The Feminist Mom Podcast
The Feminist Mom Podcast

The Feminist Mom Podcast

Erin Spahr

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Weekly conversations about motherhood from a feminist lens, including how to raise children while fighting the patriarchy. Hosted by Erin Spahr, licensed therapist, feminist and mother of two. Follow Erin on Instagram: @feminist.mom.therapist

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Money, Motherhood, and Power with Jillian Knight
MAY 20, 2025
Money, Motherhood, and Power with Jillian Knight
<p>In this episode of <strong><em>The Feminist Mom Podcast</em></strong>, Erin sits down with <a target="_blank" href="https://www.herfinancialtherapy.com/"><strong>Jillian Knight, LMFT</strong></a>, a financial therapist specializing in feminist and trauma-informed care, to discuss the emotional and relational complexities of money—especially for women and mothers. They explore how financial stress intersects with caregiving, gender roles, and systemic oppression, offering a compassionate lens on how to unlearn the money stories we've been handed and build healthier, values-aligned relationships with money.</p><p>In this conversation, Erin and Jillian delve into how social conditioning and systemic forces shape women's financial beliefs and behaviors—from scarcity mindsets to shame around spending. They examine how motherhood can intensify financial anxiety and emotional labor, especially within heterosexual partnerships where caregiving and income often remain imbalanced. Together, they unpack the unspoken financial power dynamics that emerge in relationships, the importance of transparency, and how healing your relationship with money can be a powerful feminist act.</p><p><strong>Jillian Knight</strong> is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Financial Therapist based in Raleigh, NC. She helps women and couples move from financial stress to empowerment by combining systemic therapy with financial education. Jillian brings a feminist, anti-oppressive approach to her work, creating inclusive spaces where clients can align their financial lives with their values and rewrite inherited narratives around money and worth.</p><p>This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt anxious about money, avoided financial conversations with their partner, or wondered how societal expectations around gender, caregiving, and class shape their financial decisions. You’ll walk away with fresh insight—and a few practical tools—for reimagining your relationship with money through a feminist lens.</p><p><strong>Learn more about Jillian Knight and her work:</strong></p><p>Website: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.herfinancialtherapy.com/">https://www.herfinancialtherapy.com/</a></p><p>Instagram:<a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/herfinancialtherapy"> @herfinancialtherapy</a></p><p><strong>Connect with Erin:</strong></p><p>Instagram:<a target="_blank" href="https://instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist"> instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist</a></p><p>Website:<a target="_blank" href="https://www.erinspahrtherapy.com"> www.erinspahrtherapy.com</a></p><p>Substack:<a target="_blank" href="https://erinspahr.substack.com/subscribe"> erinspahr.substack.com/subscribe</a></p><p><strong>Subscribe & Review:</strong></p><p>Love what you’re hearing? Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast to help us reach more listeners like you!</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://erinspahr.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_1">erinspahr.substack.com</a>
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44 MIN
Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women’s Lives with Dr. Jessica Zucker
APR 15, 2025
Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women’s Lives with Dr. Jessica Zucker
<p><p>Just tell me what to do is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.</p></p><p></p><p><strong>In this episode of The Feminist Mom Podcast</strong>, Erin sits down with <a target="_blank" href="https://www.drjessicazucker.com/"><strong>Dr. Jessica Zucker</strong></a>, a psychologist and writer specializing in reproductive health, to talk about her new book <a target="_blank" href="https://www.drjessicazucker.com/normalize-it"><em>Normalize It: Upending the Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women’s Lives</em></a>. Together, they explore how shame and cultural silence shape women’s experiences—from miscarriage to menopause to aging and identity.</p><p>In this conversation, Erin and Jessica discuss the ways storytelling can break the cycles of shame that often accompany womanhood. Jessica shares her own experience with miscarriage and how it reshaped her understanding of women’s mental health. They talk about societal pressures around perfectionism, beauty, and the expectations placed on mothers—and how healing begins when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, human, and imperfect.</p><p>This episode also dives into the deeper themes of aging, intersectionality, and how we can create safe spaces for authenticity and connection. It’s a powerful call for cultural change—and a reminder that we’re not alone.</p><p><strong>Dr. Jessica Zucker</strong> is a Los Angeles-based psychologist specializing in reproductive health and the author of the award-winning book <a target="_blank" href="https://www.drjessicazucker.com/i-had-a-miscarriage"><em>I Had a Miscarriage: A Memoir, a Movement</em></a>. She’s the creator of the viral #IHadaMiscarriage campaign and her work has appeared in <em>The New York Times</em>, <em>The Washington Post</em>, <em>Vogue</em>, <em>New York Magazine</em>, <em>Harvard Business Review</em>, and more. Her latest book, <em>Normalize It</em>, is available now.</p><p><strong>Learn more about Dr. Jessica Zucker and her work:</strong></p><p>Website:<a target="_blank" href="https://drjessicazucker.com"> drjessicazucker.com</a>Instagram:<a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/ihadamiscarriage"> @ihadamiscarriage</a>Purchase <em>Normalize It</em>: <a target="_blank" href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/1683738144">Amazon</a> <a target="_blank" href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/normalize-it-upending-the-silence-stigma-and-shame-that-shape-women-s-lives/7bTd5Tpai2fwDAW9?ean=9781683738145&#38;next=t&#38;">Bookshop.org</a></p><p><strong>Connect with Erin:</strong></p><p>Instagram:<a target="_blank" href="https://instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist"> instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist</a>Website:<a target="_blank" href="https://www.erinspahrtherapy.com"> www.erinspahrtherapy.com</a>Substack:<a target="_blank" href="https://erinspahr.substack.com/subscribe"> erinspahr.substack.com/subscribe</a></p><p><strong>Subscribe & Review:</strong></p><p>Love what you’re hearing? Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast to help us reach more listeners like you!</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://erinspahr.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_1">erinspahr.substack.com</a>
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41 MIN
Navigating Neurodivergence Postpartum with Tiff D'Amico
MAR 11, 2025
Navigating Neurodivergence Postpartum with Tiff D'Amico
<p>In this <strong>bonus episode</strong> of the <em>Feminist Mom Podcast</em>, Erin sits down with <a href="https://www.tiffdee.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Tiff D’Amico</strong></a>, a certified Perinatal Mental Health Specialist, birth worker, and educator, to discuss the unique challenges of motherhood and postpartum for neurodivergent moms. Tiff shares her personal journey through loss, motherhood, and her late diagnoses of ADHD and autism, diving into how these experiences shaped her approach to parenting and mental health. Erin and Tiff cover:</p><ul><li><p>The emotional and mental load of postpartum for neurodivergent moms</p></li><li><p>How late diagnoses of ADHD and autism impact parenting and self-understanding</p></li><li><p>The importance of building a support system that <em>actually</em> meets your needs</p></li><li><p>Why mainstream postpartum advice often falls short for neurodivergent moms</p></li><li><p>How to approach postpartum planning in a way that prevents burnout and overwhelm</p></li><li><p>The cultural shifts happening around neurodiversity and motherhood</p><p><br/></p></li></ul><p><a href="https://www.tiffdee.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Tiff D’Amico</strong></a> is a certified Perinatal Mental Health Specialist, birthworker, and educator based in South Jersey. She’s the founder of <em>NeuroSPICY Postpartum</em>, where she helps neurodivergent moms avoid or conquer postpartum anxiety, rage, and burnout through personalized support. Whether through strategic postpartum planning, placenta encapsulation, or hands-on help, Tiff is passionate about giving moms the tools to take control of their mental health in motherhood. She believes women have more power than we’ve been led to believe when it comes to preventing PMADs—and she’s here to help you claim it.</p><p><br/></p><p>Read Tiff’s blog post: <a href="https://www.inclusiveproviders.com/articles/navigating-the-perinatal-period-as-a-neurodivergent-mom" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Navigating the Perinatal Period as a Neurodivergent Mom</a></p><p>Mentioned in the episode:</p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.minnadubin.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Minna Dubin</a> helped normalize discussions around rage in motherhood. Listen to her episode <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mom-rage-with-minna-dubin/id1705590101?i=1000630012425" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/nightbitch-rachel-yoder/15520119" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Nightbitch</a> by Rachel Yoder, also recently made into a <a href="https://www.searchlightpictures.com/nightbitch" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">film</a> staring Amy Adams</p></li></ul><p>Learn more about Tiff: <a href="https://www.tiffdee.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tiffdee.com/</a></p><p><a href="https://www.inclusiveproviders.com/directory?overlay=266dae64-197e-4fd8-a1bb-541d1661aaed" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Work with Tiff D’Amico </a></p><p>Follow Tiff on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/theplacentagirl" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.instagram.com/theplacentagirl</a></p><p><br/></p><p>Follow Erin on Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a></p><p>Learn more about Erin: <a href="http://www.erinspahrtherapy.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.erinspahrtherapy.com</a></p><p>Podcast Website: <a href="http://www.feministmompodcast.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.feministmompodcast.com</a></p><p>Subscribe &amp; Review:Love what you’re hearing? Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast to help us reach more listeners like you! Support the podcast with a monthly donation:<a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/feministmompodcast/support" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/feministmompodcast/support⁠⁠⁠⁠</a></p><p><br/></p><p>Introducing the <a href="https://www.inclusiveproviders.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Inclusive Provider Directory</a>! It is free for families to search. Providers can become a member and create a profile, as well as accessing a number of additional benefits. </p><p><br/></p><p>Please note: The information provided on this podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The content shared here is not intended to be professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. This page may contain affiliate links. </p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://erinspahr.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_1">erinspahr.substack.com</a>
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48 MIN
Reproductive Rights and Mental Health with Dr. Carissa Gustafson
FEB 25, 2025
Reproductive Rights and Mental Health with Dr. Carissa Gustafson
<p>In this <strong>bonus episode</strong> of the <em>Feminist Mom Podcast</em>, we’re diving into a critical and urgent conversation at the intersection of <strong>reproductive rights and mental health</strong>—a topic that has only become more pressing in the aftermath of the Supreme Court’s decision to overturn <em>Roe v. Wade</em>. Joining me is <strong>Dr. Carissa Gustafson, PMH-C</strong>, a clinical psychologist and expert in maternal mental health, to explore:</p><ul> <li><p>The <strong>mental health toll</strong> of losing reproductive autonomy</p></li> <li><p>How <strong>therapy can empower women</strong> to advocate for their rights</p></li> <li><p>The role of <strong>cultural narratives and systemic oppression</strong> in shaping our experiences of motherhood and reproductive healthcare</p></li> <li><p>Why <strong>reclaiming anger</strong> is a valid and necessary response to oppression</p></li></ul><p>Dr. Gustafson also shares her own insights and experiences, offering a powerful perspective on why reproductive choice is essential for women’s well-being.</p><p><br/></p><p>Dr. Carissa Gustafson, PMH-C, is a clinical psychologist and author of <a href="https://www.drcarissagustafson.com/post/what-is-acceptance-and-commitment-therapy-act"><em>Reclaim Your Life: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy in 7 Weeks</em></a><em>.</em> Based in Los Angeles, she specializes in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), helping people develop mindfulness and self-compassion skills to navigate difficult emotions. Dr. Gustafson has a special interest in supporting high-achieving women through stress, anxiety, depression, and perinatal mental health challenges. She sees clients through <a href="https://www.heartshipcounseling.com/"><u>Heartship Psychological Services at Village Birth</u></a>.</p><p><br/></p><p>Read Dr. Carissa Gustafson’s <a href="https://www.inclusiveproviders.com/articles/tailored-stress-management-for-caregivers-finding-balance-amidst-the-demands-of-domestic-caregiving-97sw7"><u>blog post</u></a> on the <a href="http://www.inclusiveproviders.com"><u>Inclusive Provider Directory</u></a>. </p><p>Mentioned in the episode</p><ul> <li><p><a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/self-compassion-the-proven-power-of-being-kind-to-yourself-kristin-neff/9006877?ean=9780061733529&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAzvC9BhADEiwAEhtlN1EM7-3HjDYzjl3_Q5ZpuN5VuBJgvxMqjGIsev2FdLS3aUn6h6giKhoCHKcQAvD_BwE"><u>Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff</u></a></p></li> <li><p><a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/real-self-care-a-transformative-program-for-redefining-wellness-crystals-cleanses-and-bubble-baths-not-included-pooja-lakshmin/18564150?ean=9780593489727&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAzvC9BhADEiwAEhtlNyWm19W8ZI5SErDa90bkH8xLx1HrGAGtDBbD6SZFLFLEFa9J4uOOehoCiTQQAvD_BwE"><u>Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness by Dr. Pooja Lakshmin</u></a></p></li> <li><p><a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/screaming-on-the-inside-the-unsustainability-of-american-motherhood-jessica-grose/18321443"><u>Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood by Jessica Grose</u></a></p></li></ul><p><br/></p><p>Register for the webinar cosponsored with <a href="https://exhaleprovoice.org/"><u>Exhale Pro-Voice</u></a>: <a href="https://www.classy.org/event/understanding-abortion-stigma-and-providing-compassionate-support/e663620"><u>“Understanding Abortion Stigma &amp; Providing Compassionate Support” Friday, March 14th, 2025 | 12-1pm ET</u></a></p><p><br/></p><p><a href="https://www.inclusiveproviders.com/directory?overlay=d93cafa6-70cb-4081-89ac-4a216d53deb7"><u>Work with Dr. Carissa Gustafson </u></a></p><p>Follow Dr. Gustafson on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/dr.carissagustafson/"><u>https://www.instagram.com/dr.carissagustafson/</u></a></p><p><br/></p><p>Follow Erin on Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist"><u>⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</u></a></p><p>Learn more about Erin: <a href="http://www.erinspahrtherapy.com"><u>www.erinspahrtherapy.com</u></a></p><p>Podcast Website: <a href="http://www.feministmompodcast.com"><u>www.feministmompodcast.com</u></a><br/></p><p><br/></p><p>Subscribe &amp; Review:Love what you’re hearing? Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast to help us reach more listeners like you! Support the podcast with a monthly donation:<a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/feministmompodcast/support"><u>⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/feministmompodcast/support⁠⁠⁠⁠</u></a></p><p>Introducing the <a href="https://www.inclusiveproviders.com/"><u>Inclusive Provider Directory</u></a>! It is free for families to search. Providers can become a member and create a profile, as well as accessing a number of additional benefits. </p><p>Please note: The information provided on this podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The content shared here is not intended to be professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. This page may contain affiliate links. </p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://erinspahr.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_1">erinspahr.substack.com</a>
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43 MIN
Faux Feminism with Dr. Serene Khader
FEB 4, 2025
Faux Feminism with Dr. Serene Khader
<p>In this episode of <em>The Feminist Mom Podcast</em>, Erin sits down with <a href="https://www.serenekhader.com/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Dr. Serene Khader</a> where they discusses her book “<a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/739145/faux-feminism-by-serene-khader/" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">Faux Feminism: Why We Fall for White Feminism and How We Can Stop</a>” and explores the intersections of feminism and motherhood, particularly in the context of the pandemic.</p><br/><p>In this conversation, Erin and Serene discuss the evolution of childcare awareness and the impact of the pandemic on caregiving. They explore the historical context of feminism and childcare, the need for flexible childcare solutions, and the burden of intensive parenting. The discussion also highlights the overutilization of women's labor and the changing gender dynamics in feminism, emphasizing the importance of men's involvement in the movement.</p><br/><p>Dr. Serene Khader is a writer, philosopher, and feminist thinker whose new book, Faux Feminism: Why We Fall for White Feminism and How We Can Stop, takes a hard look at how mainstream feminism often focuses too much on individual success instead of real, collective change. She’s a professor at Brooklyn College and the CUNY Graduate Center, and she has a lot to say about the ways feminism and motherhood intersect—especially after the pandemic.</p><br/><p>Learn more about Dr. Serene Khader and her work at<a href="https://www.nancyreddy.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://www.serenekhader.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.serenekhader.com/</a></p><br/><p>Follow Serene on Bluesky: <a href="https://bsky.app/profile/serenekhader.bsky.social" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://bsky.app/profile/serenekhader.bsky.social</a></p><br/><p>Purchase Faux Feminism <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/739145/faux-feminism-by-serene-khader/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here.</a></p><br/><p><br/></p><br/><p>Follow Erin on Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/feminist.mom.therapist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a></p><br/><p>Learn more about Erin: <a href="http://www.erinspahrtherapy.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.erinspahrtherapy.com</a></p><br/><p>Podcast Website: <a href="http://www.feministmompodcast.com" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.feministmompodcast.com</a></p><br/><p><br/></p><br/><p>Subscribe &amp; Review: Love what you’re hearing? Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast to help us reach more listeners like you! Support the podcast with a monthly donation:<a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/feministmompodcast/support" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/feministmompodcast/support⁠⁠⁠⁠</a></p><br/><p>Introducing the <a href="https://www.inclusiveproviders.com/" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Inclusive Provider Directory</a>! It is free for families to search. Providers can become a member and create a profile, as well as accessing a number of additional benefits. </p><br/><p><br/></p><br/><p>Please note: The information provided on this podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The content shared here is not intended to be professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. This page may contain affiliate links. </p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://erinspahr.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_1">erinspahr.substack.com</a>
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54 MIN