<p>Why do we create conflict when life is actually going well?</p><p>In this episode of <em>Codependency Alchemy</em>, I unpack the “upper limit problem” — the unconscious pattern of sabotaging joy, abundance, and peace when they start to feel unfamiliar.</p><p>I share a real story of catching myself mid-spiral after an expansive workshop and the simple question that stopped me from creating unnecessary conflict.</p><p><strong>In this episode, we explore:</strong></p><p>- Why arguments aren’t really about the dishes</p><p>- How worry turns into criticism</p><p>- The 4 core fears that drive self-sabotage</p><p>- Why peace can feel unsafe to a dysregulated nervous system</p><p>- How to self-soothe instead of outsourcing reassurance</p><p><strong>Your invitation…</strong></p><p>The next time you feel the urge to criticize, argue, or spiral, ask yourself:</p><p><em>What happened right before this?</em></p><p>If this episode resonates, you’re invited into the <em>Codependency Alchemy</em> membership, where we practice this work in real time through daily prompts, reflections, and support as you grow your capacity for joy, safety, and self-trust.</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe"><strong>Click here to upgrade and join the membership.</strong></a></p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe</a>