so you've accidentally cursed yourself
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Because youâre never actually blocked</em></p><p>* <a target="_blank" href="https://holisticism.myflodesk.com/newage-playbook"><strong>The New Age Playbook for Spellbinding, Canât-Stop-Reading Copy</strong></a> â <em>a 35-page downloadable workbook to take your writing from blah to bingeable</em></p><p></p><p>I know, <em>I knooooooow</em>. You didnât mean to! Yet here we are, and somehow every time you put a quarter into the metaphorical vending machine of life expecting a gumball, you get served up a turd instead. Two quarters? Two turds. </p><p>When it comes to a *certain* area of your life, it seems like it doesnât matter if you try harder, sink more money into it, or spend more time on it â things just get more fucked worse. You read the title of this post and thought, â<em>cursed myself? Yeah, that kind of checks out.â </em></p><p>Today I want to (cheekily) help you reverse your self-curse. </p><p>How to know if youâve cursed yourself</p><p>Close your eyes. Be honest. What part of your life feels like itâs been cursed by a bridge troll? Where are you running up that hill only to slide back down even faster? Where are you investing $50 and somehow losing $60?</p><p>Thatâs your curse zone, baby.</p><p>(Important caveat: When I say âcurse,â Iâm talking about areas where you have agency and control.) </p><p>Four Ways You Might Have Accidentally Played Yourself</p><p>1. Youâre performing vulnerability or authenticity with ulterior motives </p><p>Are you sharing something deeply personal because you genuinely want to, or because you think itâll perform well? Are you trauma-dumping for engagement? Are you trying to sanitize your shadow by talking about it before youâve actually worked through it?</p><p>Listen, Iâm not saying you canât be vulnerable. But if youâre using your emotional experiences as content strategy, that energy gets <em>muddy</em>. And muddy energy = gunky outcomes.</p><p>2. Youâre sharing from an open wound</p><p>Thereâs sharing from a scar (good), sharing from a scab (risky), and sharing from an open wound (youâre gonna bleed on people, and they donât like that).</p><p>When you share something that just happened â before youâve had time to sit with it, make sense of it, or get any perspective â you get a pretty flat, superficial take. Premature sharing can actually keep you stuck in that painful place instead of moving through it. And yeah, that can definitely make you <em>feel </em>liked youâre been cursed. </p><p>3. Youâre building in public with the wrong materials at the wrong time </p><p>Building in public is great advice⌠sometimes! </p><p>But if youâre sharing your nascent idea â the one thatâs still so delicate a light breeze could knock it over â youâre building with materials that canât withstand pressure yet. One strong exhale from the internet and your whole thing collapses.</p><p>Wait until you have cement bricks. Or at least plywood. Your baby ideas need protection and nurturing, not a tomato-throwing audience.</p><p>4. Youâre being weird about change </p><p>Two sides of the same cursed coin:</p><p>* <strong>Option A</strong>: You changed dramatically overnight (from the audienceâs perspective) because you were hiding your evolution the whole time. Now everyoneâs confused and feels bamboozled.</p><p>* <strong>Option B</strong>: Youâre resisting change even though every fiber of your being wants to evolve, and that resistance is making you <em>miserable</em>.</p><p>Both lead to the same outcome: things feeling cursed because youâre not being honest about your becoming.</p><p>How to Reverse the Curse</p><p><strong>Step 1: Cleanse</strong>Salt bath. Cleanse your space. Cleanse the specific area of your life that feels cursed. </p><p><strong>Step 2: Get Ruthlessly Clear</strong>What do you actually want? What do you <em>not</em> want? You need both to create a clear picture. âI want a delicious cheeseburger with no soggy lettuce and no tomatoesâ is way more specific than âI donât want soggy food.â</p><p>Be honest about your motivations. Are you sharing because it feels right, or because youâre performing? Only you know.</p><p><strong>Step 3: Protect Yourself</strong>Spiritually, mentally, emotionally. Not all attention is good attention. Get strategic about who you want to see you and who you hope ignores you. </p><p><strong>Step 4: Strategic Silence Protocol</strong>The ultimate question: <strong>If you couldnât share this with anyone, would you still want to do it?</strong></p><p>If yes â hell yeah, thatâs intrinsic motivation, go for it.If no â good to know! Maybe the exciting part is the party at the end, not the actual thing.</p><p>Thereâs an art to shutting the f**k up sometimes. Not everything is for everyone. Some ideas are too delicate to expose to other peopleâs opinions before youâve spent real time with them.</p><p>Write Your New Spell</p><p>A spell is just: clear intention + gathered energy + actions that align with what you want.</p><p>You can jump over a dictionary on the first day of school. You can whisper intentions into your morning coffee. You can make it up! Itâs just like when you were a kid and decided that picking three flowers while spinning in a circle would make your crush like you back.</p><p>Thatâs magic. You can still do that. Youâre just old now.</p><p>So: have you accidentally cursed yourself? And more importantly, what spell are you gonna cast to fix it?</p><p>Drop it in the comments. I wanna know.</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://thetwelfthhouse.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2">thetwelfthhouse.substack.com/subscribe</a>
