The hidden power of introverts: How to thrive without changing who you are | Susan Cain (author of "Quiet")

MAR 16, 202577 MIN
Lenny's Podcast: Product | Growth | Career

The hidden power of introverts: How to thrive without changing who you are | Susan Cain (author of "Quiet")

MAR 16, 202577 MIN

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<p><strong>Susan Cain</strong>, author of the groundbreaking bestseller <em>Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking</em>, shares a guide for how introverts can thrive in the workplace without sacrificing their authentic selves. Drawing from her extensive research and personal experience, Cain offers a powerful reframing: success doesn’t require becoming more extroverted—it demands becoming more fully yourself.</p><p>—</p><p><strong>What you’ll learn:</strong></p><p>1. A simple definition of introversion and how it differs from shyness—plus a simple two-question test to determine where you fall on the spectrum</p><p>2. Five practical tactics introverts can use to be more successful in business while staying true to their natural temperament</p><p>3. How to handle challenging workplace scenarios like meetings dominated by loud voices and networking events that drain your energy</p><p>4. Specific strategies for managers and founders to create environments where introverted team members can contribute their best work</p><p>5. Practical techniques for saying no to energy-draining commitments</p><p>6. Strategies for managers to better support and leverage introverted team members</p><p>7. Practical advice for raising introverted children to help them develop confidence while honoring their natural temperament</p><p>8. Why seeking to become “more extroverted” is the wrong goal—and what to focus on instead to achieve professional success</p><p>—</p><p><strong>Brought to you by:</strong></p><p>• <a target="_blank" href="https://enterpret.com/lenny">Enterpret</a>—Transform customer feedback into product growth</p><p>• <a target="_blank" href="https://vanta.com/lenny">Vanta</a>—Automate compliance. Simplify security</p><p>• <a target="_blank" href="https://www.fundrise.com/lenny">Fundrise Flagship Fund</a>—Invest in $1.1 billion of real estate</p><p>—</p><p><strong>Find the transcript at: </strong><a target="_blank" href="https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/the-hidden-power-of-introverts-susan-cain">https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/the-hidden-power-of-introverts-susan-cain</a></p><p>—</p><p><strong>Where to find Susan Cain:</strong></p><p>• X: <a target="_blank" href="https://x.com/susancain">https://x.com/susancain</a></p><p>• LinkedIn: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/susancain/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/susancain/</a></p><p>• Website: <a target="_blank" href="https://susancain.net/">https://susancain.net/</a></p><p>• Instagram: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/susancainauthor/#">https://www.instagram.com/susancainauthor/#</a></p><p>• Facebook: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.facebook.com/authorsusancain">https://www.facebook.com/authorsusancain</a></p><p>• Substack: <a target="_blank" href="https://thequietlife.net/">https://thequietlife.net/</a></p><p>—</p><p><strong>In this episode, we cover:</strong></p><p>(00:00) Introduction to Susan Cain</p><p>(05:07) Understanding introversion</p><p>(08:55) The spectrum of introversion and extroversion</p><p>(13:27) Overcoming public speaking anxiety</p><p>(17:13) Learning to embrace your introverted self</p><p>(23:16) The power of leaning into your strengths</p><p>(24:36) Strategies for introverts to thrive in their career</p><p>(34:06) The importance of saying no</p><p>(38:35) What to do instead of networking</p><p>(41:59) Effective meeting participation for introverts</p><p>(47:31) Creating a productive work environment</p><p>(51:14) Raising an introverted child</p><p>(57:58) Finding the right career fit</p><p>(01:08:09) Lightning round and final thoughts</p><p>—</p><p><strong>Referenced:</strong></p><p>• The power of introverts: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts">https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts</a></p><p>• The hidden power of sad songs and rainy days: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_and_min_kym_the_hidden_power_of_sad_songs_and_rainy_days">https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_and_min_kym_the_hidden_power_of_sad_songs_and_rainy_days</a></p><p>• Why bittersweet emotions underscore life’s beauty: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_why_bittersweet_emotions_underscore_life_s_beauty">https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_why_bittersweet_emotions_underscore_life_s_beauty</a></p><p>• Desensitization: <a target="_blank" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desensitization_(psychology)">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desensitization_(psychology)</a></p><p>• Malcolm Gladwell’s website: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.gladwellbooks.com/">https://www.gladwellbooks.com/</a></p><p>• Warren Buffett on X: <a target="_blank" href="https://x.com/warrenbuffett">https://x.com/warrenbuffett</a></p><p>• Dale Carnegie speaking courses: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.dalecarnegie.com/en/presentation-skills-public-speaking-training">https://www.dalecarnegie.com/en/presentation-skills-public-speaking-training</a></p><p>• Bill Gates on X: <a target="_blank" href="https://x.com/billgates">https://x.com/billgates</a></p><p>• Kathy Fish on LinkedIn: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathy-fish-23b5777/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathy-fish-23b5777/</a></p><p>• Why most public speaking advice is wrong—and how to finally overcome your speaking anxiety | Tristan de Montebello (CEO & co-founder of Ultraspeaking): <a target="_blank" href="https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/master-public-speaking-tristan-de-montebello">https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/master-public-speaking-tristan-de-montebello</a></p><p>• Ultraspeaking: <a target="_blank" href="https://ultraspeaking.com/lenny/">https://ultraspeaking.com/lenny/</a></p><p>• Rethinking the Extraverted Sales Ideal: The Ambivert Advantage: <a target="_blank" href="https://faculty.wharton.upenn.edu/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Grant_PsychScience2013.pdf">https://faculty.wharton.upenn.edu/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Grant_PsychScience2013.pdf</a></p><p>• Cutco: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.cutco.com/">https://www.cutco.com/</a></p><p>• Tim Ferriss’s post about his new book: <a target="_blank" href="https://x.com/tferriss/status/1878936085033791817">https://x.com/tferriss/status/1878936085033791817</a></p><p>•  Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: <a target="_blank" href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mihaly_Csikszentmihalyi">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mihaly_Csikszentmihalyi</a></p><p>• Naval on X: <a target="_blank" href="https://x.com/naval">https://x.com/naval</a></p><p>• On saying no: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/how-to-say-no">https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/how-to-say-no</a></p><p>• Susan Cain—How to Overcome Fear and Embrace Creativity: <a target="_blank" href="https://tim.blog/2019/01/24/susan-cain/">https://tim.blog/2019/01/24/susan-cain/</a></p><p>• Zigging vs. zagging: How HubSpot built a $30B company | Dharmesh Shah (co-founder/CTO): <a target="_blank" href="https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/lessons-from-30-years-of-building">https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/lessons-from-30-years-of-building</a></p><p>• Renee Wood on LinkedIn: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/recoale/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/recoale/</a></p><p>• <em>The Sopranos </em>on Max: <a target="_blank" href="https://play.max.com/show/818c3d9d-1831-48a6-9583-0364a7f98453">https://play.max.com/show/818c3d9d-1831-48a6-9583-0364a7f98453</a></p><p>• <em>The Talented Mr. Ripley</em> on Prime Video: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.primevideo.com/detail/The-Talented-Mr-Ripley/0HA0GNFQ4ZXYPDNJHQEENK2Q6Q">https://www.primevideo.com/detail/The-Talented-Mr-Ripley/0HA0GNFQ4ZXYPDNJHQEENK2Q6Q</a></p><p>• Tugboat Institute: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.tugboatinstitute.com/">https://www.tugboatinstitute.com/</a></p><p>• Leonard Cohen quote: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/4484-there-is-a-crack-in-everything-that-s-how-the-light">https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/4484-there-is-a-crack-in-everything-that-s-how-the-light</a></p><p>—</p><p><strong>Recommended books:</strong></p><p>• <em>Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking</em>: https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153</p><p>• <em>Creativity: Flow and the Psychology of Discovery and Invention</em>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.amazon.com/Creativity-Flow-Psychology-Discovery-Invention/dp/0062283251">https://www.amazon.com/Creativity-Flow-Psychology-Discovery-Invention/dp/0062283251</a></p><p>• <em>Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverted Kids</em>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Secret-Strengths-Introverted/dp/0147509920">https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Secret-Strengths-Introverted/dp/0147509920</a></p><p>• <em>Gandhi: An Autobiography—The Story of My Experiments with Truth</em>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.amazon.com/Gandhi-Autobiography-Story-Experiments-Truth/dp/0807059099">https://www.amazon.com/Gandhi-Autobiography-Story-Experiments-Truth/dp/0807059099</a></p><p><em>• Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience</em>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.amazon.com/Flow-Psychology-Experience-Perennial-Classics/dp/0061339202">https://www.amazon.com/Flow-Psychology-Experience-Perennial-Classics/dp/0061339202</a></p><p>• <em>The Power of Myth</em>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.amazon.com/Power-Myth-Joseph-Campbell/dp/0385418868/">https://www.amazon.com/Power-Myth-Joseph-Campbell/dp/0385418868/</a></p><p>• <em>Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole</em>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.amazon.com/Bittersweet-Oprahs-Book-Club-Longing/dp/0451499794">https://www.amazon.com/Bittersweet-Oprahs-Book-Club-Longing/dp/0451499794</a></p><p>• <em>Good Energy: The Surprising Connection Between Metabolism and Limitless Health</em>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.amazon.com/Good-Energy-Surprising-Connection-Metabolism/dp/0593712641">https://www.amazon.com/Good-Energy-Surprising-Connection-Metabolism/dp/0593712641</a></p><p>• <em>The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life</em>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.amazon.com/Types-Wealth-Transformative-Guide-Design/dp/059372318X">https://www.amazon.com/Types-Wealth-Transformative-Guide-Design/dp/059372318X</a></p><p>—</p><p>Production and marketing by <a target="_blank" href="https://penname.co/">https://penname.co/</a>. For inquiries about sponsoring the podcast, email <a target="_blank" href="mailto:podcast@lennyrachitsky.com">podcast@lennyrachitsky.com</a>.</p><p>—</p><p><em>Lenny may be an investor in the companies discussed.</em></p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Lenny's Newsletter at <a href="https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_4">www.lennysnewsletter.com/subscribe</a>