Black women have been visible for a long time. In culture. In labor. In struggle. In the room. And yet visibility alone has never been enough to guarantee protection, resources, or rest.In this episode, Kianti gets into it. A recent headline sparked a bigger conversation about what it actually costs Black women to choose themselves, and whether that choice is even equally available to all of us. Spoiler: Kianti had feelings. A lot of them.We're talking about the difference between taking up space and having the infrastructure to do it, the impossible standard Black women are held to no matter what they choose, and why being seen has never automatically meant being supported.This one is personal, a little spicy, and very much a kitchen table conversation.In this episode:The headline that started it all — and what it really stirred upVisibility without protection: a pattern as old as usThe double standard that never seems to go awayWhat "choosing yourself" actually requires  and who gets to do it freelyA real talk about rest, permission, and the price we pay either wayKianti also shared how much she LOVED Kristen Berry's novel, "We Don't Talk About Carol."  Check out the link to purchase here.Instagram @BlackGirlsBonding