Dr. Cassidy Freitas grew up watching her mom — a Hispanic judge who fought her way into white male spaces with no margin for error — come home carrying that same no-error version of herself. Her dad pushed straight A's as the path to financial safety. She absorbed all of it.
And then she became a mom.
She had a plan. A written, formatted, shared-with-her-doctor birth plan. When it fell apart in the operating room — her daughter already here, her husband saying "look at her," and Cassidy turning her face away — the drive that had gotten her through everything else had nothing to offer her.
Dr. Cassidy is a therapist and the author of <a href="https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/dr-cassidy-freitas-phd-lmft/mom-needs-a-moment/9781523533534/?lens=workman-publishing-company" rel="noopener noreferrer">Mom Needs a Moment</a>. In this conversation with Dr. Becky, she traces how perfectionism forms in childhood as a survival strategy, why it works right up until you have a baby, and what it actually looks like to loosen the grip without losing your edge.
There's a phrase she comes back to: context is the bridge to compassion. You can't have compassion for the way perfectionism shows up in you as a mom if you don't understand where it came from.
*
Looking for more support navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and life with a new baby? <a href="https://www.goodinside.com/lp/baby/?utm_source=podcast_baby&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_06182026_Maguire" rel="noopener noreferrer">Good Inside Baby</a> gives you practical tools, scripts, and expert guidance for the moments that can feel most overwhelming in early parenthood.
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Dr. Cassidy Freitas grew up watching her mom — a Hispanic judge who fought her way into white male spaces with no margin for error — come home carrying that same no-error version of herself. Her dad pushed straight A's as the path to financial safety. She absorbed all of it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And then she became a mom.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;She had a plan. A written, formatted, shared-with-her-doctor birth plan. When it fell apart in the operating room — her daughter already here, her husband saying "look at her," and Cassidy turning her face away — the drive that had gotten her through everything else had nothing to offer her.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Dr. Cassidy is a therapist and the author of &lt;a href="https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/dr-cassidy-freitas-phd-lmft/mom-needs-a-moment/9781523533534/?lens=workman-publishing-company" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;&lt;i&gt;Mom Needs a Moment&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/a&gt;. In this conversation with Dr. Becky, she traces how perfectionism forms in childhood as a survival strategy, why it works right up until you have a baby, and what it actually looks like to loosen the grip without losing your edge.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There's a phrase she comes back to: context is the bridge to compassion. You can't have compassion for the way perfectionism shows up in you as a mom if you don't understand where it came from.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;*&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Looking for more support navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and life with a new baby? &lt;a href="https://www.goodinside.com/lp/baby/?utm_source=podcast_baby&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&amp;utm_content=shownotes_06182026_Maguire" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;Good Inside Baby&lt;/a&gt; gives you practical tools, scripts, and expert guidance for the moments that can feel most overwhelming in early parenthood.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:&lt;/p&gt;
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 &lt;li&gt;&lt;a href="https://olehenriksen.com/collections/eyecare/products/banana-bright-eye-creme" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;Ole Henriksen:&lt;/a&gt; Use the code DRBECKY30 for 30% off the Banana Bright+ Eye Crème&lt;/li&gt;
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Dr. Becky talks to Dr. Cassidy Freitas about how perfectionism forms in childhood as a survival strategy, why it works right up until you have a baby, and what it actually looks like to loosen the grip without losing your edge.

Good Inside with Dr. Becky

Never Off Duty: Perfectionism and Motherhood

Parents are being sold creativity like it's a subscription box. Workshops, kits, frameworks, scripts: the message being that your kid needs more imagination and it's your job to install it. Austin Kleon, author of Steal Like an Artist and Don't Call It Art, has a different take: your kid already has it. The imagination, the playfulness, the willingness to not-know — it's all there. The question isn't how to give it to them. It's how to stop blocking it. And maybe, while we're here, how to get a little of it back ourselves.
Dr. Becky and Austin talk about what creativity actually needs to thrive (not a workshop), what so-called "problem kids" and great artists have in common, why your kid's obsession with garage doors is not a problem, the link between play and depression, the game that got Austin through the pandemic, and the teeth-brushing song Becky invented entirely by accident.
Read Dr. Becky’s ideas for <a href="https://www.goodinside.com/blog/how-to-be-a-playful-parent-when-you-dont-feel-like-playing" rel="noopener noreferrer">how to be a playful parent when you don’t feel like playing</a>.
*
From the newborn days to the teen years, <a href="https://www.goodinside.com/?utm_source=podcast_gi&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_06022026_Stern" rel="noopener noreferrer">Good Inside</a> now supports parents through every stage of childhood — with practical guidance for the moments that matter most. 
Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:
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<description>&lt;p&gt;Parents are being sold creativity like it's a subscription box. Workshops, kits, frameworks, scripts: the message being that your kid needs more imagination and it's your job to install it. Austin Kleon, author of &lt;i&gt;Steal Like an Artist&lt;/i&gt; and &lt;i&gt;Don't Call It Art&lt;/i&gt;, has a different take: your kid already has it. The imagination, the playfulness, the willingness to not-know — it's all there. The question isn't how to give it to them. It's how to stop blocking it. And maybe, while we're here, how to get a little of it back ourselves.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Dr. Becky and Austin talk about what creativity actually needs to thrive (not a workshop), what so-called "problem kids" and great artists have in common, why your kid's obsession with garage doors is not a problem, the link between play and depression, the game that got Austin through the pandemic, and the teeth-brushing song Becky invented entirely by accident.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Read Dr. Becky’s ideas for &lt;a href="https://www.goodinside.com/blog/how-to-be-a-playful-parent-when-you-dont-feel-like-playing" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;how to be a playful parent when you don’t feel like playing&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;*&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;From the newborn days to the teen years, &lt;a href="https://www.goodinside.com/?utm_source=podcast_gi&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&amp;utm_content=shownotes_06022026_Stern" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;Good Inside&lt;/a&gt; now supports parents through every stage of childhood — with practical guidance for the moments that matter most. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:&lt;/p&gt;
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Dr. Becky and Austin Kleon talk about what creativity actually needs to thrive, and what so-called "problem kids" and great artists have in common.

Stop Trying to Make Your Kids Creative

You and your partner love your kids. So why does it sometimes feel like you're parenting in completely different worlds?
In this listener-favorite episode from the Good Inside archives, Dr. Becky talks with a mom named Carmella who feels stuck between two parenting styles: she's the one holding the routines and boundaries, while her husband tends to be more flexible in the moment. The result? More conflict, more emotional labor, and a growing sense that she's carrying the weight of consistency alone.
Together, they unpack what kids actually need when parents approach things differently, how to talk about parenting without turning your partner into the enemy, and why being "on the same page" doesn't mean becoming the same parent.
Because parenting was never meant to be carried by one person.
With <a href="https://www.goodinside.com/membership-perks/?utm_source=podcast_gi&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_20260609_coparent" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Family Plans</a>, annual Good Inside members can now invite a coparent or caregiver into their account - so you’re building from the same foundation, sharing the same language, and supporting your family together. Click the link to learn more.
Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:
<ul>
 <li><a href="http://walmart.com/playdoh" rel="noopener noreferrer">Play-Doh</a>: Shop Play-Doh at Walmart for a summer of imaginative play</li>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;You and your partner love your kids. So why does it sometimes feel like you're parenting in completely different worlds?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In this listener-favorite episode from the Good Inside archives, Dr. Becky talks with a mom named Carmella who feels stuck between two parenting styles: she's the one holding the routines and boundaries, while her husband tends to be more flexible in the moment. The result? More conflict, more emotional labor, and a growing sense that she's carrying the weight of consistency alone.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Together, they unpack what kids actually need when parents approach things differently, how to talk about parenting without turning your partner into the enemy, and why being "on the same page" doesn't mean becoming the same parent.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Because parenting was never meant to be carried by one person.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;With &lt;a href="https://www.goodinside.com/membership-perks/?utm_source=podcast_gi&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&amp;utm_content=shownotes_20260609_coparent" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;Family Plans&lt;/a&gt;, annual Good Inside members can now invite a coparent or caregiver into their account - so you’re building from the same foundation, sharing the same language, and supporting your family together. Click the link to learn more.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;&lt;a href="http://walmart.com/playdoh" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Play-Doh&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;: Shop Play-Doh at Walmart for a summer of imaginative play&lt;/li&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;&lt;a href="https://click.pscrb.fm/2f" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;Airbnb&lt;/a&gt;: Host your home or book your next stay on Airbnb&lt;/li&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.osoandme.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;Oso &amp; Me:&lt;/a&gt; Use the code OSOGOOD15 for 15% off clothes newborn through age ten&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;p&gt;Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See &lt;a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com"&gt;pcm.adswizz.com&lt;/a&gt; for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Two Parenting Styles, One Family, and Conflicting Boundaries - Revisit

AI is getting better at sounding human. Better at conversation. Better at reassurance. Better at knowing exactly what we want to hear.
So what happens when our kids start building relationships with machines designed to remove friction?
In this conversation, Dr. Becky talks with former Wall Street Journal tech columnist <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Am-Not-Robot-Almost-Everything/dp/0063446618" rel="noopener noreferrer">Joanna Stern</a> about AI toys, chatbot companions, creativity, learning, and the surprising role frustration plays in healthy human development.
Together, they explore why “helpful” technology can potentially short-circuit the skills kids most need to build: patience, resilience, independent thinking, and real connection.
Joanna also shares what happened when she spent time building a relationship with an AI chatbot herself... and why it left her more concerned about kids and companion bots than ever before.
*
From the newborn days to the teen years, <a href="https://www.goodinside.com?utm_source=podcast_gi&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_06022026_Stern" rel="noopener noreferrer">Good Inside</a> now supports parents through every stage of childhood — with practical guidance for the moments that matter most.
Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:
<ul>
 <li><a href="http://walmart.com/playdoh" rel="noopener noreferrer">Play-Doh</a>: Shop Play-Doh at Walmart for a summer of imaginative play</li>
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<description>&lt;p&gt;AI is getting better at sounding human. Better at conversation. Better at reassurance. Better at knowing exactly what we want to hear.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So what happens when our kids start building relationships with machines designed to remove friction?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In this conversation, Dr. Becky talks with former Wall Street Journal tech columnist &lt;a href="https://www.amazon.com/Am-Not-Robot-Almost-Everything/dp/0063446618" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;Joanna Stern&lt;/a&gt; about AI toys, chatbot companions, creativity, learning, and the surprising role frustration plays in healthy human development.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Together, they explore why “helpful” technology can potentially short-circuit the skills kids most need to build: patience, resilience, independent thinking, and real connection.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Joanna also shares what happened when she spent time building a relationship with an AI chatbot herself... and why it left her more concerned about kids and companion bots than ever before.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;*&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;From the newborn days to the teen years, &lt;a href="https://www.goodinside.com?utm_source=podcast_gi&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&amp;utm_content=shownotes_06022026_Stern" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;Good Inside&lt;/a&gt; now supports parents through every stage of childhood — with practical guidance for the moments that matter most.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;&lt;a href="http://walmart.com/playdoh" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;Play-Doh&lt;/a&gt;: Shop Play-Doh at Walmart for a summer of imaginative play&lt;/li&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.coterie.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;Coterie&lt;/a&gt;: Get 20% off with the code GOODINSIDEBABY20&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;br/&gt; &lt;p&gt;Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See &lt;a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com"&gt;pcm.adswizz.com&lt;/a&gt; for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Dr. Becky talks with former Wall Street Journal tech columnist Joanna Stern about AI toys, chatbot companions, creativity, learning, and the surprising role frustration plays in healthy human development.

What AI Could Be Doing to Our Kids

After kids, a lot of couples assume intimacy is supposed to disappear. You’re exhausted, touched-out, overwhelmed by logistics, carrying invisible mental load — and somewhere along the way, sex can start to feel complicated, distant, or impossible to even talk about.
But what if the story is more nuanced than that?
In this episode, Dr. Becky talks with board-certified OB/GYN, sexual wellness expert, and Chief Medical Officer at Hers, Dr. Jessica Shepherd, about new survey data exploring what actually happens to intimacy in long-term relationships and parenthood.
They discuss:
<ul>
 <li>why some married couples report better sex after kids</li>
 <li>how vulnerability changes intimacy</li>
 <li>the connection between mental load and desire</li>
 <li>hormones, perimenopause, and libido</li>
 <li>why “whose fault is this?” is often the wrong question</li>
 <li>what it means to approach intimacy from a same-team perspective</li>
</ul>
This conversation is honest, practical, funny at times — and ultimately hopeful. Because intimacy is about feeling seen, understood, connected, and able to locate yourself inside your relationship again.
Dr. Becky wrote up a few tips for talking to your partner about intimacy after kids. You can read those <a href="https://www.goodinside.com/blog/sex-and-intimacy-after-kids/" rel="noopener noreferrer">here</a>.
Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:
<ul>
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 <li><a href="https://www.osoandme.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Oso & Me:</a> Use the code OSOGOOD15 for 15% off clothes newborn through age ten</li>
</ul> Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

<description>&lt;p&gt;After kids, a lot of couples assume intimacy is supposed to disappear. You’re exhausted, touched-out, overwhelmed by logistics, carrying invisible mental load — and somewhere along the way, sex can start to feel complicated, distant, or impossible to even talk about.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But what if the story is more nuanced than that?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In this episode, Dr. Becky talks with board-certified OB/GYN, sexual wellness expert, and Chief Medical Officer at Hers, Dr. Jessica Shepherd, about new survey data exploring what actually happens to intimacy in long-term relationships and parenthood.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;They discuss:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;why some married couples report &lt;i&gt;better&lt;/i&gt; sex after kids&lt;/li&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;how vulnerability changes intimacy&lt;/li&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;the connection between mental load and desire&lt;/li&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;hormones, perimenopause, and libido&lt;/li&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;why “whose fault is this?” is often the wrong question&lt;/li&gt;
 &lt;li&gt;what it means to approach intimacy from a same-team perspective&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;This conversation is honest, practical, funny at times — and ultimately hopeful. Because intimacy is about feeling seen, understood, connected, and able to locate yourself inside your relationship again.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Dr. Becky wrote up a few tips for talking to your partner about intimacy after kids. You can read those &lt;a href="https://www.goodinside.com/blog/sex-and-intimacy-after-kids/" rel="noopener noreferrer"&gt;here&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:&lt;/p&gt;
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