Unresolved CPTSD shapes what you may believe is your personality. When you are running trauma energies, your nervous system does not yet believe you are safe. That constant sense of danger drives behavior that feels rigid, confusing, or self-defeating, but these patterns are not fixed. They are survival programs that can be unlearned and reorganized through CPTSD Resolution.

This episode explains why you sometimes feel difficult to be around, why certain reactions repeat, and how to understand the deeper architecture beneath these patterns. When you see the mechanism clearly, you can stop blaming yourself and begin changing what once felt immovable.

Questions answered in this episode:

How can I change my personality? Why do I keep repeating the same mistakes in relationships? Why do I always attract the same people? How can I reprogram my subconscious mind?

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If this episode resonates and you're ready to heal your CPTSD at the root, learn more about Happily Ever After.

About Dr. Tanner Wallace

Dr. Tanner Wallace is a childhood trauma survivor, former university professor, and Level 3 Internal Family Systems Practitioner who specializes in CPTSD Resolution. She founded CPTSD Medicine to offer applied mental health training for high-achieving adults who want a clear, structured path to heal trauma at the root and stop repeating painful relationship patterns. About the Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner Podcast

Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner is a podcast for look-good-on-paper adults with unresolved CPTSD, anxious attachment, or repeated relationship pain. If you look confident on the outside but feel overwhelmed, confused, or ashamed by the patterns you cannot break, this podcast teaches you why.

Each episode breaks down how trauma shapes your emotions, triggers, and relationship choices, and offers practical, research-informed steps to heal at the root. Learn how to stop trauma-driven reactions, understand emotional flashbacks, build secure attachment, create healthier relationships, and finally feel safe inside your own system.

Hosted by Dr. Tanner Wallace, PhD and Level 3 Internal Family Systems practitioner, this podcast provides applied mental health training for adults who want clarity, stability, and a structured path to CPTSD Resolution.

If you want to heal deeply, choose partners wisely, and build a life that feels secure and aligned, you are in the right place.