<description> &lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;This episode is part of &lt;strong&gt;The Things We Carry&lt;/strong&gt;, a solo series shaped by the themes that stay with me after the conversations on The Life Shift. &lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Today I am talking about how hard we can be on ourselves and what it means to slowly learn gentleness. So many of us move through life with old shame, perfectionism, or fear tucked inside. We push ourselves to be better, to get everything right, or to carry more than we were ever meant to hold.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;In this reflection, I talk about the critical voice we learn as kids, the pressure to be perfect, and the way self-compassion feels like a muscle we have to practice again and again. Healing is not a straight line. Some days you feel softer. Some days you slip back into old patterns. The important part is noticing the shift and remembering that you deserve the same care you give to everyone else.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;If you have been carrying shame, harshness, or impossible expectations, I hope this episode helps you take one gentler breath. You do not have to earn kindness. You are allowed to give it to yourself, right here, exactly as you are.&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;&lt;!-- notionvc: 5abbd81d-9e67-49c5-a93a-fcf44fc459d2 --&gt;&lt;/p&gt; </description>

The Life Shift

Matt Gilhooly

Learning to Be Softer With Yourself | Bonus

DEC 14, 20256 MIN
The Life Shift

Learning to Be Softer With Yourself | Bonus

DEC 14, 20256 MIN

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<p><em>This episode is part of <strong>The Things We Carry</strong>, a solo series shaped by the themes that stay with me after the conversations on The Life Shift. </em></p> <p>Today I am talking about how hard we can be on ourselves and what it means to slowly learn gentleness. So many of us move through life with old shame, perfectionism, or fear tucked inside. We push ourselves to be better, to get everything right, or to carry more than we were ever meant to hold.</p> <p>In this reflection, I talk about the critical voice we learn as kids, the pressure to be perfect, and the way self-compassion feels like a muscle we have to practice again and again. Healing is not a straight line. Some days you feel softer. Some days you slip back into old patterns. The important part is noticing the shift and remembering that you deserve the same care you give to everyone else.</p> <p>If you have been carrying shame, harshness, or impossible expectations, I hope this episode helps you take one gentler breath. You do not have to earn kindness. You are allowed to give it to yourself, right here, exactly as you are.</p> <p><!-- notionvc: 5abbd81d-9e67-49c5-a93a-fcf44fc459d2 --></p>