Men’s Therapy Podcast

Visit: menstherapy.online/start The nice guy’s unspoken deal is simple: be agreeable, keep everyone happy, and eventually get the love, approval, or respect you think you’ve earned. On this Men’s Therapy Podcast roundtable, host Marc Azoulay brings together Tim Wienecke, Pete Armstrong, and Josh Brewster to unpack nice guy syndrome, where it comes from, and why trying to be liked by everyone can leave men feeling resentful, disconnected, and unsure of who they really are. The panel explores how childhood experiences, emotionally overwhelmed parents, bullying, and the pressure to earn love can teach boys to suppress their needs and avoid conflict. They look at the covert contracts behind people-pleasing, the resentment that builds when unspoken expectations go unmet, and the cycle of shame and anger that can follow. The conversation also examines what happens when a man begins changing his behaviour in a relationship, why assertiveness doesn’t have to mean becoming an asshole, and how to express anger without turning it into aggression. Practical takeaways include learning to disappoint people, setting social boundaries, trying a “negotiated no” instead of automatically saying yes, and building an identity through action, honest friendships, and community. The central question is how to move from performing niceness to showing up with genuine kindness, clearer needs, and greater authenticity. Connect with PanelTim WieneckeWebsite: https://americanmasculinity.com/ Pete ArmstrongWebsite: https://peteinspires.com/ Josh BrewsterWebsite: https://menstherapy.online/ Resources MentionedIndividual Therapy:https://menstherapy.online/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Individual_TherapyMen’s group:https://menstherapy.online/mens-groups/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Mens_GroupsMTO Slack:https://menstherapy.online/slack/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Slack_CTA&utm_campaign=MTO_SlackWebsite:https://menstherapy.online/

Visit: menstherapy.online/start The scorekeeping spreadsheet in your head never shows a balanced ledger. On this Men’s Therapy Podcast roundtable, host Marc Azoulay asks why resentment so often arrives in relationships where both partners are convinced they’re the one doing more. He is joined by three therapists. Melissa Ryan, a returning guest, is a couples counsellor in Lakewood, Colorado, who works with couples on trail-based and outdoor sessions. Sylvan Herb Summers is a Boulder therapist and Men’s Therapy Online coach whose work is somatic and attachment-based. Riley Zweig has a private practice in Broomfield, Colorado, focused on perfectionism, “not enough” beliefs, and relationship OCD. The panel treats scorekeeping as data rather than a character flaw, and asks what unspoken expectations sit underneath it. They look at the columns on the spreadsheet: sex as a currency for approval or desire, provider pressure, and the covert contracts behind nice guy syndrome. They question whether 50/50 is a real standard, and Melissa traces the “wanter versus wanted” scripts we inherit from culture. They also cover why a sacrifice mindset curdles while a generosity mindset builds trust, and why the Gottmans’ “emotional bank account” makes an 80/20 season survivable. Practical tools include Eve Rodsky’s Fair Play cards and a step-by-step worksheet for sorting out who carries the mental load. The conversation closes on a few self-checks: “Would I want to date me?”, the one-up/one-down trap of shame and blame, and the question “What don’t I understand about this fight we’ve had a hundred times?” Connect with PanelMelissa Ryan:Substack: https://counselormelissa.substack.com/ Silvan Summers:Website: naturalmovementpsychotherapy.com Riley Zwaig:Website: blackbeartherapy.com Resources MentionedIndividual Therapy:https://menstherapy.online/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Individual_TherapyMen’s grouphttps://menstherapy.online/mens-groups/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Mens_GroupsMTO Slackhttps://menstherapy.online/slack/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Slack_CTA&utm_campaign=MTO_SlackWebsite:https://menstherapy.online/

Visit: menstherapy.online/start Sameera Sullivan, a matchmaker, joins Marc Azoulay to unpack why dating feels so hard for men right now. Learn what it takes to find and keep a real relationship. Drawing on her experience vetting and coaching clients, Sameera explains how app fatigue, endless options, and approach anxiety leave many good men stuck. They discuss how attachment styles, love languages, and personality types shape compatibility, why some men keep choosing the wrong partner, and how divorced men can re-enter dating with confidence. The conversation also covers handling conflict once the honeymoon phase fades, the “70–80% compatible” rule, texting and first-date etiquette, reading social cues, and why giving a connection a few dates can change everything. Connect with Sameera: Website: https://sameerasullivan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sameera_sullivan LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sameera-sullivan-20773820 Individual Therapy: https://menstherapy.online/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Individual_Therapy Men’s group https://menstherapy.online/mens-groups/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Mens_Groups MTO Slack https://menstherapy.online/slack/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Slack_CTA&utm_campaign=MTO_Slack Website: https://menstherapy.online/

Visit: menstherapy.online/start Dr. Jessica Gold joins Marc Azoulay to explore the surprising connection between chemistry and romantic relationships. Drawing on her background in organic chemistry, systems theory, and relationship science, Jessica explains why relationships are dynamic systems. She highlights why simply “trying harder” often doesn’t create meaningful change. They discuss high-leverage relationship shifts, learning your partner’s “operating manual,” effective repair after conflict, moving beyond right-versus-wrong thinking, and understanding the emotional patterns beneath disagreements. The conversation also explores appreciation, desire, intimacy, and how couples can create healthier feedback loops that strengthen their connection. Connect with Jessica:Bliss Science: https://www.bliss-science.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-jessica-gold Resources MentionedIndividual Therapy:https://menstherapy.online/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Individual_TherapyMen’s grouphttps://menstherapy.online/mens-groups/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Mens_GroupsMTO Slackhttps://menstherapy.online/slack/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Slack_CTA&utm_campaign=MTO_SlackWebsite:https://menstherapy.online/

Visit: menstherapy.online/start The midlife crisis has a stock image problem: sports car, affair, motorcycle, a man trying to be twenty-two again. On this Men's Therapy Podcast roundtable, host Marc Azoulay brings together three voices who work with men at exactly this turning point. Brooks, a therapist and retreat leader based in Central Iowa with a telehealth practice in Colorado; Desmond Cohen, a counsellor and longtime Man Kind Project facilitator based in Oregon; and Mark Platten, who has spent over two decades in men's work, now focused specifically on midlife, andropause, and the men whose partners are moving through perimenopause. The conversation moves well past the cliché, tracing the midlife crisis back to an older idea: a reckoning with the ladder you've spent your whole life climbing, and whether you ever leaned against the right wall. The panel debates whether this is a modern phenomenon or a timeless one (Brooks points to Dante and The Odyssey), why the timeline seems to be shifting a decade later than it used to, and why roughly two-thirds of midlife divorces in the U.S. are initiated by women rather than men. From there, it gets personal: Robert Bly's image of the shame men shove into an invisible bag starting in childhood; a real case study of a marriage rebuilt after a hidden affair came to light; and the pattern of "being right" as a childhood survival strategy that quietly wrecks adult relationships. The episode closes on spirituality and altered states, ayahuasca, psilocybin, vision quests, and why Joseph Campbell wouldn't take a student under 40. Connect with PanelBrooks Witter:Website: https://vidapsychotherapy.com/ Desmond Cohen:Website: https://desmondcohencounseling.com/ Mark J. Platten:Website: http://markjplatten.com/ Resources MentionedIndividual Therapyhttps://menstherapy.online/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Individual_TherapyMen’s grouphttps://menstherapy.online/mens-groups/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Service&utm_campaign=Mens_GroupsMTO Slackhttps://menstherapy.online/slack/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Slack_CTA&utm_campaign=MTO_SlackWebsite:https://menstherapy.online/