What is a Good Life? #158 | Finding Self-Love Beyond AchievementWhere do you belong? How do you best use your gifts?These questions have followed Alan Wilson throughout his life—from childhood football pitches to corporate boardrooms. In this deeply honest conversation, Alan shares his journey from seeking external validation to cultivating self-love, exploring how grief, self-inquiry, and simple presence have reshaped his understanding of a good life.Alan Wilson is a Director of People & Operations and qualified coach with 17+ years in senior leadership roles. He supports leaders and organisations navigating change by combining commercial insight with a deeply human approach—focused on self-awareness, integrity, and sustainable performance.In this episode:The childhood patterns behind our adult strugglesWhy achievement never feels like enoughFinding centre in an increasingly distracted worldHow children guide us back to presenceWhy self-love transforms leadershipThe agency we have despite feeling disempoweredThis conversation is for anyone questioning whether they're enough, struggling with validation, or wondering if there's more to life than the next achievement.For more of Alan's work:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alan-wilson-084b3324/For more from Mark McCartney:Newsletter: https://www.whatisagood.life/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-mccartney-14b0161b4/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@whatisagoodlife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markcmccartney/ 00:00 - Where Do I Belong? 05:23 - The Validation Trap 10:47 - Self-Inquiry and Grief 16:12 - Moments That Allow Breathing 21:35 - Toxicity and Modern Life 27:43 - Children as Our Compass 33:21 - Beyond Material Accumulation 38:45 - Dismantling the Armour 44:02 - Agency in a Disempowered World 49:18 - Transmitting Our Gifts Daily 54:31 - A Life That's Evolving