The Psychology of your 20s

Why does dancing in a crowd feel so good? What is the emotional allure of the dance floor, the club scene, the music? Today, we’re exploring the psychology of clubbing, from the physiological rush of a beat drop to the role it plays in making the most of our 20s. Watch on Netflix: HERE We discuss: How music and dance influence our mood Collective effervescence: the feeling of being part of something bigger Why clubs feel freeing for some and overwhelming for others Alcohol, inhibition and “hangxiety” Clubbing as a coming-of-age ritual FOMO, nostalgia and why our relationship with nightlife changes Happy listening! Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected] The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is a 'spark' all that it takes to be compatible in the long-term? What about sharing the same interests, personality or sense of humour? Or is it something more deep and intangible? In today’s episode, we explore what ACTUALLY makes two people right for each other, and why the things that draw us together aren’t always the things that keep us together. Watch on Netflix: HERE We discuss: Chemistry versus long-term compatibility Why shared values matter more than shared hobbies The importance of feeling understood, appreciated and responded to (i.e the Gottman's theory of responsiveness) How the belief in soulmates can shape your relationship The Four Horsemen that erode connection What an argument can reveal about your future together Whether you’re dating someone new or reflecting on a long-term relationship, this episode explores what it means to build a love that lasts, through change, conflict and the thousands of little choices we make along the way. Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected] The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why is there so much pressure for your wedding to be the best day of your life? And what happens when that pressure gets in the way of actually enjoying it? Today, we’re unpacking the psychology of weddings: the expectations, money, family dynamics and friendship tensions that come with saying “I do”. Watch on Netflix: HERE We explore: Why the “perfect wedding” can leave us feeling disappointed How weddings became such extravagant events Social media, comparison and the pressure to spend more The surprising relationship between wedding spending and divorce Why weddings can expose cracks in our friendships The psychology of elopements ... Whether you’re planning a wedding, attending your sixth this year or wondering whether to skip the whole thing, let’s talk about keeping the celebration from overshadowing the relationship. Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected] The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you really have a love language? And does learning your partner’s actually make your relationship better? In this bonus episode of our debunking psychology series, we unpack the truth behind one of the most popular ideas in modern dating. We explore: Where the five love languages came from and their religious roots The controversial advice in Gary Chapman’s original book What the research actually says about love languages and relationship satisfaction Why lasting love might need a “balanced diet” of affection Partner responsiveness and what it means to feel understood, valued and cared for Find all episodes of DEBUNKING PSYCHOLOGY: HERE Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected] The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We blush, we look away, we replay the moment for hours (or years) after it happened, becoming convinced that everyone noticed far more than they probably did. Embarrassment is an interesting and complex emotion, but it can help us recognise social expectations and communicate how our behaviour affects others. Watch on Netflix: HERE We explore: • When we first develop the capacity to feel embarrassed • Why we blush and the role of embarrassment in trust • Why some of us feel embarrassment more than others • The role of rumination • The psychological and social role of embarrassment • How we can form a better relationship with it Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s For business: [email protected] Our favourite sources: https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0025403 https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/european-psychiatry/article/not-intended-still-embarrassed-social-anxiety-is-related-to-increased-levels-of-embarrassment-in-response-to-unintentional-social-norm-violations/F4143AB3B88D41FB18F9962696A77151 https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/desc.70024 The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.