No Friend Like Him
<p>“There’s not a friend like the lowly Jesus, no not one, no not one.”</p><p>Maybe those words take you back to a wooden pew, a song leader waving his hand in steady rhythm, or a voice beside you that sang just a little louder than everyone else. Maybe you have never sung it. Either way, it is one of those lines that tends to stick.</p><p>When I was about six or seven, I was hooked on music. Rhythm caught me before I even understood it. I did not grow up in a family that read sheet music or played instruments, but I grew up in a house where music was always present.</p><p>Calypso would play from my dad’s old speakers. Calypso, for those unfamiliar, is a Caribbean genre rooted in storytelling, rhythm, and social commentary. It is upbeat, playful, and often humorous. Reggae would echo through the house on Saturdays while my siblings handled chores. Outside, the streets of my Caribbean town carried their own soundtrack. Music was everywhere.</p><p>I love music. But this reflection is not really about music.</p><p>It’s more so has to do with a song my dad would sing to me at any and every chance he got, and the affection behind it. It goes something like this:</p><p>“Jonny my boy, Mama send you to school to learn to read and write.</p><p>Jonny my boy, Mama send you to school to learn to spell dumpling.</p><p>D U M P L I N is not the way it goes.”</p><p>And on it would go.</p><p>No matter my mood, no matter how frustrated or tired I was, that song could pull a laugh out of me. Recently, I asked him if he made it up. Turns out it is an actual song. A whole song about spelling dumpling.</p><p>But for me, it is not about dumpling. It is about belonging.</p><p>My name is Jonathan. For as long as I can remember, my dad called me Jonnyboy. Eventually I dropped the “boy,” for more serious sounding situations. He often told me how much he loved my name, especially because of another Jonathan in Scripture. Saul’s son. David’s friend. Loyal, gentle, and selfless.</p><p>My dad admired that friendship. He admired the way Jonathan loved David.</p><p>“What does any of this have to do with faith?” you might ask.</p><p>Everything.</p><p>There was a time when my dad and I were not friends. Growing up as a preacher’s kid was not always easy. Expectations were high. Mistakes felt heavy. There were seasons of tension, arguments, even silence. At one point we stopped talking altogether. The relationship was strained in ways that hurt both of us.</p><p>By God’s grace, it did not stay that way.</p><p>Today, my dad relies on me in ways that give me purpose. We talk. We laugh. We serve. We have become friends. Not just father and son. Actual friends.</p><p>I know not every story ends that way. Restoration is not always mutual. But when it happens, it feels like grace with skin on.</p><p>And that is what brings me back to the hymn.</p><p>“There’s not a friend like the lowly Jesus.”</p><p>On a day when relationships of all kinds are celebrated, it feels right to talk about the Friend who never withdraws, never grows cold, and never keeps score.</p><p>Let me offer three reasons why.</p><p><strong>1. Jesus Is the Friend Who Moves Toward Us</strong></p><p><strong>Romans 5:8 </strong>says, “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”</p><p>Notice the direction of that love. It moves toward us. Not after we fix ourselves. Not after we prove ourselves. While we were still sinners.</p><p>And in <strong>John 15:13,</strong> Jesus says, “Greater love has no one than this, that a person will lay down his life for his friends.”</p><p>He does not speak in theory. He speaks in certainty. He lays down His life.</p><p>Human friendships sometimes fracture. Pride steps in. Silence grows. Distance becomes normal. But Jesus steps toward the broken version of us. He does not wait at a distance for improvement. He enters the mess.</p><p>That should stir something in us. Gratitude, yes. But also surrender.</p><p><strong>2. Jesus Is the Friend Who Stays</strong></p><p><strong>Proverbs 18:24</strong> says, “A man of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”</p><p>Many have experienced the first half of that verse. Plenty of acquaintances. Few who stay.</p><p><strong>Hebrews 13:5</strong> records the promise of God: “I will never desert you, nor will I ever abandon you.”</p><p>Never is a strong word.</p><p>Jesus does not leave us on read, send our calls to voicemail, or ghost us after a first interaction. He does not withdraw when disappointed. He does not give up when progress is slow. When earthly relationships feel uncertain, He remains steady.</p><p>That steadiness invites trust. It also calls for faithfulness in return. A friendship with Jesus is not casual. It’s covenantal.</p><p><strong>3. Jesus Is the Friend Who Transforms</strong></p><p>A good friend comforts. A great friend shapes.</p><p><strong>Proverbs 27:17</strong> says, “Iron sharpens iron, So one person sharpens another.”</p><p>True friendship changes us. It refines us.</p><p><strong>Second Corinthians 5:17</strong> reminds us, “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, this person is a new creation; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.”</p><p>Jesus does not just soothe. He renews. He does not simply sit with us in our brokenness. He leads us out of it.</p><p>That kind of friendship requires openness. It requires humility. It requires obedience.</p><p>But it leads to life.</p><p>When I think about my dad singing that silly song, I realize something. The reason it settles me is not because of the melody. It is because of the relationship behind it. The history. The restoration. The love that survived strain.</p><p>Multiply that by eternity, and you begin to glimpse the friendship of Christ.</p><p>There is not a friend like the lowly Jesus. No not one.</p><p>If distance has grown between you and Him, take a step back. Not in shame, but in honesty. Speak to Him. Open the Scriptures. Return to prayer. Friendship grows where attention goes.</p><p>And if you already walk with Him, treasure that relationship. Feed it. Guard it. Let it shape every other relationship in your life.</p><p>Because long after the songs fade and the seasons shift, this truth remains steady.</p><p>There is not a friend like Him.</p><p>As I close, let me say this.</p><p>If this space has encouraged you, if these words have helped you think more deeply about your walk with Jesus, then thank you for being here. Preparing these pieces takes time and intention. It’s a labor of love.</p><p>My heart with this work has always been simple. Help people draw closer to Christ. Help restore what may be strained. Help strengthen what is already steady.</p><p>If you believe in that mission and would like to support it in a practical way, I have a “<strong>Buy Me a Coffee</strong>” link available. It is simply a way to help sustain the time, tools, and resources that go into this. There is no pressure and no expectation.</p><p>If you are moved to give, thank you. If you are not in a place to do so, your prayers and your continued reading mean more than you know.</p><p>Either way, let us stay close to the Friend who never walks away.</p><p>And let us keep walking with Him, together.</p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Journey With Jesus at <a href="https://singhjonathan78.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4">singhjonathan78.substack.com/subscribe</a>