<p>What if your child’s “behavior problem” isn’t a behavior problem at all?</p><p></p><p>In this deeply practical and paradigm-shifting conversation, I sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Ross Greene, originator of the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) approach, to rethink everything we’ve been taught about parenting, discipline, and so-called “challenging behavior.”</p><p></p><p>Dr. Greene, author of The Explosive Child and Lost at School, shares how years of working with children and families led him to one central realization: kids don’t fail to meet expectations because they “won’t," they struggle because they “can’t yet.”</p><p></p><p>Together, we explore why traditional tools like sticker charts, timeouts, punishments, and “tough love” often miss the real issue entirely; and how they can damage trust and connection in the process.</p><p></p><p>Instead, Dr. Greene offers a radically different approach: one that prioritizes collaboration, curiosity, and solving the real problems behind behavior rather than reacting to the behavior itself.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Topics covered in this episode:</p><p></p><p></p><ul><li>The hidden flaw in behavior-based discipline systems (timeouts, sticker charts, rewards)</li><li>Why behavior is often a signal, not the problem itself</li><li>How trauma shapes both kids’ behavior and parents’ reactions</li><li>Why “proactive” problem solving reduces conflict and overwhelm</li><li>What to do when kids shut down, escalate, or refuse to talk</li></ul><p></p><p>About the Guest:</p><p></p><p>Dr. Ross Greene is a clinical psychologist and the originator of Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS), an evidence-based approach to understanding and supporting children with behavioral challenges. He is the author of several influential books, including <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Explosive-Child-Understanding-Frustrated-Chronically/dp/0062270451/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1459714667&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=explosive+child">The Explosive Child</a>, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Lost-School-Behavioral-Challenges-published/dp/B00Y34F5SQ/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1459715501&amp;sr=1-5">Lost at School</a>, and <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Found-Behaviorally-Challenging-Students/dp/1118898575/ref=pd_sim_sbs_14_3?ie=UTF8&amp;dpID=51MEO9wsCuL&amp;dpSrc=sims&amp;preST=_AC_UL160_SR106%2C160_&amp;refRID=0Y68C8MP1GJ869GZPVPZ">Lost and Found</a>, as well as his recently published book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Kids-Who-Arent-Okay-Reimagining-ebook/dp/B0DV6M7NBB/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0">The Kids Who Aren’t Okay: The Urgent Case for Re-Imagining Support, Belonging, and Hope in Schools</a>. To learn more about Dr. Ross Greene, and to buy copies of his books, you can visit his website <a href="https://www.stephaniefoo.me/">here</a>.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Connect with me on Instagram<a href="https://www.instagram.com/dr.koslowitzpsychology/" style="color:rgb(17,85,204);background-color:rgb(255,255,255);"> @dr.koslowitzpsychology</a> and check out my new book <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DCSWBL4M" style="color:rgb(17,85,204);background-color:rgb(255,255,255);">Post-Traumatic Parenting: Break the Cycle and Become the Parent You Always Wanted to Be</a></p>