<p><strong>You’re clear on what you want, so why aren’t you getting it?</strong></p><p>There’s a painful in-between many of us find ourselves in: knowing what we want, and still not receiving it.</p><p>In this episode of <em>Codependency Alchemy</em>, I revisit a simple but powerful analogy <strong>(we’re going to the ice cream shop)</strong> to explore why clarity alone isn’t always enough, and how settling for what doesn’t truly align can keep us stuck in relationships, jobs, or situations that drain us.</p><p>This is a conversation about discernment, self-trust, and learning how to stop accepting “vanilla” when your body is asking for chocolate.</p><p><strong>What you’ll learn in this episode…</strong></p><p>* Why knowing what you want doesn’t always lead to getting it</p><p>* How settling sends mixed signals to yourself (and the Universe)</p><p>* Why impatience and unworthiness keep us stuck</p><p>* How to stop accepting what you don’t actually want</p><p><strong>This episode is for you if…</strong></p><p>* You’re clear on what you want but keep getting something else</p><p>* You struggle with settling out of fear or impatience</p><p>* You’re practicing discernment in relationships or work</p><p>* You’re healing codependency or the mother wound</p><p><strong>Your invitation…</strong></p><p>I invite you to think about what your “chocolate ice cream” is. You might consider this as the type of relationship, job, or home you wish to have.</p><p><em>What is your chocolate ice cream?</em></p><p>Remember, try to get as specific as you can. Ask yourself:</p><p><em>How do I desire to feel? What do I value? In a relationship? In a job? In a home?</em></p><p>If this episode resonates, you’re invited to continue these conversations inside the <strong>Codependency Alchemy membership— </strong>a space where we practice witnessing the parts of us we neglect, or reject, building safety in our bodies through nervous system and somatic work, and generational healing together.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe"><strong>Click here to join or learn more</strong></a></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe"><strong>Subscribe over on Substack</strong></a></p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe</a>