Forty can arrive with confetti and a quiet crisis at the same time. I’m Carlene Humphrey, and I’m now kicking off my This Is 40 series with the real story behind why this milestone changed me: the joy of celebrating with friends, the shock of hearing new health concerns, and the moment I realized I had to advocate for myself instead of accepting one scary answer.We get honest about the pressure of life timelines and the way society expects women to hit certain markers by certain ages. I talk about what it feels like to look back and think, “I didn’t do what I was supposed to do,” and how those beliefs get louder when you grew up without support. I also share how negative self-talk can be rooted in childhood emotional abuse, and why doing the work on mental health is not optional if you want peace in your relationships, your career, and your own skin.You’ll hear why I believe therapy matters, how stigma keeps people silent, and what “start somewhere” can look like if you’re struggling with depression, anxiety, or feeling broken. We also touch on generational trauma in the Caribbean diaspora, the deep impact of words, and why your community and chosen family can be the difference between quitting and continuing.If any part of this hits home, listen all the way through, share it with someone who needs a push, and subscribe so you don’t miss what comes next. After you listen, leave a review and tell me: what’s one decision you made that changed your life path?This episode reflects the opinions of Carlene Humphrey the host of Diva Tonight- I am not a counselor or therapist - I am just sharing my personal experience.If you're looking for a therapist or someone to talk to here are a few suggestions:  For assistance with crisis, please contact:Distress Centre of Toronto:  416-408-4357Gerstein Crisis Centre:  416-929-5200 Assaulted Women’s Help Line: 416-863-0511Toronto Rape Crisis Centre/Multicultural Women Against Rape: 416-597-8808Suicide and Crisis Hotline (Canada Wide): 1-800-448-3000Mental Health Crisis Line (Canada Wide): 1-888-893-8333  Send us Fan MailSupport the showThanks for listening to Diva Tonight! I want to thank my Podcast Editor Sean McAndrew and my Voice Over Actor Bruce Hayword ! Thanks to Altered by Mom for sponsoring the music - I truly appreciate you!Follow Diva Tonight Podcast on social media! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DiivaontheradioInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/diivaontheradioTikTok        https://www.tiktok.com/diivaontheradioTwitter/X    https://x.com/DivaontheRadioIf you would like to connect with the show, or share a review please send an email to [email protected] or send us a Text!