<description>&lt;div&gt; &lt;p&gt;Do you want to know why most communications in relationship end up with a fight? &lt;br&gt;This happens when unchecked criticism and defensiveness rule interactions with your partner. What comes first? Does feeling always criticised by your partner cause you to be defensive? Or is your default defensiveness that causes your partner to up the volume of their criticism? The answer is: both. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Criticism and defensiveness will bring more and more conflict between husband and wife to the point of every communication ending with a fight or stonewalling. In this episode we are sharing the 4 steps that will help any couple to transform the way they communicate, eradicating the need to get defensive and creating more emotional intimacy and connection.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Chapters: &lt;br&gt;00:00:00 Understanding defensiveness&lt;br&gt;00:01:34 How defensiveness impacts communications&lt;br&gt;00:04:51 Childhood trauma and the cycle of criticism&lt;br&gt;00:09:25 The 4 steps that will change everything&lt;br&gt;00:14:49 The transformative power of owning your inner state and resistance&lt;br&gt;00:18:50 Using mirroring and labelling to disarm resistance&lt;br&gt;00:29:19 Implement these actions to achieve change&lt;br&gt;00:36:58 Empower your marriage with these communication tools &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Related episodes:&lt;br&gt;&lt;a href="https://audioboom.com/posts/8878837-the-4-traits-that-will-doom-your-marriage-if-you-don-t-act-now-marriage-apocalypse-series-part-1"&gt;Ep11: 4 traits that will doom your marriage if you don’t act – Marriage Apocalypse Series, Part 1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;a href="https://youtu.be/ZEv1QjYmB5k?si=FNuNk-Gx0CJuL-u8"&gt;Ep 11 You Tube video&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://audioboom.com/posts/8882597-how-to-stop-toxic-criticism-from-ruining-your-marriage-marriage-apocalypse-series-part-2"&gt;Ep 12: How to stop toxic criticism from ruining your marriage – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 2&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;a href="https://youtu.be/1a0nZdNeubk?si=UbYhVteRH71yfhUX"&gt;Ep 12 YouTube video&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Track 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description>

The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast

Mark Usher and Matilde Crocini

13: 4 steps to avoid defensiveness from hurting communication in your relationship – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 3

APR 10, 202639 MIN
The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast

13: 4 steps to avoid defensiveness from hurting communication in your relationship – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 3

APR 10, 202639 MIN

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<div> <p>Do you want to know why most communications in relationship end up with a fight? <br>This happens when unchecked criticism and defensiveness rule interactions with your partner. What comes first? Does feeling always criticised by your partner cause you to be defensive? Or is your default defensiveness that causes your partner to up the volume of their criticism? The answer is: both. </p><p>Criticism and defensiveness will bring more and more conflict between husband and wife to the point of every communication ending with a fight or stonewalling. In this episode we are sharing the 4 steps that will help any couple to transform the way they communicate, eradicating the need to get defensive and creating more emotional intimacy and connection.</p><p>Chapters: <br>00:00:00 Understanding defensiveness<br>00:01:34 How defensiveness impacts communications<br>00:04:51 Childhood trauma and the cycle of criticism<br>00:09:25 The 4 steps that will change everything<br>00:14:49 The transformative power of owning your inner state and resistance<br>00:18:50 Using mirroring and labelling to disarm resistance<br>00:29:19 Implement these actions to achieve change<br>00:36:58 Empower your marriage with these communication tools </p><p>Related episodes:<br><a href="https://audioboom.com/posts/8878837-the-4-traits-that-will-doom-your-marriage-if-you-don-t-act-now-marriage-apocalypse-series-part-1">Ep11: 4 traits that will doom your marriage if you don’t act – Marriage Apocalypse Series, Part 1</a><br><a href="https://youtu.be/ZEv1QjYmB5k?si=FNuNk-Gx0CJuL-u8">Ep 11 You Tube video</a></p><p><a href="https://audioboom.com/posts/8882597-how-to-stop-toxic-criticism-from-ruining-your-marriage-marriage-apocalypse-series-part-2">Ep 12: How to stop toxic criticism from ruining your marriage – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 2</a><br><a href="https://youtu.be/1a0nZdNeubk?si=UbYhVteRH71yfhUX">Ep 12 YouTube video</a></p><p>Track 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.</p><p>#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching</p></div>