<p><strong>This is what it <em>actually</em> takes to stop caring what people think. For <em>real</em> this time.</strong></p><br><p>Every person who grew up managing the reactions of parents, partners, and strangers online knows the courtroom that forms in your head. It’s where you replay every sentence you’ve said, trying to prove that you’re <em>right </em>or somehow <em>good enough.</em> This episode examines where this mental reflex takes root and why it survives long into adulthood, often sabotaging our ability to actually <em>live</em>. Our desperate need to explain ourselves becomes a quiet and destructive addiction.</p><br><p>You’ll hear how that instinct begins in childhood environments that equated misunderstanding with danger, how it shapes adult communication and creativity, and what actually happens when we finally stop compulsively defending our reputations and negotiating our innate right to simply <em>exist</em>.</p><br><p><strong><em>✧ WANT THE FULL EPISODE? ✧</em></strong></p><br><p><em>Every week, I share these extended episodes on Patreon. If what you’ve heard here has helped or intrigued you, the full version is where the real magic happens. Your support keeps my work independent and ad-light. Support from my Patrons is&nbsp;how I fund my life and make sure what I do stays honest, unfiltered, and as&nbsp;listener-powered as possible.&nbsp;</em></p><br><p><em>Head to </em><a href="http://patreon.com/backfromtheborderline" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>patreon.com/backfromtheborderline</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong><em>to sign up today. Search the episode title and keep listening.</em></p><br><p><em>(Tip for iPhone users: sign up through Safari or Chrome to skip Apple’s extra fees.)</em></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

back from the borderline

mollie adler

how to ACTUALLY stop giving a f**k about what people think of you

DEC 11, 202523 MIN
back from the borderline

how to ACTUALLY stop giving a f**k about what people think of you

DEC 11, 202523 MIN

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<p><strong>This is what it <em>actually</em> takes to stop caring what people think. For <em>real</em> this time.</strong></p><br><p>Every person who grew up managing the reactions of parents, partners, and strangers online knows the courtroom that forms in your head. It’s where you replay every sentence you’ve said, trying to prove that you’re <em>right </em>or somehow <em>good enough.</em> This episode examines where this mental reflex takes root and why it survives long into adulthood, often sabotaging our ability to actually <em>live</em>. Our desperate need to explain ourselves becomes a quiet and destructive addiction.</p><br><p>You’ll hear how that instinct begins in childhood environments that equated misunderstanding with danger, how it shapes adult communication and creativity, and what actually happens when we finally stop compulsively defending our reputations and negotiating our innate right to simply <em>exist</em>.</p><br><p><strong><em>✧ WANT THE FULL EPISODE? ✧</em></strong></p><br><p><em>Every week, I share these extended episodes on Patreon. If what you’ve heard here has helped or intrigued you, the full version is where the real magic happens. Your support keeps my work independent and ad-light. Support from my Patrons is&nbsp;how I fund my life and make sure what I do stays honest, unfiltered, and as&nbsp;listener-powered as possible.&nbsp;</em></p><br><p><em>Head to </em><a href="http://patreon.com/backfromtheborderline" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong><em>patreon.com/backfromtheborderline</em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong><em>to sign up today. Search the episode title and keep listening.</em></p><br><p><em>(Tip for iPhone users: sign up through Safari or Chrome to skip Apple’s extra fees.)</em></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>