<p>We explore one of the most sensitive and least discussed topics in Jewish life: money and marriage.</p><p><br></p><ul><li>​ Why do so many couples avoid talking about money?</li><li>​ What do fights about money really represent?</li><li>​ How can couples build financial trust and literacy before and during marriage?</li><li>​ What role should community education play in preparing young people for real-world financial responsibility?</li></ul><p><br></p><p>To unpack all this, we sat down with Sarah Nissel, an attorney, law professor at Pepperdine, and Executive Director of the Jewish Divorce Assistance Center of Los Angeles. </p><p><br></p><p>After mediating over 300 divorces, Sarah has learned what truly makes (and breaks) relationships when it comes to money + how self-awareness, communication, and education can prevent heartbreak.</p><p><br></p><p>She shares candid lessons from the front lines: how to talk about money without shame, how to manage conflict constructively, and why the chuppah isn’t the finish line, it’s the starting line.</p><p><br></p><p>It’s a powerful, eye-opening conversation about emotional intelligence, financial transparency, and Torah values in Jewish relationships — not just how to avoid divorce, but how to build marriages that actually thrive.</p><p><br></p><p>👉 ✬ SPONSORS OF EPISODE 105 ✬</p><p><br></p><p>► TWILLORY – Premium menswear that looks sharp and feels even better. 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Make a difference today: https://ColelChabad.org/KosherMoney</p><p><br></p><p>CHAPTERS:</p><p><br></p><p>00:00 Intro</p><p>01:53 Who Is Sarah Nissel?</p><p>02:27 Practicing Law in Los Angeles</p><p>04:10 A Decade of Experience in Family Law</p><p>04:24 What Lawyers See Behind Closed Doors</p><p>05:18 The Lack of Financial Education</p><p>05:56 When One First Goes to a Divorce Lawyer</p><p>07:23 Men vs. Women Divorce Misconceptions</p><p>07:42 Tips for a Healthier Marriage</p><p>11:45 Advice for Newlyweds</p><p>12:56 Improving Conflict Resolution Skills</p><p>18:28 How Frum Couples Manage Money</p><p>21:07 Why Wives Should Know the Finances</p><p>24:20 Twillory</p><p>25:33 The Donors Fund</p><p>27:52 Modeling Healthy Money Habits</p><p>29:34 Being Honest About Debt With Your Spouse</p><p>31:32 Understanding Your Appetite for Risk</p><p>34:33 How to Guide an Amicable Divorce</p><p>37:24 Prenups in the Orthodox Community</p><p>40:00 What Sarah Wants Her Children to Know</p><p>41:35 When Parents Stop Financial Support</p><p>44:14 Separate Bank Accounts</p><p>48:35 Setting Up Newlyweds for Financial Success</p><p>51:05 BitBean</p><p>51:53 Colel Chabad</p><p>52:43 It Is Never Too Late</p><p>55:58 Starting Financial Education Earlier</p><p>59:03 Moving Forward Toward Peace</p><p>1:02:39 Amazing Jewish Resources</p><p>1:05:52 How Sarah Helps People</p><p>1:06:23 You Do Not Need to Recreate the Wheel</p><p>1:08:01 Why Sarah Stays Away From AI</p><p>1:09:26 Sarah’s Nonprofit Work</p><p>1:09:52 Sarah’s Book Recommendations</p><p>1:12:36 The Advantages of the Jewish Community</p><p>1:14:04 Sarah’s Remarkable Yichus</p><p>1:19:26 Thanking Sarah for Joining Us</p><p>1:19:49 Outro</p><p><br></p><ul><li>​ Learn more about Sarah’s organization: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa1lleGR6UkppVW1RMGpzLVJ5emgyWHZZdFFFUXxBQ3Jtc0trYkRsWE5hb3A1Ymk2UW9MWVFjUHlFN3FEWnVYZGFoY21oS3J1aU9XdDRkQWxOLU1hSE5ha0QtaldwYTJhUVRtWS1UVktySnc0alVlX1pyWENwOW1CUEFwRjczVWJDLXBPTmxwaFBuSGxqV1dwLWNMQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.jdacla.org%2F&v=OoiWg8wzGVY">https://www.jdacla.org/</a></li><li>​ One of Sarah's favorite books, The Anxious Generation: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbVVpNEM0dDhUemZsVVZ0c0psRnF1QXBkWWFRZ3xBQ3Jtc0ttUUFEY3VPWHZFVW1ob3JqYVduRXMtNlVNc0M4dGVCWXlkQ1VBR09HSE5qeWVNcFVFSE5CeG16VGMxUkJFYWhFUFY4ZlFzbWhkME9qdHA4T29hSE5LVldBZjVzVmVZbndrRU54Vnc0ejcwRnAzaFBRcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Famzn.to%2F4qnGOvN&v=OoiWg8wzGVY">https://amzn.to/4qnGOv</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>✬ Helpful Efforts Out in the World ✬</p><p><br></p><ul><li>​ Living Smarter Jewish brings free financial coaching to families: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbF83c3BoNEFxOTY0SVpaYkNMY3F0X0hqYTVVZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuNEY0QmhKRDlrZFFGQmVmNW1iNWxpTGdIZnYwR3lqMWNMNlY1QkRvVEpGYWgtQXBfZFViTTdxMWpsMWx0aFR4UWM0YVRnMG1QWFhNdTlldUJYT0pFT0JPeGw2NFhDR1lmMzJBY1FTcDRpRk04bDJDNA&q=https%3A%2F%2Flivingsmarterjewish.org%2F&v=OoiWg8wzGVY">https://livingsmarterjewish.org/</a></li><li>​ Kosher Debt Help – Honest, agenda-free help if you're in debt: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbldhWkExM0hOR2FobnRGdjB1aFFRNlVuTjF3Z3xBQ3Jtc0ttOGlSVnd1VmF5cUw0WlRaLTZMZ0dNTEZZNWl5YUxETTVrNXE4R2lzY3R5X1lyQ0t2d1JIUzVUaFJldDE4UC0waHQzcS04RWpiaThBQzgxUkF2cEVKSXUxYnNhMFRLNEI4ZTA2Nk1jTktlZzBwTEVQQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.kosherdebthelp.com%2F&v=OoiWg8wzGVY">https://www.kosherdebthelp.com/</a></li><li>​ Kosher ADHD – Practical guidance for families living with ADHD: <a 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Kosher Money

Living Lchaim

A Jewish Divorce Mediator Shares What She Sees Behind Closed Doors

DEC 24, 202584 MIN
Kosher Money

A Jewish Divorce Mediator Shares What She Sees Behind Closed Doors

DEC 24, 202584 MIN

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<p>We explore one of the most sensitive and least discussed topics in Jewish life: money and marriage.</p><p><br></p><ul><li>​ Why do so many couples avoid talking about money?</li><li>​ What do fights about money really represent?</li><li>​ How can couples build financial trust and literacy before and during marriage?</li><li>​ What role should community education play in preparing young people for real-world financial responsibility?</li></ul><p><br></p><p>To unpack all this, we sat down with Sarah Nissel, an attorney, law professor at Pepperdine, and Executive Director of the Jewish Divorce Assistance Center of Los Angeles. </p><p><br></p><p>After mediating over 300 divorces, Sarah has learned what truly makes (and breaks) relationships when it comes to money + how self-awareness, communication, and education can prevent heartbreak.</p><p><br></p><p>She shares candid lessons from the front lines: how to talk about money without shame, how to manage conflict constructively, and why the chuppah isn’t the finish line, it’s the starting line.</p><p><br></p><p>It’s a powerful, eye-opening conversation about emotional intelligence, financial transparency, and Torah values in Jewish relationships — not just how to avoid divorce, but how to build marriages that actually thrive.</p><p><br></p><p>👉 ✬ SPONSORS OF EPISODE 105 ✬</p><p><br></p><p>► TWILLORY – Premium menswear that looks sharp and feels even better. End-of-year savings live now at https://Twillory.com/KosherMoney</p><p><br></p><p>► THE DONOR'S FUND – The Donor’s Fund gives you one place to manage all your giving, with a sleek app and smart tools that make donations strategic and seamless. 🎁 Open your free account today: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazJPN2RVUHZ5QUlUZk9YcTZfLW9FY00zd3BxZ3xBQ3Jtc0trS2FweGwxMkFoX2U3UlBqdEZOUU1hRDhTbHAtWDRjSkdsdHY1emRyQU9zdmE1bFVsTEtzUnlrd3FpS3M1cHJiTFpHWmNTS1RxSU5KdW5vU2JSeENVLWZITlN5eE0wc192eVRMYnJLSEZkRWxCdGQtVQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fthedonorsfund.org%2Fkoshermoney&v=OoiWg8wzGVY">https://thedonorsfund.org/koshermoney</a></p><p><br></p><p>► BITBEAN – Turn big ideas into scalable, AI-powered software. Learn more at https://bitbean.link/4edg53</p><p><br></p><p>► COLEL CHABAD – Feeding families in Israel since 1788. Make a difference today: https://ColelChabad.org/KosherMoney</p><p><br></p><p>CHAPTERS:</p><p><br></p><p>00:00 Intro</p><p>01:53 Who Is Sarah Nissel?</p><p>02:27 Practicing Law in Los Angeles</p><p>04:10 A Decade of Experience in Family Law</p><p>04:24 What Lawyers See Behind Closed Doors</p><p>05:18 The Lack of Financial Education</p><p>05:56 When One First Goes to a Divorce Lawyer</p><p>07:23 Men vs. Women Divorce Misconceptions</p><p>07:42 Tips for a Healthier Marriage</p><p>11:45 Advice for Newlyweds</p><p>12:56 Improving Conflict Resolution Skills</p><p>18:28 How Frum Couples Manage Money</p><p>21:07 Why Wives Should Know the Finances</p><p>24:20 Twillory</p><p>25:33 The Donors Fund</p><p>27:52 Modeling Healthy Money Habits</p><p>29:34 Being Honest About Debt With Your Spouse</p><p>31:32 Understanding Your Appetite for Risk</p><p>34:33 How to Guide an Amicable Divorce</p><p>37:24 Prenups in the Orthodox Community</p><p>40:00 What Sarah Wants Her Children to Know</p><p>41:35 When Parents Stop Financial Support</p><p>44:14 Separate Bank Accounts</p><p>48:35 Setting Up Newlyweds for Financial Success</p><p>51:05 BitBean</p><p>51:53 Colel Chabad</p><p>52:43 It Is Never Too Late</p><p>55:58 Starting Financial Education Earlier</p><p>59:03 Moving Forward Toward Peace</p><p>1:02:39 Amazing Jewish Resources</p><p>1:05:52 How Sarah Helps People</p><p>1:06:23 You Do Not Need to Recreate the Wheel</p><p>1:08:01 Why Sarah Stays Away From AI</p><p>1:09:26 Sarah’s Nonprofit Work</p><p>1:09:52 Sarah’s Book Recommendations</p><p>1:12:36 The Advantages of the Jewish Community</p><p>1:14:04 Sarah’s Remarkable Yichus</p><p>1:19:26 Thanking Sarah for Joining Us</p><p>1:19:49 Outro</p><p><br></p><ul><li>​ Learn more about Sarah’s organization: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa1lleGR6UkppVW1RMGpzLVJ5emgyWHZZdFFFUXxBQ3Jtc0trYkRsWE5hb3A1Ymk2UW9MWVFjUHlFN3FEWnVYZGFoY21oS3J1aU9XdDRkQWxOLU1hSE5ha0QtaldwYTJhUVRtWS1UVktySnc0alVlX1pyWENwOW1CUEFwRjczVWJDLXBPTmxwaFBuSGxqV1dwLWNMQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.jdacla.org%2F&v=OoiWg8wzGVY">https://www.jdacla.org/</a></li><li>​ One of Sarah's favorite books, The Anxious Generation: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbVVpNEM0dDhUemZsVVZ0c0psRnF1QXBkWWFRZ3xBQ3Jtc0ttUUFEY3VPWHZFVW1ob3JqYVduRXMtNlVNc0M4dGVCWXlkQ1VBR09HSE5qeWVNcFVFSE5CeG16VGMxUkJFYWhFUFY4ZlFzbWhkME9qdHA4T29hSE5LVldBZjVzVmVZbndrRU54Vnc0ejcwRnAzaFBRcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Famzn.to%2F4qnGOvN&v=OoiWg8wzGVY">https://amzn.to/4qnGOv</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>✬ Helpful Efforts Out in the World ✬</p><p><br></p><ul><li>​ Living Smarter Jewish brings free financial coaching to families: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbF83c3BoNEFxOTY0SVpaYkNMY3F0X0hqYTVVZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuNEY0QmhKRDlrZFFGQmVmNW1iNWxpTGdIZnYwR3lqMWNMNlY1QkRvVEpGYWgtQXBfZFViTTdxMWpsMWx0aFR4UWM0YVRnMG1QWFhNdTlldUJYT0pFT0JPeGw2NFhDR1lmMzJBY1FTcDRpRk04bDJDNA&q=https%3A%2F%2Flivingsmarterjewish.org%2F&v=OoiWg8wzGVY">https://livingsmarterjewish.org/</a></li><li>​ Kosher Debt Help – Honest, agenda-free help if you're in debt: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbldhWkExM0hOR2FobnRGdjB1aFFRNlVuTjF3Z3xBQ3Jtc0ttOGlSVnd1VmF5cUw0WlRaLTZMZ0dNTEZZNWl5YUxETTVrNXE4R2lzY3R5X1lyQ0t2d1JIUzVUaFJldDE4UC0waHQzcS04RWpiaThBQzgxUkF2cEVKSXUxYnNhMFRLNEI4ZTA2Nk1jTktlZzBwTEVQQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.kosherdebthelp.com%2F&v=OoiWg8wzGVY">https://www.kosherdebthelp.com/</a></li><li>​ Kosher ADHD – Practical guidance for families living with ADHD: <a 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