<description>&lt;p&gt;A year ago today, Justin and I got kicked off a flight, and what could have been a total meltdown moment turned into one of the biggest relationship lessons of my life. Over pints in the Amsterdam airport, I realized I’d been carrying the same fear in new clothing and it was quietly robbing me of experiencing the love I already had in my relationship.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode, I share the full story and the mind-shattering epiphany that cracked me open: why trying to control your partner’s future resentment (or cheating, or rejection) only keeps you stuck, and how softening, trusting, and letting yourself be supported can actually transform your relationship.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;This episode is for you if:&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;* You find yourself bracing for impact instead of enjoying the present.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;* Money, resentment, or “what if” fears creep into your love life.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;* You tend to control, fix, or over-function to feel safe.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;* You’re ready to experience what happens when you &lt;em&gt;stop gripping&lt;/em&gt; and let yourself be held.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This isn’t just a travel story, it’s how you can stop letting fear control your relationship and finally feel the safety and joy you’ve been craving.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;🌟 &lt;strong&gt;Special Podcast Listener Offer: &lt;/strong&gt;Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ &lt;a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe?coupon=e2515b45"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Click here to claim your discount and join now!&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;💬 &lt;strong&gt;Get Community Support: &lt;/strong&gt;Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → &lt;a target="_blank" href="https://substack.com/chat/1827598"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Join the chat&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;✨ &lt;strong&gt;Free Shadow Work &amp; Inner Child Guide: &lt;/strong&gt;Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ &lt;a target="_blank" href="https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/alyssaaazander_funnel_364549"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Download my FREE guide&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;🎥 &lt;strong&gt;Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: &lt;/strong&gt;Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → &lt;a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/s/masterclasses"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Exclusive Masterclass Library&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;✍🏾 &lt;strong&gt;From My Journal: &lt;/strong&gt;Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ &lt;a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/s/from-my-journal"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Read my latest journal entries&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;💎 &lt;strong&gt;Explore "The Gems": &lt;/strong&gt;Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → &lt;a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/s/resources"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Get your free resources here&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;br/&gt;&lt;br/&gt;This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit &lt;a href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&amp;#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2"&gt;alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe&lt;/a&gt;</description>

Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

Alyssa Zander

The fear that almost ruined my relationship (and the lesson that saved it)

OCT 1, 202522 MIN
Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

The fear that almost ruined my relationship (and the lesson that saved it)

OCT 1, 202522 MIN

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<p>A year ago today, Justin and I got kicked off a flight, and what could have been a total meltdown moment turned into one of the biggest relationship lessons of my life. Over pints in the Amsterdam airport, I realized I’d been carrying the same fear in new clothing and it was quietly robbing me of experiencing the love I already had in my relationship.</p><p>In this episode, I share the full story and the mind-shattering epiphany that cracked me open: why trying to control your partner’s future resentment (or cheating, or rejection) only keeps you stuck, and how softening, trusting, and letting yourself be supported can actually transform your relationship.</p><p><strong>This episode is for you if:</strong></p><p>* You find yourself bracing for impact instead of enjoying the present.</p><p>* Money, resentment, or “what if” fears creep into your love life.</p><p>* You tend to control, fix, or over-function to feel safe.</p><p>* You’re ready to experience what happens when you <em>stop gripping</em> and let yourself be held.</p><p>This isn’t just a travel story, it’s how you can stop letting fear control your relationship and finally feel the safety and joy you’ve been craving.</p><p>🌟 <strong>Special Podcast Listener Offer: </strong>Join the Codependency Alchemy Membership today and get 40% off!→ <a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe?coupon=e2515b45"><em>Click here to claim your discount and join now!</em></a></p><p>💬 <strong>Get Community Support: </strong>Join our vibrant, supportive chat community and get real-time guidance on your healing journey. → <a target="_blank" href="https://substack.com/chat/1827598"><em>Join the chat</em></a></p><p>✨ <strong>Free Shadow Work & Inner Child Guide: </strong>Ready to deepen your healing with a step-by-step guide?→ <a target="_blank" href="https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/alyssaaazander_funnel_364549"><em>Download my FREE guide</em></a></p><p>🎥 <strong>Watch 9+ Powerful Masterclasses: </strong>Access practical tools, guided exercises, and transformative teachings to help you heal codependency and build healthier relationships. → <a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/s/masterclasses"><em>Exclusive Masterclass Library</em></a></p><p>✍🏾 <strong>From My Journal: </strong>Intimate insights and reflections directly from my personal healing journey.→ <a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/s/from-my-journal"><em>Read my latest journal entries</em></a></p><p>💎 <strong>Explore "The Gems": </strong>Browse curated free resources filled with practical wisdom and actionable insights designed to support your growth and healing. → <a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/s/resources"><em>Get your free resources here</em></a></p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe</a>