When you step into the role of a foster dad, an adoptive father, or a stepdad, you are entering a territory that has already experienced a structural collapse. The child under your care isn't starting from scratch; they are carrying the invisible weight of trauma, rejection, or loss.In these high-stakes dynamics, traditional 'command-and-control' parenting doesn't just fail—it can actually cause further damage. A child who has experienced trauma doesn't need a commander; they need a safe harbor. They need a father who understands the science of trauma and the delicate art of building a secure attachment. And since most of us don’t understand the science of trauma much less the art of building that secure attachment, I've brought someone on the program who does understand this well.Bonnie Butler is a specialized coach for adoptive, foster, and step-parents. Bonnie is here to give us the facts we need to know on trauma-informed parenting. She’s going to show us how to look past a child’s defensive behavior, understand the root of their fear, and deploy the specific bonding strategies that turn a house of strangers into a durable, united home.To find Bonnie's website, coaching and resources mentioned in this episode, visit: https://bonniebutlercoaching.com/To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallengeCreate your podcast today! #madeonzencastrhttps://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge