<p>In this episode of <em>Mental Matters</em>, host Asekho Toto sits down with <strong>Judy</strong> to discuss a life defined by extreme resilience and the search for meaning within suffering. Judy opens up about the &quot;decade of survival&quot; where she cared for her daughter, Tatum, who has a genetic disorder, while simultaneously caring for her first husband, Colin, as he battled and eventually succumbed to cancer. She discusses the difference between &quot;coping&quot; and merely &quot;reacting&quot; to survival situations, noting that true processing often only comes years after the crisis has passed. The conversation then shifts to her second marriage, exploring the insidious nature of narcissistic abuse. Judy details how she was gaslit into questioning her own sanity and how she eventually reclaimed her power by realizing that while we cannot control our circumstances, we can always control our reaction to them.</p>