/