<p>Let's be honest—most of us really don’t want to talk about envy. It's uncomfortable, it feels icky, and it brings up all sorts of emotions we'd rather not face. You know we <em>love</em> to talk about jealousy, but understanding envy, especially how it <em>differs</em> from jealousy, can also be incredibly valuable for relational and personal growth.</p><p><strong>In this episode, we talk about:</strong></p><p>— The difference between envy and jealousy, and why we often conflate them</p><p>— How envy involves comparing ourselves to others and breaking people down into parts rather than seeing them as whole humans</p><p>— The underlying sense of unfairness that fuels envy and how it can become destructive</p><p>— Why envy can be both a powerful motivator <em>and</em> a path to self-destruction</p><p>— How envy shows up specifically in non-monogamous relationships, especially when it appears alongside jealousy</p><p>— The way envy can point us toward our genuine wants and desires if we're willing to examine it</p><p>— How envy can be valuable individuation material that helps us understand our values and what we truly want</p><p>— The destructive potential of envy in relationships and communities when left unexamined</p><p>— Practical ways to work with envy when it arises, including using it as information rather than letting it control our actions</p><p>— The importance of considering not just what we envy in others, but whether we're willing to do what it takes to achieve similar outcomes</p><p><strong>Resources mentioned in this episode:</strong></p><p>— <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3175786-cinderella-and-her-sisters">Cinderella and Her Sisters: The Envied and the Envying</a> by Ann and Barry Ulanov</p><p>— <a href="https://whatiscompersion.com/">What is Compersion?</a> by Marie Thouin</p><p>— <a href="https://www.karpmandramatriangle.com/">The Drama Triangle</a> concept by Stephen Karpman</p><p>JOIN The Year of Opening® community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at <a href="http://www.theyearofopening.com/">www.TheYearOfOpening.com</a></p><p>Learn the <a href="https://www.jolihamilton.com/salon">5 secrets to open your relationship the smart way</a></p><p>Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at <a href="http://www.joliquiz.com/">www.JoliQuiz.com</a></p><p>Get the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! <a href="https://www.jolihamilton.com/ama">Sign up for an Ask Me Anything here</a></p><p>Music: Dance of Felt by <a href="https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/242798">Blue Dot Sessions</a></p>
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